To think there’s too much sex on tv/netflix

[WiganNorthWest]

Shows that I would otherwise enjoy watching with my teenagers/other family always seem to have graphic and gratuitous very long sex scenes. I don’t think they add anything to the plot and ruin our experience of watching as a family (makes me and my teenagers uncomfortable-and I think we are fairly close/informal usually).
I’m thinking of game of thrones, Bridgerton, normal people and outlander which show a lot of sex and a lot of it is disturbing/rape. Does anyone actually enjoy watching these scenes/think they enhance shows? I wish there were ‘clean’ rated 12 versions of these shows on Netflix and you could chose which one to watch. I did enjoy sex education, and think this was done a bit more intelligently/sex scenes weren’t just there for the sake of it/a lazy way to attract viewers but were necessary for the plot.
AIBU/ a prude?

[GammyLeg]

@WisnaeMe there was absolutely nothing wrong with your comment, it was relevant to the discussion.

[Shnuffles]

I agree, OP. Like a PP, I'm often watching alone, and it's still usually either embarrassing or (more often) boring to watch. I took to sighing and skipping over sex scenes in Outlander and Bridgerton, because there were just so many of them. I find they rarely add much to the story, and they do more harm than good, since they make it uncomfortable to watch with most other people.

[MeanderingGently]

I agree, far too much sex...much of it is violent, rape or disturbing. I don't find sex scenes enjoyable, more embarrassing or cringey, if I particularly wanted to watch sex I would go to an adult content channel not the middle of a drama.

Violence and rape I find really disturbing, I avoid such programmes but that leaves me with documentaries mostly!! My biggest concern is that by having so much of this stuff it 'normalises' it, there is a serious problem with a society that accepts violence towards females and rape as 'normal' every day occurrences....

[Suzi888]

I think you have a point to a degree, but for something like Bridgerton no. Never watched Outlander... agree with you for Game of Thrones, too much sex and nudity.
There’s a fair bit on the box minus sex scenes though, but they could tone it down a bit!

[GreenSlide]

You're not wrong about Outlander, either Claire or Jamie were being sexually assaulted practically every episode, but also enjoying a fulfilling sex life with each other too, it got to the stage where my eyes glazed over when it started again.

I didn't think Bridgerton was as explicit as everyone made out? There was that one episode but it was in the context of the storyline.

[WisnaeMe]

[quote GammyLeg]@WisnaeMe there was absolutely nothing wrong with your comment, it was relevant to the discussion.[/quote]


Hi I was suddenly aware I might have triggered someone, so I did ask it be removed.

it's still there though, I think 🌺

[TrickorTreacle]

I voted YABU because there are other avenues to watch film and TV.

Personally, I don't own a TV. I don't have Netflix etc.

First world problems.


YABU.

[steff13]

I'm only halfway through Outlander, does anyone besides Jaime get raped? also Outlander and Bridgerton are both based on books (written by women) so I think you need to blame the authors of the books for the content of the shows. GOT, also, but written by a man.

I realize our Netflix is the US is different, but there are literally thousands of shows, and you can restrict what you see by age group. You should be able to find something to watch.

[WisnaeMe]

I loved the Outlander story, really loved it, but it was too much for me personally to watch those scenes 🌺

[Moonmelodies]

Get your teens their own TVs, then you can all watch whatever you want without embarrassment.

[KoalaLlama]

I can’t believe you’re worried that the actors in Bridgerton might find it uncomfortable to act out sex scenes and in the same breath suggest people watch porn instead. There are very well documented links between sex trafficking, abuse and porn.

[Wishing14]

I totally agree, very graphic sex and violence and very little storyline. It's one of the many many impacts of the normalisation of porn in society.

[Thisisworsethananticpated]

Try comedy
Modern family , superstore etc
Or the more teen focussed dramas
Or go for violence !

[ShadierThanaPalmTree]

I agree op, if I wanted to watch people having sex I would do it on my own or with my OH. The sex scenes are so often irrelevant to the story line, or go on for an uncomfortable amount of time. It's nice to sit and watch things as a family, but not wanting to watch extended sex scenes with your kids doesn't make you a prude

[MoChridhe]

There are plenty of TV shows to watch, so find something that you enjoy. Some like romance shows like Outlander and Bridgerton etc. I hate sci fi, murder mysteries, action, detective etc so I will never watch them. For example I have only watched 20 mins of line of duty cos DH asked me to join him, hated it. I always find out what a show is about before watching it. I suggest you do the same.

[CuthbertDibbleandGrubb]

I agree, also just such a bad example or unrealistic. No discussion about condoms or other contraception, for example.

[longwayoff]

It's irritating. Started to watch a 'family' type thing yesterday and in the first 20 minutes there's a pointless oral sex interlude (under the covers) then a stand up shag in a cupboard a little later. Turned off. I've always assumed it's just semi-porn misogyny on the part of the writers/directors and it annoys me, like seeing a flasher on public transport. It's not prudish, it's watching sexualised exploitation that I haven't asked for and don't want to see. I don't like it.

[NeilBuchananisBanksy]

Sex is a huge part of the outlander story though. And I like it because it focuses on Claire's pleasure a lot of the time which we don't see on TV much.

The rape scenes are hard but it does show that life wasn't all Jane Austin romance in historic times.

[Fatladyslim]

Yanbu op! Long sex scenes are so boring! I heard there was loads in Bridgerton so haven't bothered watching it yet. IMO sex doesn't have to be fully shown, they can imply it and nothing is lost to the plot.

[Shoxfordian]

I don’t have an issue with sex scenes but I imagine it would be awkward to watch with teenagers. Maybe just find something else to do together that isn’t the tv

[HugeAckmansWife]

In GoT the majority of sex scenes are relevant though.. Incest with Cersei and Jamie, Danerys learning how to do it to gain power actually over her husband, the various brother and sister from Dorn scenarios with prostitutes also quite integral. I did notice though that it got a lot less graphic as time went on, the show ad established a huge fan base based on the plot and characters and they maybe felt it wasn't needed. By the last series, the scene with Arya was pretty mild.
If you like Bridgerton how about watching P&P with your kids, or Emma, or Sense and Sensibility? There is a lot out there you can watch, not everything has to be suitable for all and from what I've read, recent filming practice is a lot more comfortable, with 'intimacy coordinators' so it's choreographed like any other scene.

[Fatladyslim]

@MoChridhe

There are plenty of TV shows to watch, so find something that you enjoy. Some like romance shows like Outlander and Bridgerton etc. I hate sci fi, murder mysteries, action, detective etc so I will never watch them. For example I have only watched 20 mins of line of duty cos DH asked me to join him, hated it. I always find out what a show is about before watching it. I suggest you do the same.

But the thing with that is, pretty much all genres have an abnormal amount of sex scenes.

[lojojomo]

I don't mind the sex so much as the sexual violence. Or the violence full stop. I can't really stomach western televsion any more and pretty much exclusively watch kdrama. Fun plots, well constructed shows (always have a proper ending), and basically NO violence against women.lMight be connected to the fact that 90% of screenwriters in South Korea are women, idk.

[Mognisium]

Yanbu