Is my teen dd being unreasonable or me?

[Flowers24]

Like many we have delayed our holidays from last year to this, now to next , my ds has been with his gf a while and she has stayed with us in lockdown. He wants her to come on our city break holiday next year for 4 nights, dh assumed he would and are happy to as long as she pays her flight and spending money. We said if she comes dd can take a friend if she chooses. Dd doesnt want the gf to come and wants us to have a family holiday just us and is most upset and not talking to me now, she gets on fine with the gf so i am surprised. I feel really awkward now, am i being unfair bringing the gf, or is dd being unfair? I love family hols but the dynamics can change a bit if another person comes along, cant they?

Also dh and I are going on another seperate holiday abroad (beach hol) with dd as well, again all moved from last year so she has that too.

If i am in the wrong please tell me & i will have to tell the gf she cannot come.

Thank you
dd is 16

I am surprised how much teenagers are pandered to now, also most people I know in RL are really welcoming of partners/GFs/BFs etc, on MN there is so much hostility towards people who haven't been in the family for 10 years at least.

@PugInTheHouse

I am surprised how much teenagers are pandered to now, also most people I know in RL are really welcoming of partners/GFs/BFs etc, on MN there is so much hostility towards people who haven't been in the family for 10 years at least.

Yep

@PugInTheHouse

I am surprised how much teenagers are pandered to now, also most people I know in RL are really welcoming of partners/GFs/BFs etc, on MN there is so much hostility towards people who haven't been in the family for 10 years at least.

Yes. I’m also thinking that people are in for a surprise if they think sixteen or seventeen is the last time you will be paying out for your children’s holiday. Our eldest is 28 now and she’ll be coming on holiday to the Lakes with us in September....along with her fairly new husband. Her brother says if he can get time off, he and his fiancée will try and come too. You just end up needing a larger house.

@PugInTheHouse I agree 100%, some MN mummas must have some very entitled little brats

LemonRoses - then the grandchildren will come along soon too and you'll definitely need a bigger house

abeanbaked - its very noticeable in the workplace compared to 20 years ago.

@PugInTheHouse

LemonRoses - then the grandchildren will come along soon too and you'll definitely need a bigger house

abeanbaked - its very noticeable in the workplace compared to 20 years ago.

Hah or we’ll be too old and boring to holiday with.

We holiday with my parents still, the kids are 15, 13 and 8. Parents are 67 and 65. They don't have to pay for us lol but they end up spoiling the kids

@PugInTheHouse

We holiday with my parents still, the kids are 15, 13 and 8. Parents are 67 and 65. They don't have to pay for us lol but they end up spoiling the kids

How lovely. I think the children think we’ll take any future grandchildren on holiday to save their annual leave. Funny how they think the UK holidays, that they moaned about being boring through their teenage years, are perfect for any offspring they produce and that they are now blocking our own cottage with weekends away (outside of lockdown).

We tend to go on cruises together, it's perfect for all the age groups, esp for the kids from 9 upwards as they have way more freedom than they would usually. We are actually looking forward to UK holidays now though, we have a 6 month old dog so can take him too, I think we will definitely appreciate local trips way more than we did pre-pandemic.

I hadn't thought of sending the kids on holiday with my parents, now there's an idea