To think that being stressed and on the brink of a breakdown is just the new normal?

[SylviaPlath1984]

I was wondering if it was just me, that I'm burned out and exhausted but most people are pretty happy and laid back and have plenty of spare time to themselves...

But looking through a few posts here, it seems like everyone is really struggling. Being pulled in all directions, kids, housework, job, partner, no time for ourselves...

So am I wrong? Is your life pretty chilled and if so how/why, what am I doing wrong? Or as I suspect is the new normal to just work yourself to the bone and feel totally wiped out 24/7

urgh. now I've really crashed.

I was feeling like this but I dropped hours and responsibility (and shit loads of money) at work. Luckily DP enjoys his very well-paid job and doesn’t expect me to pick up all the house/child work now I am part time.

I think I’m peri-menopausal though so whilst life is definitely easier I feel very much on the edge a lot of the time.

I now feel resentful that I’ve dropped salary, pension and NI contributions as me being part-time benefits the whole family and it wasn’t just my decision for me.

Feeling really down this evening. Spent so much money these past few months. I had my redundancy pay late last year and had a huge milestone birthday of a relatives to pay for as well as Christmas and then 2 more birthdays, Easter etc. With all the other bills the money is fast going. No sign of an interview anywhere and am starting to get really tearful and stressed over it all. :(

@roarfeckingroarr

My life is calm and well rounded and brilliant but that doesn't mean that you're doing something wrong and me right.

I'm currently on mat leave with first baby but I would've said the same before he was born. I have a job I enjoy and am well paid for and a lovely quality of life with lots of exercise, lots of friends and a great partner.

So many things are down to chance though OP. I doubt it's something you're doing wrong.

I've never met anyone in real life who describes their life like this. Good luck 🙄

*roarfeckingroarr

My life is calm and well rounded and brilliant but that doesn't mean that you're doing something wrong and me right.

I'm currently on mat leave with first baby but I would've said the same before he was born. I have a job I enjoy and am well paid for and a lovely quality of life with lots of exercise, lots of friends and a great partner.

So many things are down to chance though OP. I doubt it's something you're doing wrong.*

I've never met anyone in real life who describes their life like this.
Good luck 🙄

@ceepeeree in fairness if you had asked me when I was on mat leave with my first, my work life balance left room for exercise, social life, housework etc, even with a baby. I was the slimmest and fittest I had ever been. I would describe it as calm and well rounded but it was much more manageable.

Back at work was a different story trying to juggle it all on no sleep. Then enter baby no 2 and the naps and exercise were not possible even on mat leave. The combination of children and work has made me fat due to stress eating and lack of sleep!!

Oh am glad I found this. I hit menopause in April when this hit and I've been an anxious, irritable, overwhelmed foggy headed mess since. For me I can not wait for it to be over. It may still take some time. It's the uncertainty of the vaccine being effective enough to lift restrictions and then manage it in a healthy way with normal life. I guess it's the unknowing that gets to me. Everyone I know is not sleeping and is less motivated and fed up. Some put a brave face on. Others are just not bothered I guess. It will end, we just have to be patient.