Friend stood me up but says it's my fault. Is it?

[Somethingkindaoooo]

Hi
My friend and I go through periods where we go for a walk in the morning ( 5.30am)

We just started up again- went once and then made plans to do it again the next day. We agreed via text that we wouldn't go if it was pouring with rain.

Next morning, I got up ( 10 mins before the meet time) get dressed and go to her house and wait outside. She lives very close. All lights are off, no movement. I wait. I didn't want to knock due to the time.
I'm not in the habit of bringing my phone with me, so I finally go home and pick up my phone.

She had WhatsApp d me before 5 to see if I was up. I turn my phone wifi off at night, and didnt check it before I went to meet her.
I then replied that i hadn't been up then,but i did go to meet her.
She replied with laughing emojis and said she went back to bed 5 mins before we were to meet.
I pointed out that she went back to bed 5 mins before our meeting time.

She then said that I should have replied to her text. The one asking if I was up ( sent 40 mins before our meeting time)

As the message was sent via WhatsApp, she could see that the message wasn't received on my end ( wifi off).
And she did not ever say that she was cancelling.

So
YABU - me not receiving a message is a clear indication I wasn't going to show

YANBU - she stood me up and is trying to blame me.

If it matters, she has cancelled at short notice/ slept through about 3 of the last 5 times.
I've slept through once.
I do understand that she may not have slept well, and decided not to get up. My beef is that she never ever cancelled. Messaging ' are you up?' At 4.50 am is not the same as saying that she changed her mind.

YA-Both-BU

1. YABU for going for walks at such an inhuman time ...but that's my personal opinion

2. write this one off to miscommunication on both sides, in an ideal world you'd both apologise to each other

You should've checked your phone before you left the house.

She assumed you'd overslept and went back to bed.

Give your head a wobble OP you are in the wrong here.

I’m more confused why anyone turns their wifi off at night 😂

@personallyvictimizedbyreginage

I’m more confused why anyone turns their wifi off at night 😂

lots of people do this. 🌺

@personallyvictimizedbyreginage

I’m more confused why anyone turns their wifi off at night 😂

Yeh I've never heard of this either. Just press do not disturb no?

you both have your issues with this but don't fall out with her over it. it is a minor issue

@Sstrongtn

I’d have gone back to bed if you didn’t reply to the message.

Think as you both keep cancelling/sleeping through, and because 5.30 is an ungodly hour you should forget the whole thing!

This^

@personallyvictimizedbyreginage

I’m more confused why anyone turns their wifi off at night 😂

whispers so Google & alexa can't hear what I say in my sleep, obviously

@RootyT00t god I cba to turn the actual box off?! What a strange thing to do! My phones always on silent or Donnot disturb kicks in about midnight!

My dad turns his “data” off in the house but I think he still only had 1gb a month so that I get !

@Saltyslug

Tell her you’ll text her if you can’t make it but no contact means you can make it

But OP has slept through the meeting time before. She can’t send a text to say “I haven’t woken up” ?

you sound childish.
sorry to be blunt. but really. if that's all you've got to worry about...
and what does it matter whose fault it was.
is fault even a useful or relevant concept in this situation.
why do want to crow over her, that's it's her fault, ; will that really make you feel better. this is why you sound immature.

@alexdgr8

you sound childish. sorry to be blunt. but really. if that's all you've got to worry about... and what does it matter whose fault it was. is fault even a useful or relevant concept in this situation. why do want to crow over her, that's it's her fault, ; will that really make you feel better. this is why you sound immature.

how very unfair and nasty, I wonder why you bothered to even respond to this Thread 🤔

You are both being unreasonable to go for walks at 5:30am.

If my friend asked me to go for a walk at 5:30 I'd laugh and laugh.....