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Neighbour's afternoon nap

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hollytrees25 · 27/03/2021 16:44

Hi, we are a family of 4, two DS under 10. We live in a small semi, next door lives a lady, 66, by herself. We get on quite well. Till recently she complained she got woken up from her afternoon naps by the boys. She has nap everyday 2-5pm. Apparently her bedroom is at the front of the house facing front garden on ground floor.

Last week after school the boys' friend down the road came to play with a basketball. Two of them patted and bounced the ball on our drive. This must be quite loud and woke her up from her nap.

She came out to tell me that my son's friend played basketball on the drive and woke her up, (ie not my boys but their friend, think she was being nice) when I got home from work that day. I said sorry I will ask them not to bounce the ball.

This afternoon was good weather the friend came around with the basketball again, I asked the boys to play on the green across the road, they did, but got carried away and the friend bounced the ball on the street a few times, opposite the house, coupled with children's laughters and chattering, which are just high pitched. The lady came out and told the boys calmly 'You woke me up' to which DS said sorry immediately.

DH believes bending over backwards to get on with neighbors, he thinks we should bake her some cakes/cookies to make up. Part of me agree with him, however part of me thinks it's our front garden on a Saturday afternoon, the children were not being particularly disruptive, WWYD?

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MeanMrMustardSeed · 27/03/2021 16:45

Not your problem. At all


TomHardyAndMe · 27/03/2021 16:46

Buy the neighbour a box of earplugs? 🤷🏻‍♀️

You aren’t required to operate in silence because she chooses to nap.


greyspottedgoose · 27/03/2021 16:47

Tell her they will switch to playing at night if she prefers 😂


MsPavlichenko · 27/03/2021 16:47

I’d politely suggest that if she needs uninterrupted naps in the afternoon she should move somewhere with no near neighbours, and especially no children. She is being unreasonable, and I wouldn’t encourage her further.


negomi90 · 27/03/2021 16:47

Your kids have the right to play on your drive (as long as its safe - balls in roads etc).
You shouldn't be bending over backwards for this lady and interfearing with appropriate childhood development.


Soubriquet · 27/03/2021 16:47


Your children are allowed to play at a reasonable time.

They are allowed to laugh

It’s up to her to arrange it so she doesn’t get woken


AllTheCakes · 27/03/2021 16:47

If it was 11pm I would sympathise but during the day noise is to be expected. She is BU.


ComDummings · 27/03/2021 16:48

Yep buy her earplugs. You can’t live your life around her naps. No way.


AdaColeman · 27/03/2021 16:48

She's being ridiculous. Tell her to get some earplugs.


1Morewineplease · 27/03/2021 16:48

She's is being unreasonable albeit frustrated.
Children playing outside on a Saturday afternoon is perfectly reasonable.
If she says anything again, suggest earplugs.


BronwenFrideswide · 27/03/2021 16:49

Your neighbour is unreasonable, children playing either on their own drive, in the front garden or on the green and making normal children playing noise is part of life.

Stop bending over backwards for her, suggest she invests in ear plugs for her afternoon naps. The world doesn't and shouldn't stop for her just because she has a penchant for snoozing for three hours in the middle of the day.


AvaAvocado · 27/03/2021 16:49

Erm well she can sod off. Kids play and make noise, shocker.
She may have a point if it was 11 o’clock at night but during the day? Nah.


TheQueef · 27/03/2021 16:49

Recommend earphones.


Screwcorona · 27/03/2021 16:49

Shes being unreasonable. Tell her to get some earplugs as it's the daytime and it's also school knockout time


Screwcorona · 27/03/2021 16:49

Kick out time sorry....autocorrect


Stichintime · 27/03/2021 16:50

Don't do anything to pacify her. She can't expect everyone to be quite because she wants a nap.


Mamadothehump · 27/03/2021 16:52

Don't buy her earplugs!! This is her problem, not yours!


Bettina500 · 27/03/2021 16:54

I would suggest ear plugs or to sleep in a different room. She can't expect the street to stay quiet to accommodate her daytime naps.
Having said that, basketball bouncing can be loud and annoying so I would be mindful of it right outside her house and drive.


timegoesbysoslowly · 27/03/2021 16:56

Nothing to worry about, she can't expect anyone to be quiet at that time off day.

She either sleeps in other room or gets ear plugs.

Do not cook something or say sorry, she'll then complain at anytime you are noisy.

What's gonna happen in school holidays, weekends when you want to enjoy your garden. Don't me terrified to make noise, she should live somewhere rural if doesn't want noise.

My neighbour woke me up from a nap the other day, mowing his garden, I just went back to sleep I would have been crazy to complain! Or told to don't be so ridiculous


lockeddownandcrazy · 27/03/2021 16:56

I would suggest ear plugs - as night shift workers do - she cannot expect silence in the daytime.


EveryDayIsADuvetDay · 27/03/2021 16:58

66 and needs afternoon naps? makes her sound more like 96!

she can't expect neighbours to be quiet 24/7 - it's not as if they're kicking a ball against her wall.


Derbee · 27/03/2021 16:59

Your husband sounds like a wet lettuce.

She is being totally unreasonable. Children playing in the middle of the day? It’s embarrassing to even think you can complain. She needs earplugs, or to move somewhere completely isolated.


AngieBolen · 27/03/2021 16:59

I've been having an afternoon nap and wouldn't expect anyone in the neighbourhood to be quiet for me.


hollytrees25 · 27/03/2021 17:00

Thank you all lovely people~

I've asked the little boy down the road not to bring over basketball.

I hate myself when she came out and said 'they woke me up ' and I just apologize like a reflex.

How do I say kindly and politely 'could you nap in a different room it's 3 in the afternoon ..'

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gamerchick · 27/03/2021 17:00

Problem is, the more you pacify her the worse her complaining will be as she will think she's justified.

If she wants to take 3 hour naps during the day then that's up to her. Tell her to buy earplugs as you won't be asking hour kids to be silent during the day just because she wants to nap and not to complain to you again.

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