To ask how many men you have loved?

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I realised fairly recently that I have only really ever really loved one man in a gave me heart away sense (and unfortunately that’s not the man that I am currently with and had kids with- long story 😢)

But it’s made me really think about the relationships I have had & the boys I have kissed and which ones I really had feelings for! I do seem to have history with inappropriate men too!!

Aibu to ask how many men you have loved?

One. But I don’t love him anymore, I care about him but don’t love him.

Two, I was utterly in love with one ex before I met DH who completely broke my heart, I still sometimes think ‘what if’ but that’s life

My first love
My best friend
My current partner

I don’t know. I’ve had a lot of relationships and thought I’ve been in love with many of them. But I’m not really sure what love is. How does lust become love? I don’t think it can be neatly categorised like that. I looked into this a while back. The feeling of love is a chemical reaction in the body caused by the release of oxytocin. I’ve definitely felt that a number of times, but then maybe a month later I couldn’t be less bothered if I never saw that person again. So I’m not really sure how real love is, or whether it’s just a social construct.

One

One and I’m still with him

Two and am married to one! Number one didn't deserve my love 😂

Two - the first was an absolutely awful, cheating, abusive bastard. The second is my gorgeous husband who has taught me the true meaning of love.

First serious boyfriend- broke my heart by sleeping with his ex!
Then my 1st husband- he had a drink problem and I couldn't reach him so we split.
And my 2nd husband who I've been with for 25 years.

Two, my first boyfriend, who turned out to be a total arsehole, and my husband.
The love I feel for my husband is so totally different to what I felt with my first boyfriend. I love him even when I’m angry, and I can’t put it into words why and how much so. We’ve had arguments and disagreements, but the certainty that I love him has never changed.

I've only loved one man, my partner. Been together 16 years, about to have a baby and a civil partnership in a few weeks.

One. He was the best man I ever met and can never be replaced.

Nowhere near as many as I thought I loved.

3 First never loved me back, second broke my heart so badly, and I'm still with the third!

One and it ended badly ive never truly got over the heartbreak. I built a wall that day and vowed never to give myself 100% to anyone else and i havent.

Several I thought but nothing like how I feel about my boyfriend.

2 for me. First love at 18, which was intense but fizzled out, and met my now dh when I was 27. He's the one I'll grow old with.

There were 2 who I loved who didn't really know the meaning of the word and unfortunately I married them and had children with them (Please no pile-ons here, the relationships were abusive and took me a long time to realise they were abusive)
1 first love who I adored, together 3 years.

Well and truly loved the bones of - 1. We were together 9 years and when he left 18 months ago because he wanted kids and I couldn't have any more it all but broke me. I don't think I will ever fall in love with anyone again, that part of me is gone

1. My first love and my dh. My first love was by far the purest and deepest love. I love my dh as more like a comfy pair of slippers and security-that sounds awful!

@Ilikewinter, you and me both

1. My first love, the first very serious adult love who was a horrible bastard, and DH.

There are two others in the mix there who I thought I was in love with, but I think was actually just extreme crushes driven by other factors, and who I'm very glad I never ended up with.

Only one. My Dh and I have been together since I was 19. Before I was 19 I wasn't old enough to know what love is. Before then I thought it was crush/lust/longing/obsession type stuff. So only Dh.

I love 2 and they are my baby boys! They have all of my love, my true love

None? All of them? I have no Ídea what love feels like.

Two. One didn't love me. The other did and I cocked it up.