AIBU to question the cleanliness of my nurse friends houses?!

[Iseewhatshappeninghere]

I have 2 nurse friends, both separate families.
Both don't seem to clean their houses.
I'm not talking about a bit of muck in the corner or dirty skirting boards, you know "forgotten or out of sight areas" , I'm taking about thick thick thick dust on TV stands, windowsills, side tables anywhere really, mouldy windowsils/windows, bathroom sinks caked in makeup, baths with multiple black rings, you get the idea.
Its never really bothered me much before but with this pandemic I guess I've just noticed it more and my partner is quite concerned about it.
Am I being unreasonable to be a bit concerned?
I'm not a nurse, the closest I've been is a care worker but I would have thought cleaning would be quite a big thing considering how much I've been told over the years about dirt and dust harbouring germs and all sorts.
One of the nurses I've know for 10+ years and she's always lived like it so I've never really questioned it before. The other one has just moved house and we just assumed they were just concentrating on moving but they have now moved and moved all the dusty dirty items to the new house.
My partner says its not normal to live in such dirty houses, I've told him he needs to relax a bit about it as it's not like we live there.

I'm sure they would clean for medical procedures but as they don't do those at home I don't see why it matters? Can't living in too clean an environment be bad for you?

@Roystonv I wouldn’t believe a single thing an estate agent told me.

@JackieweaverhasALLtheauthority

who let's face it are probably best friends with the bone idle teaachers who work 9-3 and STILL can't be bothered cleaning-PROBABLY

This made me laugh! That's me and my best friend Seriously, who cares that much about the cleanliness of somebody else's house? Someone with not much going on in their own life, I guess...

Unless they're shitting on the floor and rubbing raw meat round the house I wouldn't worry about it OP. No one ever died from dust or coffee cup rings on the kitchen side.
The healthiest kids live on farms - the dirtiest places - because they have the best immune systems. Growing up in a house that is constantly cleaned with poisonous chemicals really isn't a healthier option, that's just what the people who sell those poisonous chemicals want you to believe.

It is literally none of your business. I've no idea why it's relevant that they are nurses - are you expecting clinical standards of cleanliness at home?

Would love an answer as to why you're in their house so much to notice OP? Do the lockdown rules not apply to you and your dear husband?

"discusting"

Now I know it's not a real thread 😂

(FWIW the one nurse who's house I've been in is a total scruff bag when it comes to cleaning so you may have a point).

[quote lynsey91]**@MasterBeth well maybe you think having your settee and armchairs completely covered in piles of books, newspapers etc is normal and fine but I don't and nor does anyone I know.

I am not talking 1 book and 1 or 2 papers but piles of them plus stuff all over the floor.

Fine if people want to live like that but the filthy disgusting kitchen is not on no matter what job people do. Nurses, midwives etc should know better.[/quote]
It’s fine if it’s their house and that’s how they want it.

A post that bashes nurses AND single mums ? How clever !

Is there a dedicated place on mumsnet where we can bitch about our supposed friends perceived shortcomings?

I knew a nurse who had the dirtiest house I've ever seen. She had an unemployed husband but neither of them cleaned.

I'm like your husband I have to have a clean house and I managed it whilst working full time and raising a child. But then I cannot bare it. It doesn't bother others

[quote HildegardNightingale]@Roystonv I wouldn’t believe a single thing an estate agent told me.[/quote]
😂

I'm a nurse and my house is clean. They are just mucky buggers.

My in laws have a flat they rent out and the filthiest tenants they ever had were 2 doctors. When they moved out after 2 years the cleaners assumed it had not been cleaned for a decade, it took 2 of them 2 full days to make it usable again.

It’s not like they’re carrying out nursing duties in their own homes. Who really cares?

Is there a dedicated place on mumsnet where we can bitch about our supposed friends perceived shortcomings?

It’s just called ‘mumsnet’

Perhaps your friends have other things to worry about than housework?

@vodkaredbullgirl

After a 12 1/2 hr night shift, the last thing I want to do is to clean.

Amen! Some shifts I never finish on time depending on who has been brought in the doors. 15 hours is my longest finish and that was a major incident RTC, last thing I would be arsed about is housework!!!

@Iseewhatshappeninghere

Technically a single mum because her partner is in prison. Before lockdown we would alternate dinners weekly round theirs and ours. But he's started feeling uncomfortable after the last time. I don't think his nurse is helping with the constant lectures on corona, cleanliness and that he's classed as vulnerable.

Just read this update, I think this nurse works in the same trust as me. Leave her alone.

@Becstar90

Yeah I can't understand filthy houses in any profession. Even if they don't have time to clean the whole in one go, do it bit by bit over a few days. People make out cleaning is sooo hard. Truth is they're lazy.

You belong in the 1950s

I've read so many anti NHS worker threads recently that I wonder if this is another goady, made up, one.

Currently, you aren't meant to be meeting other households indoors, unless they are your support bubble. Both families can't be your support bubble, so why do you even know about the current state of their houses? It's not believable.

Given the poor pay that nurses have, it's unlikely they can afford a cleaner, and given the long hours, it can be difficult to find the time and energy for cleaning.

I'm an NHS worker and my house is not filthy, but it's definitely far from a show home. I try to clean, but it's an impossible task with the hours I work. Our work is also very intensive physically and mentally, meaning that when I get home I just want to lie down and recover.

You belong in the 1950s
Hardly . Wtf?

So one of them is a single mother, partner in prison working a demanding job in a fucking pandemic.

Your DHs friend clearly doesn't do everything does he? Or his house wouldn't be dirty. If his house is dirty as you say it is sounds like they both do bugger all.

Even if we decree they are both slatterns the fact they are nurses is irrelevant, and starting a thread on their cleanliness is a pretty shitty thing to do. If

Also why are you calling your DHs friends wife his nurse? Is she actually his nurse i.e there on a caring capacity?

I’m a nurse and my house is a shit hole. I’ve always been shit at housework and organisation ... funnily enough my kids never got so much as a cold growing up. Actually I lie ... my youngest got tonsillitis once. He’s 20 now and never been ill since. My eldest literally never saw a doctor growing up. I put it down to brilliant immune systems strengthened by living in a mucky house haha

I’m totally different at work of cause.