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Miffed about baby clothes gift.

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HappyCat5 · 23/03/2021 15:18

Sorry loooong rant- please don't hate me for this!!
I have 5 weeks till baby's due date. I'm counting the weeks and days- I'm just so excited.

She will be our first child (and our rainbow baby- we had a first trimester loss before- which hit hard)
I worry that perhaps because of a previous loss, I sometimes may be coming across too precious at times.

I haven't bought her any clothes yet. My family and friends have gifted me lots of clothes (mostly pink) which are adorable and I love them all (even if some aren't the most practical, I hope she gets to wear them all a at least once).

My partner wanted things a little less pink, because he doesn't like the colour much Grin so he has bought her some really cute yellow outfits to break things up.

Again, I love them- I have no preference on colour really (it just so happens people are buying me pink things- her room is lilac and white. I like a lot of baby clothes- there's hardly any I don't find cute).

But my co-workers have recently gifted me boy sleepsuits knowing that we are having a girl.

I was happy that I wasn't at work, because my partner could see the look on my face and I felt that they put very minimal thought into this gift.

There is so much choice for baby clothes online- for so less money (they left price on). I'm finding it hard to understand why they would choose boy clothes for my little girl.

They're not even unisex- I have a few unisex outfits already. And, these clothes just aren't very cute.

Mr. "There's too much pink" himself, wasn't happy with them sending me quite blatant male clothing. He felt that they were deliberately disrespecting me.

I've been trying to justify the reason why they would send these to me- and perhaps it was an oversight and I'm just being precious and ungrateful about the gift- but in the back of my mind, I don't think I am.

I haven't worked there long (had to move from my old job because of Covid) and they're all lovely co-workers btw, I just don't know them too well yet. I even said they didn't have to get me a gift- I wouldn't have minded not having one, and wasn't expecting one.

I'm thinking of sending the clothes on to people I know who have recently had boys- and will obviously ask them first if it's to their tastes or not. Maybe that's a callous move, I don't know- but they shouldn't go to waste, just because I don't want them.

I am unsure whether I should be feeling quite as bitter as I do over this gift. Am I just being a bit bratty about this?

OP posts:
Volcanoexplorer · 23/03/2021 21:38

Green and orange sound pretty neutral to me. Tonight dd (5) is wearing hand me down pyjamas from her older brother. They have marvel superheroes on them, but they’re still in great condition so I wasn’t about to throw them out. She quite likes them. A girl can definitely wear orange and green.

Embroideredstars · 23/03/2021 21:55

Green and orange are neutral! 🤦‍♀️

Given what you've said about your own dressing style, I imagine your colleagues thought you wouldn't be into the whole pink girly look.

Don't overthink just give them away if you dont want but tbh after several changes a day due to sick and poo you may just be glad to something clean to hand Grin

Nanalisa60 · 23/03/2021 22:02

crispychicken12

Well that exactly what I was thinking!!

SleepingStandingUp · 23/03/2021 22:32

@happycat5 I'm glad you've seen sense.
If you're not v girly at work they probably avoided the pinks and pastel prey clothes, thinking you'd hate it. Instead they got NEUTRAL which purple and green is thinking you'd like it.
Put baby in it, send some photos, tell your DP to stop being a arse and enjoy your baby when she comes

Heyha · 23/03/2021 22:41

@brumboo 😂😂😂 yes!!

Blue sleepsuits will be a lot more use to you than pink frilly outfits OP, I promise you. I'm sure they've just got the sex of your baby muddled up.

Heyha · 23/03/2021 22:44

Just read your update, OP 👍 fair play to you. Orange and green are nice colours for a change for babies, I'm sure your DD will look lovely in them.

JanewaysBun · 23/03/2021 22:52

Fair play OP for taking this well. Good luck with the new baby. Green and orange sound lovely (green is my favourite colour so DD has loads of lovely mint green suits)

StarFriend · 23/03/2021 23:14

You took the feedback really well OP. You sound lovely, considered and well balanced - I'm sure your baby will be very lucky to have you as their mum.

LIamaDelRey · 24/03/2021 21:20

Good luck with it all OP. To make you smile, I did have a similar experience once when I was Confused at a top with Eat Ants on it which was also ker-ching. I wondered why you'd get a baby an ant-eating slogan top but said thank you cos I is well brought up Wink. Many moons later, I went to a department store and discovered that Eat Ants was a German children's clothing company and that top was as close to any designer label that I would ever get to Grin being an Aldi type of gal!

clpsmum · 24/03/2021 22:20

@HappyCat5 who buys a baby green and orange that sounds gross! I assumed you meant they bought blue hence my reply. Green and orange is a different kettle of fish I wouldn't be impressed with that either so if you're bratty so am I!! Stick them in the charity shop! You sounds lovely and your little girl is clearly going to be well loved. Good luck I hope the rest of your pregnancy and the birth go smoothly xx

jobbeedancer · 24/03/2021 22:30

I don't believe in boys or girls anything. Clothes are clothes. Toys are toys.
But also have you thought that no one at your work cares about your baby as much as you...

StellaKowalski · 24/03/2021 22:37

[quote clpsmum]@HappyCat5 who buys a baby green and orange that sounds gross! I assumed you meant they bought blue hence my reply. Green and orange is a different kettle of fish I wouldn't be impressed with that either so if you're bratty so am I!! Stick them in the charity shop! You sounds lovely and your little girl is clearly going to be well loved. Good luck I hope the rest of your pregnancy and the birth go smoothly xx[/quote]
Hmm

Pebbledashery · 24/03/2021 22:52

My now 2 year old girl sometimes wears boys clothes... She has boys slippers which she was adamant she wanted in the shoe shop. I'm sorry for what happened to you OP, but I think you're being precious and need to toughen up a bit in that respect.. Babies don't really give a damn what they wear either, 99% of the time it'll get ruined anyway. I don't think it's your colleagues disrespecting you. It may just be an oversight.

Pebbledashery · 24/03/2021 22:53

I didn't RTFT 😀

PferdeMerde · 24/03/2021 22:56

[quote clpsmum]@HappyCat5 who buys a baby green and orange that sounds gross! I assumed you meant they bought blue hence my reply. Green and orange is a different kettle of fish I wouldn't be impressed with that either so if you're bratty so am I!! Stick them in the charity shop! You sounds lovely and your little girl is clearly going to be well loved. Good luck I hope the rest of your pregnancy and the birth go smoothly xx[/quote]
You don’t sound lovely

clpsmum · 27/03/2021 08:36

@PferdeMerde neither do you! I never said I was lovely

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