To not want partner having kids here when they're ill?

[Whereso]

Because I'm vulnerable, pregnant in my first trimester after two losses and feel like crap as it is.

They come for their tea twice a week and stay over every other weekend.

His ex had the decency to let him know in advance that they weren't well but he failed to mention that to me and brought them here anyway, they weren't due to stay over and were just coming for tea so he could've easily taken them to the park or picked up a McDonald's/burger king.

Low and behold I've caught whatever it is and have a temp so will need to be tested for covid now, if only to rule it out.

AIBU to be pissed off with him?

@Youseethethingis

Oh I know you weren’t, it’s just funny you now have a problem owning your position.

I don't have a problem owning anything

I don't agree with the comment.

But I wasn't beatint OP with any stick nor speaking directly to her.

What's so difficult to understand?

I hope your test is negative @Whereso and your partner listens to you in future

It's ridiculous that your partner didn't think to get them tested given the cough! I would be very annoyed.

Fingers crossed your covid test is negative

Covid negative thank god. Got the text at 10.30 tonight. Big relief.

Oh great news @Whereso

@Whereso

Covid negative thank god. Got the text at 10.30 tonight. Big relief.

✨CONGRATULATIONS! AND GET WELL SOON! X 💗

people can be soo horrible!!
hope your pregnancy goes well op x

@Whereso

Covid negative thank god. Got the text at 10.30 tonight. Big relief.

Fantastic news!

That's a relief.

And I hope you continue to have a good relationship with dp's wife, where you communicate, and are flexible on important things like not spreading illnesses. I how dp realises this is important too.

@Whereso

Covid negative thank god. Got the text at 10.30 tonight. Big relief.

Fantastic news! Now rest up and take care of that little one x

@Shrivelled

This thread is shite. Can you imagine in real life this many people ganging up on a pregnant lady not wanting to get ill in the middle of a pandemic.

No, it wouldn't happen in real life. But people love to hide behind their screens and project all their unresolved shite onto vulnerable strangers. Sad, but true...

The fact of siblings being born doesn’t make all those people a blended family.
Actually blending and building a life together in which everyone in the family is included and respected makes a blended family IMO.
This guys doesn’t seem to be up for that.

This.

Can you imagine in real life this many people ganging up on a pregnant lady not wanting to get ill in the middle of a pandemic

I don't think you understand what a chat forum is or how it works.

@jellybellybanana

Can you imagine in real life this many people ganging up on a pregnant lady not wanting to get ill in the middle of a pandemic

I don't think you understand what a chat forum is or how it works.

Explain? Are you saying that a chat forum should be used to verbally bash a women when she has posted looking for support and guidance?

You can’t verbally bash someone by typing.

by means of words.
"she claimed to have been verbally abused"

Typing is using words.

Explain? Are you saying that a chat forum should be used to verbally bash a women when she has posted looking for support and guidance?

Oh ffs. Are you insane? (also this is aibu, its not for support and guidance).
Comparing a chat forum, consisting by design of individuals all giving an ASKED FOR opinion, one after the other, with a crowd of people in RL all shouting at once is idiotic.

OP asks for peoples opinion, in an open online forum. For you to then complain how awful it is for people to give their opinions, is also idiotic. You clearly shouldn't be here when you don't get how it works.

I understand completely, I just find it completely unnecessary for people to kick someone while their down. You can express an opinion without the need for the unpleasantness that we've seen on this thread. Some really ugly projection going on.

AIBU is completely unnecessary full stop. And yet here you are.

Delighted your test is negative OP.

Mind yourself.
Protect yourself.

@Pomp

Are you saying that a chat forum should be used to verbally bash a women when she has posted looking for support and guidance?

Read the op. She asks AIBU to be pissed off? Not for “support and guidance”

Give people a chance to offload their own shit onto someone else with anonymity and this is what you get. Everyone is entitled to their own opinion, of course, but the way that some posters go on the attack is abhorrent.

I digress, OP so glad to hear that the test is negative!!! Good luck with your pregnancy and I hope you never have to post on this site again. x

@Pomp

I understand completely, I just find it completely unnecessary for people to kick someone while their down. You can express an opinion without the need for the unpleasantness that we've seen on this thread. Some really ugly projection going on.

Yes because we aren’t talking about the best way to cook roast potatos

We are taking about children in a blended family

That is going to arouse a strong and spirited discussion that may not be “there there OP”. Especially in AIBU

* but the way that some posters go on the attack is abhorrent
Hyperbole

Where is an “abhorrent” “attack”

Any excuse to be an arsehole then. Jesus wept.