To not want partner having kids here when they're ill?

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Because I'm vulnerable, pregnant in my first trimester after two losses and feel like crap as it is.

They come for their tea twice a week and stay over every other weekend.

His ex had the decency to let him know in advance that they weren't well but he failed to mention that to me and brought them here anyway, they weren't due to stay over and were just coming for tea so he could've easily taken them to the park or picked up a McDonald's/burger king.

Low and behold I've caught whatever it is and have a temp so will need to be tested for covid now, if only to rule it out.

AIBU to be pissed off with him?

Let’s take my DH as an example. He has half siblings on both sides and both sets of half siblings also have other half siblings, from more than one other parent in the case of his paternal half siblings.
The fact of siblings being born doesn’t make all those people a blended family.
Actually blending and building a life together in which everyone in the family is included and respected makes a blended family IMO.
This guys doesn’t seem to be up for that.

@Youseethethingis

Let’s take my DH as an example. He has half siblings on both sides and both sets of half siblings also have other half siblings, from more than one other parent in the case of his paternal half siblings. The fact of siblings being born doesn’t make all those people a blended family. Actually blending and building a life together in which everyone in the family is included and respected makes a blended family IMO. This guys doesn’t seem to be up for that.

This is ridiculous.

The kids are connected. End of

She has a partner with children....She is

Haha Christ, is there an echo in here?!

@Hells74

She has a partner with children....She is

She's their fathers partner.

Step mother means marriage.

I'd argue in the modern day marriage is irrelevant

It doesn't!!

@Hells74

It doesn't!!

Google it. Legally it does.

I agree with genie but if people want to be pedantic which they clearly do about blended families then they need to know their facts.

The kids are connected. Nobody said they weren’t. That doesn’t make the half brother of my husbands mothers son anything to do with the half sister of his fathers son or the child of his fathers sons mother either come to that.
I realise I’m stretching the point here but there’s more work involved in creating a blended family that just getting someone pregnant is what I’m getting at.

He’s treating OP like she and the unborn baby don’t really matter and she gets no say in what goes on. Not very blended.

@Youseethethingis

Let’s take my DH as an example. He has half siblings on both sides and both sets of half siblings also have other half siblings, from more than one other parent in the case of his paternal half siblings. The fact of siblings being born doesn’t make all those people a blended family. Actually blending and building a life together in which everyone in the family is included and respected makes a blended family IMO. This guys doesn’t seem to be up for that.

Then why is he happy to essentially inflict his children on a woman who is essentially nothing to them in her house? And also have a baby with her? Who will also presumably be nothing to his current children?

@Youseethethingis

The kids are connected. Nobody said they weren’t. That doesn’t make the half brother of my husbands mothers son anything to do with the half sister of his fathers son or the child of his fathers sons mother either come to that. I realise I’m stretching the point here but there’s more work involved in creating a blended family that just getting someone pregnant is what I’m getting at. He’s treating OP like she and the unborn baby don’t really matter and she gets no say in what goes on. Not very blended.

I don't disagree.

It's the pedantry that's annoying me.

I agree with genie but if people want to be pedantic which they clearly do about blended families then they need to know their facts
I know my facts, don’t worry. I just don’t like “oh but you’re a blended family” to be used as a stick to beat OP with when her DP has made damn sure that she’s stays in her box and doesn’t get to thinking she’s a step maker. That’s unfair.

Then why is he happy to essentially inflict his children on a woman who is essentially nothing to them in her house? And also have a baby with her? Who will also presumably be nothing to his current children?
Haven’t the foggiest. At least we can all agree he’s a bit of a test.

*twat 🙄

@Youseethethingis

I agree with genie but if people want to be pedantic which they clearly do about blended families then they need to know their facts I know my facts, don’t worry. I just don’t like “oh but you’re a blended family” to be used as a stick to beat OP with when her DP has made damn sure that she’s stays in her box and doesn’t get to thinking she’s a step maker. That’s unfair.

I didn't use it as a stick. I wasn't even bloody talking to OP.

You seemed to have a bit of trouble with a PPs summary of what OP has said 🤷‍♀️

@Youseethethingis

You seemed to have a bit of trouble with a PPs summary of what OP has said 🤷‍♀️

Yes I did.

So in what way was I beating OP with a stick?

@Butwasitherdriveway

It's the pedantry that's annoying me.

But the pedantry is emanating from your posts But

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It's the pedantry that's annoying me.

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If you can't beat em...

I think the point is that if you're the RP and your dc are unwell with covid symptoms you get them and yourself tested. You don't send them to their other parent's household where they could spread it, let alone going to work or sending them to school.

So in what way was I beating OP with a stick?
Glad to know you’re now in support of OP and understanding of her position as outlined by PP.
Oh and it’s not just you is it? It’s for those at the back too.

@Youseethethingis

So in what way was I beating OP with a stick? Glad to know you’re now in support of OP and understanding of her position as outlined by PP. Oh and it’s not just you is it? It’s for those at the back too.

Jesus Christ.

I wasn't in support of the PP. That was bloody obvious.

Oh I know you weren’t, it’s just funny you now have a problem owning your position.

Even before Covid if our two children are ill, have a bug or anything we mention it to DSS mother as no one wants to make anyone else ill. A couple of years ago we missed DSS birthday because one of our children had a sickness bug. On the same not if DSS falls ill when he is with us he has sometimes stayed longer so not to pass it back on.

I don't think YABU - with all illnesses but now so more than ever with Covid It is important for everyone to try and stop the spreading of germs where possible.

This thread is shite. Can you imagine in real life this many people ganging up on a pregnant lady not wanting to get ill in the middle of a pandemic.