AIBU to question the cleanliness of my nurse friends houses?!

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I have 2 nurse friends, both separate families.
Both don't seem to clean their houses.
I'm not talking about a bit of muck in the corner or dirty skirting boards, you know "forgotten or out of sight areas" , I'm taking about thick thick thick dust on TV stands, windowsills, side tables anywhere really, mouldy windowsils/windows, bathroom sinks caked in makeup, baths with multiple black rings, you get the idea.
Its never really bothered me much before but with this pandemic I guess I've just noticed it more and my partner is quite concerned about it.
Am I being unreasonable to be a bit concerned?
I'm not a nurse, the closest I've been is a care worker but I would have thought cleaning would be quite a big thing considering how much I've been told over the years about dirt and dust harbouring germs and all sorts.
One of the nurses I've know for 10+ years and she's always lived like it so I've never really questioned it before. The other one has just moved house and we just assumed they were just concentrating on moving but they have now moved and moved all the dusty dirty items to the new house.
My partner says its not normal to live in such dirty houses, I've told him he needs to relax a bit about it as it's not like we live there.

*course

Really, all these posts from nurses who live in pigstys. I was a nurse for 25 years and a single parent.
You should be ashamed of yourselves. For starters I find it very hard to believe you suddenly "change" at work, people don't change.
And the germs that strengthen your childrens immune systems don't strengthen the immune systems of very ill high risk patients with open wounds.
If you carry the bacteria from your filthy kitchens to a patient like this you will kill them.
I'd sack the lot of you.

@Shehasadiamondinthesky

Really, all these posts from nurses who live in pigstys. I was a nurse for 25 years and a single parent. You should be ashamed of yourselves. For starters I find it very hard to believe you suddenly "change" at work, people don't change. And the germs that strengthen your childrens immune systems don't strengthen the immune systems of very ill high risk patients with open wounds. If you carry the bacteria from your filthy kitchens to a patient like this you will kill them. I'd sack the lot of you.

😂😂 soz matron!

To be fair one persons pigsty is another persons clean - it’s a spectrum really

The cleanliness in hospitals bears no relationship whatsoever to your friend’s houses. You know that.
If you don’t like their homes, don’t visit.

@Shehasadiamondinthesky

Really, all these posts from nurses who live in pigstys. I was a nurse for 25 years and a single parent. You should be ashamed of yourselves. For starters I find it very hard to believe you suddenly "change" at work, people don't change. And the germs that strengthen your childrens immune systems don't strengthen the immune systems of very ill high risk patients with open wounds. If you carry the bacteria from your filthy kitchens to a patient like this you will kill them. I'd sack the lot of you.

Of course it’s different at work I’m an OT and I don’t go round my mates houses and measure them for toilet frames. My friend is a barrister and she doesn’t yell “objection” in every argument. Everyone behaves differently at work, the requirements for a hospital ward full of wounds and sick people is entirely different to the requirements for your standard family house

I’m an OT and I don’t go round my mates houses and measure them for toilet frames. My friend is a barrister and she doesn’t yell “objection” in every argument.

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That would make for a great Harry Enfield sketch though to be fair 😂

@Shehasadiamondinthesky

Really, all these posts from nurses who live in pigstys. I was a nurse for 25 years and a single parent. You should be ashamed of yourselves. For starters I find it very hard to believe you suddenly "change" at work, people don't change. And the germs that strengthen your childrens immune systems don't strengthen the immune systems of very ill high risk patients with open wounds. If you carry the bacteria from your filthy kitchens to a patient like this you will kill them. I'd sack the lot of you.

Is that you OP?

@Shehasadiamondinthesky

Really, all these posts from nurses who live in pigstys. I was a nurse for 25 years and a single parent. You should be ashamed of yourselves. For starters I find it very hard to believe you suddenly "change" at work, people don't change. And the germs that strengthen your childrens immune systems don't strengthen the immune systems of very ill high risk patients with open wounds. If you carry the bacteria from your filthy kitchens to a patient like this you will kill them. I'd sack the lot of you.

Good job you're not in charge then eh?

Why doesn't the partner of the one nurse help her clean? He's clearly not doing the cleaning if it looks like that.

One of my jobs is as a cleaner. My house is a midden. It’s my business and nobody else’s.

@Chalkitup

Would love an answer as to why you're in their house so much to notice OP? Do the lockdown rules not apply to you and your dear husband?

Maybe the Dust Police aren’t required to abide by Covid guidelines?

oooh marton

I'd sack the lot of you

How would you even know? 🤣

By putting enforced house inspections in their contracts? I think you’ll find that won’t fly.

So, either you and your cev DH are going round there in a pandemic, or you've been obsessing about this since lockdown. You both need a new hobby. Cleaning, maybe, or creative writing?

@maddiemookins16mum

There’s no excuse for filthy houses, 12 hr shift or not. There’s time when they’re not on shift to clean. Pretty sure there’s also plenty of others working long hours who are not nurses who manage to keep a clean house.

Why do people with filthy houses need an "excuse"? It's not doing anyone else any harm, no-one is forced to visit these "filthy" houses.

It may come as a surprise to you, @maddiemookins16mum, but some people prefer to do other stuff with their time than embark on a treadmill of relentless drudgery.

You go and clean their houses for them if you’re that bothered! What are u doing in other peoples houses in the pandemic??

All I asked was is it unreasonable to be concerned

Well, it is.

HTH.

It sounds horrific. Having to clear newspapers AND books from a chair!

Shocking, isn't it? Why don't they just fling them on the floor like normal people do?

@Shehasadiamondinthesky

Really, all these posts from nurses who live in pigstys. I was a nurse for 25 years and a single parent. You should be ashamed of yourselves. For starters I find it very hard to believe you suddenly "change" at work, people don't change. And the germs that strengthen your childrens immune systems don't strengthen the immune systems of very ill high risk patients with open wounds. If you carry the bacteria from your filthy kitchens to a patient like this you will kill them. I'd sack the lot of you.

People absolutely do change in work. Like I said upthread, I was a trainee ODP (theatre based so hygiene has to be 100%) but I live in filth and piles of stuff. Not had a single person I worked with ask what my house was like. So I have no idea how you could sack someone based on those grounds.

have you heard about the advice to stay home?
Do that, and keep your judgy opinions to yourself - or tell your so called friends how you feel, and hopefully they will drop you as a friend. Failing that, drop them as friends - they probably have better things to do with their time anyway.

@VerityWibbleWobble

Dust ✅
Mould on window seal ✅
Grubby sink ✅
Grubby Bath ✅

Currently couldn't give a shine shit what anyone thinks. It's been a tough year, I've worked extremely hard when I'm not furloughed and have lost the very small cleaning mojo I had somewhere in the past few months.

Judge away Op and the others

How revolting. I hope there's no kids there

@BMHM

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OP, have you and partner run out of things to say to each other, so you've taken to discussing your friends homes and passing judgement for entertainment? I assume so, given you don't mention having been personally affected by this prior to now. "Be careful lest you suffer vertigo from the dizzying height of your moral ground".

If you're truly THAT concerned for the wellbeing of your friends, it might be better to ask them about it, instead of moaning to us.

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