To think there’s too much sex on tv/netflix

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Shows that I would otherwise enjoy watching with my teenagers/other family always seem to have graphic and gratuitous very long sex scenes. I don’t think they add anything to the plot and ruin our experience of watching as a family (makes me and my teenagers uncomfortable-and I think we are fairly close/informal usually).
I’m thinking of game of thrones, Bridgerton, normal people and outlander which show a lot of sex and a lot of it is disturbing/rape. Does anyone actually enjoy watching these scenes/think they enhance shows? I wish there were ‘clean’ rated 12 versions of these shows on Netflix and you could chose which one to watch. I did enjoy sex education, and think this was done a bit more intelligently/sex scenes weren’t just there for the sake of it/a lazy way to attract viewers but were necessary for the plot.
AIBU/ a prude?

Surely it's natural for children to feel uncomfy watching on screen shagging/ nudity with their parents?

I can't imagine ever having been blasé about it when I was a kid. Don't think I'd like it much now tbh!

I cant be bothered to read whole thread so apologies if this has already been brought up. The TV at the minute is full of crime dramas, most of them real life and with uttely horrific discriptions of true crime with real people whos families are still very much around. Ive not watched any TVfor weeks for this very reason. I would much rather watch ( the very tiny amount compared to crime, reality tv and news) some lovely, happy , fictional, beautiful people shagging than listen to how some poor soul was killed and eaten by a serial killer.

I do not watch any crime stuff

Completely agree with you OP. I'm not at all prudish but even when watching alone I would fast forward the drawn out sex scenes as I really don't think they add anything to the overall experience!!

@Deadringer

That's a good point about animal cruelty, i know there are people who starve, beat and abuse animals, but i don't want to see it simulated on screen for 'entertainment'.

Nor me, can't bear to see cruelty on television or film. It's bad enough to read about it. It stays in my mind and triggers intrusive thoughts. The same applies to torture. I don't forget things no matter how hard I try to tell myself 'This is a drama programme' (factual ones are worse of course). I will imagine myself as the person being tortured and not sleep.

@NiceGerbil

Surely it's natural for children to feel uncomfy watching on screen shagging/ nudity with their parents?

I can't imagine ever having been blasé about it when I was a kid. Don't think I'd like it much now tbh!

The whole culture of watching TV as a family has been destroyed in part due to the insistence on regular sex scenes in near enough every series in TV today.

Watching the news or cooking shows together doesn't necessarily have the same appeal as a good drama series.

@AgeLikeWine

I don’t understand censorious prudishness. Never have, never will. It’s just sex. It’s part of life, everyone does it, and if you’re doing it properly it’s fun.

It is just sex. But just like my kids don’t want to hear, see or know I have sex they also don’t want to watch it with me. It’s uncomfortable as it should be - would be odd if it wasn’t. Every year on TV and in the cinema boundaries are being pushed. We now regularly see anal sex, BJs, and rape on TV. What next? It’s uncomfortable. If teachers showed some of these series at school it would be a safeguarding issue.

I don't watch people having Sex or being Raped in every day life

In fairness, you don't watch them in any of the other private moments in their life either. Drama in general is intended to be an intimate look into the character's life, which for most includes sex and for some includes sexual assault. I can understand the cynicism behind oversaturation of those themes, and particularly regarding what that means for actors, but I do think television is voyeuristic by nature and this is just the full extent of that.

I agree about the culture of watching dra together.
I feel the loss. It was a starting point for a lot of conversation around our family history growing up.

I agree about the culture of watching drama together.
I feel the loss. It was a starting point for a lot of conversation around our family history growing up.

And amazingly they could still produce some great shows without the need to keep watching people have sex.

I remember the days when if you wanted to watch people have sex on TV, you'd have stay up for late night channel 4 and the kids would be in bed. Nowadays it's hardcore pornography 24/7 on the internet and the simulated form 24/7 via streamed TV dramas on Netflix. None of this is healthy.

I live in a multigenerational household and I want TV we can all watch

Do people really believe that before there was so much sex in tv shows, the stories were so terribly hobbled?

Everyone on this thread should complain to the Ombudsman or whoever it is, and perhaps something might change. If we all stopped being so passive perhaps programmers would take other views into account.

Agree TV for whole family is a good thing. In this segmented world with everyone choosing their own content on their own screens, watching together is lovely.

We are mainly watching old series mainly comedies as a family.

What sort of stuff NiceGerbil, I need some inspiration.

How old are your kids?

And you may well have different tastes to me but I can try to help!

In fairness, you don't watch them in any of the other private moments in their life either. Drama in general is intended to be an intimate look into the character's life, which for most includes sex and for some includes sexual assault. I can understand the cynicism behind oversaturation of those themes, and particularly regarding what that means for actors, but I do think television is voyeuristic by nature and this is just the full extent of that.

I am frustrated that as a result of this, a lot of tv series I will actively ignore as a viewing choice.

I prefer my viewing to be free of graphic sex scenes. Rape scenes I refuse to watch and therefore won't ever watch Outlander, which saddens me. Its my personal choice.

Im a huge fan of B&W movies, where actors WERE actors and the moods atmospheres and skill of the actors carried the storylines way farther than any sex/rape scene of 'modern times' could.

Give me Bette Davis over Outlander and the like, anyday 🌺

Which ones have rape scenes?....so I know to avoid them

15 upwards.

I started watching Outlander late to the party I know didn’t know that much about it, just finished Season 1, now I’ve watched GoT, I enjoy a good old steamy novel don’t consider myself a prude but the rape and torture episode was gruesome. Far more drawn out and horrific than it needed to be.

I agree that it seems to be “let’s add in some tits” just for the sake of it now. And the level of sexual violence seems to be on the rise as well.

Lemon- loads and loads.

Probably you need to stick to MasterChef and in the night garden.

Look maybe stuff like Blackadder (obviously references but I think ok for 15!), Taskmaster is brilliant, stranger things was pretty good, um.

Just head back to stuff from the 80s/90s and there's zilch sexual violence really unless it's a crime prog or something.

Sorry that wasn't much help!

Midsomer Murders
Miss Marple
Poirot
Only Fools and Horses
GBBO

I'll stick with this kinda viewing list 🤣

Frasier?

My suggestions sound a bit hopeless now I look at them