To not want to take OH speed awareness course?

[freeus]

Oh has been caught speeding, he's already done a speed awareness course 2 years ago.
he's complaining that the insurance is going to up now. I said I don't want to take the wrath for him it's not my problem!

AIBU?
Apparently I've got no loyalty to him and I'm not backing him up.

Not to mention it's illegal

Whilst you shouldn't be taking the course for him and you could be found out etc...I did one a good few years ago now, and actually thought it was excellent.

It opened my eyes to all sorts of things that I have really appreciated now in my driving. It was a good use of my time, and at the time I asked if you could buy a place on the course, as I wanted my DH to attend!!

@Justcallmebebes

This doesn't sound right. You can only do the course once so if he's already been caught speeding once and done the speed awareness course, he won't be offered it on a second conviction.

Leaving that aside, taking points or responsibilty on behalf of a third party will result in a prison sentence if caught

Maybe different police forces have different rules but you can definitely do more than one course where I am, as long as a minimum time has passed you can be offered another one

I can't remember how long it is but years ago I did a course and remember working out when I'd passed the time just in case it happened again.

He’s the one that sped. Tell him to stop speeding to avoid points.

*Whilst you shouldn't be taking the course for him and you could be found out etc...I did one a good few years ago now, and actually thought it was excellent.

It opened my eyes to all sorts of things that I have really appreciated now in my driving. It was a good use of my time, and at the time I asked if you could buy a place on the course, as I wanted my DH to attend!!*

I would send my soon to be 17 year old on it if I could. Lots of really good information that just isn’t covered learning to drive. It wouldn’t be a bad idea to have some sort of course like this before you get behind a wheel.

So he wants you to break the law and lie? Nice!

He could try not speeding maybe?

Is he having a fucking laugh!?!?!
Just send him the internet links to the news articles of all the people who have been JAILED for this fraud with the subject "this conversation ends here" and dont engage any further.
He made his bed he can bloody lie in it. So mad for you!!

What a Prince among men he sounds. He got caught speeding, and if you don’t break the law for him then it’ll be YOUR fault if your insurance premiums go up?!

Is he normally so fucking stupid?

YANBU. Ridiculous.

I must say, it sounds like you have some big issues there. He wants you to break the law for him, he's telling you that you're being unreasonable, he's selfish and stupid...

Er, no, HE is going to make your bills go up. Him and his shitty selfish driving! And trying to coerce you into a criminal offence so he doesn't have to face the consequences of his decisions? Fuck that. If my DP tried that shit he would be praying not lose his licence as he'd be sleeping in his fucking car!

Plus of course possibility of children into care!

What a knob - and I don't say that lightly.

@RachelRoth

Do you have children together? His attitude towards you now, blaming you, is not acceptable.

And if you do have children together you’d better line up some guardians for them for the months you’re both locked up!

Definitely stick to your guns @freeus. He’s an idiot if he thinks he can get away with that anyway, he has no idea what evidence they have of who was driving. Can’t believe he’s so willing to put you in that position.

@freeus

I read this as 'AIBU to not want to take OH to speed awareness course. Like, I thought you didn't want to give him a lift there.

But nope! He wants you to DO it for him!

What a selfish, self-serving arsehole. I'd probably LTB for this tbh, if I had no kids with him, and wasn't married to him. He obviously doesn't think much of you, to put you at risk of legal action/arrest/court/jailtime!

Do not even dream of doing this
You will have a criminal record for dishonesty that WILL limit your opportunities
Fancy travelling to the USA at any point?
Not a chance with that on your record
And your insurance will be a damn sight higher if you're caught

He needs to take responsibility for his own mistakes

If he did a course 2 years ago he hasn't been offered another.

Yes 2 dc's i'm not doing it I've already said, he's been saying your the type of woman to go to the police if you see someone committing a crime and I've said yeah what's wrong with that?

Absolutely do not under any circumstances do it. You would be better off going and shoplifting from Sainsbury’s in terms of likely sentence, and you don’t do that, do you?

I'd dump someone for this. The speeding is bad enough, but pressurising you into taking the blame for his actions would be a deal breaker for me.

@VeniVidiWeeWee
No he asked me to pretend I was driving so I can do a speed awareness course because I've never done one, I didn't word it very well

@freeus

No I meant he's already done a speed awareness course so it's either he takes the points or begs me to do a speed awareness course. But I've refused and he's saying I'm not loyal and I'm going to make our bills go up.

It's all my fault!

Has he been offered the chance to do another speed awareness course? Or is he just assuming he will?

[quote freeus]@VeniVidiWeeWee
No he asked me to pretend I was driving so I can do a speed awareness course because I've never done one, I didn't word it very well[/quote]
Oh, ffs! What an absolute dick.

@PubicMenace

I don't think you can take the course twice.

Yes, you can take it twice. I have. . There has to have been a 3 year (I think) gap since your last course.

Jesus Christ you have 2 children and he would rather risk you both going to prison than just take the points and, perhaps, just stop fucking speeding? Stand firm OP, he’s being an absolute dick.