Again, I am being blackmailed by someone I have been seeing throughout the pandemic. All of a sudden they want to withdrawal contact because I wont have the vaccine. They are doing so to try and manipulate me into having it. It has nothing to do with them feeling unsafe. By the way, this is some lied to me about their drinking so I would not withdrawal contact from them.
Also, I am not an anti-vaxxer. I am ex-NHS and had all the going jabs. I don't watch YT, or go to any anti-vaxx sites. I am someone with an extreme needle and medical phobia. It is both irrational fear, and based on a traumatic experience. Even my own GP knows and never pushes for blood tests etc because my reaction can be extreme and dangerous. Hence why I said I wont be having it due to mental health reasons.
OK, I have now read this. I think that people, certainly myself, would not have given you so much grief if you had said at the beginning that you didn't want to be vaccinated due to an extreme needle phobia. Without this information, it did sound like one of those 'nobody's going to tell me what to do; it's just like Nazi Germany or North Korea!; why should we pander to the cowards who are scared of Covid?' posts.
Have you told your friend that this is the reason why you are refusing vaccination? If you have, and she's still abusive about it, then I don't think she's that much of a friend anyway. If you haven't, you should tell her. But not lie to her (if you wish to continue to meet her), because then she can make her choice about e.g. only meeting outdoors or with a wide-open window; keeping 2m away from you, etc.
As regards your dad, the fact that he has also lied to you about important matters does make it a bit less culpable of you (NOT because I believe in 'tit for tat', but because he's less likely to assume that you are automatically speaking the truth if he's a bit of a liar himself). But I don't think that his refusing to meet you unless you get vaccinated is necessarily just emotional blackmail, just because he was willing to meet you before but not in the future. Right now we are in lockdown, and you wouldn't get much exposure anyway unless you're a key worker. In the near future, we'll be opening up, and we'll all get a little more exposure, so he may be more concerned about his exposure to you. If you are in an age range that's currently being offered the vaccine, your dad must be fairly elderly and potentially vulnerable. I assume he's already had his first jab. Would he be willing to come to some sort of compromise that until he's had his second jab, you will only meet outside or 2m apart; with both of you wearing masks, etc.? Again, have you told him why you're not getting it?