Someone WhatsApping before 8am

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I've possibly irrational rage about this and rather than put up a passive aggressive rant on Facebook for them to see (which to be fair I would never do, but that's how angry I feel) I want to ask if Iabu..

My first day off work this year. I do turn my notifications off on my phone but because I normally get my work stuff coming through at 6am I have it set to turn off between 10 and 6. My phone obviously doesnt realise its bank holiday and not a normal friday and I didnt think to change it (forgot to).

Had a beer last night and was looking forward to a lie in but got a what'Sapp around 7.45am from someone I know and friendly with but haven't spoken to in over a year. No engagement just a link to a justgiving page for a sponsored run. It kicked off my phone notification which in turn starts my Garmin watch vibrating.

I'm not a person who can sleep once woken up and feel sad that my lie in was ruined (I wont get another over the weekend).

Is this horrendous boundaries? I've currently a sponsorship thing myself but wouldnt dream of messaging people a link. I put it in my newsfeed for people to ignore lol. This bloke has never sponsored me.

They've not said hello, how are you or anything. Just a link to their fundraiser in my WhatsApp at 7.45 on a bank holiday.

I'm prepared to be told I'm unreasonable. I personally wouldn't have minded if it was after 9am.

@Sometimeswinning

^^Nonsense The sender sends at their convenience and the recipient reads it at theirs!^^

Do you understand etiquette? I could call someone at 2am at my convenience and the receiver could choose to answer it if they wish. Wouldnt make it any less rude and thoughtless to call.

Are you aware its 2020 ?

Calls and messages are not the same thing. If you call someone you expect to talk to them at that moment, sending a message indicates you expect them to read it when it suits them - because you expect them to know how to use their phone and turn notifications off or put it in flight mode. This is reasonable.

It is up to you to set your phone to silent or off

The sending you a link to pick your pocket after no contact for so long is rude but is a different issue to the disturbance thing. It is down to you to ensure your phone doesn’t disturb you when you don’t want it to.

yabu to not have your phone on silent.
not the sender's fault

Put your phone on silent lol. It's your responsibility to make sure you can't be disturbed by your phone if you want a lie in. Goodness if I cracked up at every message I got at an anti social hour I'd be a raving psycho.

@Macncheeseballs

I hate phones in bedrooms

Yes! People say 'I use it as an alarm' - how about an alarm clock?? Some people might resist the urge to look at it during the night; most won't and, for those with kids, it sets a very bad example. I leave mine downstairs for charging. If I have an early night, reading, it sometimes means I'm away from my phone for 2 hours of my waking hours in the evening and all night. The more 'breaks' we can have from those things, the better.

YAB a bit U, but understandably so. I would have been raging to be woken for that shit.

Yanbu I think people should be more considerate about what time they send messages. Not everyone can just put their phone on silent/out of earshot incase of emergency, or sometimes you might just forget to put it on silent. I don’t see why they can’t just wait until a reasonable hour to message.

I'm actually shocked at how few people leave their phone in thier bedrooms and 'oooh, x.y.z.no choice!'.

2012 - dad dying, mother dementia. Still was never woken by shite. I was late 40s at the time, age is no excuse.

Having whatsapp notifications enabled at all, let alone overnight is totally on you, OP, and I'm very surprised it hasn't tripped you up before.

@partyattheplace

Are you aware its 2020 ?

Nope!

[quote Sometimeswinning]@partyattheplace

Are you aware its 2020 ?

Nope![/quote]

I am in a whatsapp group where the first person up send a good morning voice note everyday. Yesterday's was sent at 645am. Half of the group were asleep, presumably with their phones on silent

Btw I use my phone as an alarm and it's pretty much permanently on silent. It still works.

Yanbu I think people should be more considerate about what time they send messages. Not everyone can just put their phone on silent/out of earshot incase of emergency, or sometimes you might just forget to put it on silent
You don't even have to put your phone on silent or stop emergency calls from family getting through.
From 23:00hrs until 08:00hrs my phone automatically goes in to do not disturb mode except for mum dad brother and sister kids and a couple of close friends.
Emergency calls get through and the shite gets held back and ill read that when I'm ready without having to think about it.
As for 'people should think about what time they send messages' one person's good time is another person's bad time. Someday I will be in bed asleep at 2 o'clock in the afternoon until 19:00hrs. Annoying messages sent at that time would piss me off and wake me up!
As I said earlier a lot jf people including myself see messages like letters, to be picked up when you are ready to read them