To not want to take OH speed awareness course?

[freeus]

Oh has been caught speeding, he's already done a speed awareness course 2 years ago.
he's complaining that the insurance is going to up now. I said I don't want to take the wrath for him it's not my problem!

AIBU?
Apparently I've got no loyalty to him and I'm not backing him up.

Not to mention it's illegal

What a twat

Oh god, this reminds me that I accidentally took DH’s points

I got a letter, it was my car, on a road I drive on daily. I sent it back on auto pilot. I was heavily pregnant and distracted and didn't mention it to DH at the time. Few weeks later I’m moaning about the fine and then he said, “Oh that was me!” then I remembered
he’d driven my car that day.

We didn’t pursue it, by then we had the baby. But I am still miffed that I took his points (never had any before) by mistake. I know it’s illegal although it was a genuine mistake and we have no proof either way (the evidence photo doesn’t show who drove).

Anyway, I’d never willingly take points for anyone. But I have by mistake. Idiot me.

Its an offence

Its called perverting the course of justice.

People end up in prison for it.

Tell him exactly that and see if it sounds such a good plan.

YANBU

@Justcallmebebes

This doesn't sound right. You can only do the course once so if he's already been caught speeding once and done the speed awareness course, he won't be offered it on a second conviction.

Leaving that aside, taking points or responsibilty on behalf of a third party will result in a prison sentence if caught

Nobody is doing the course a second time. Either he is getting points or OP is doing the course once. Hopefully the former.

He will never learn to not speed if you pick up the points/do the course. Tell him to suck it up!
When we lived in Oz my dh regularly got caught speeding. $150 a time. That was a weekly shop. I bent his ear on it and he soon stopped.
He still gets points/has to do a course. I have to shame him because he’s being plain stupid 🙄
Do NOT do the course for him. If he starts pressuring you, he needs to fuck off!

[quote freeus]@VeniVidiWeeWee
No he asked me to pretend I was driving so I can do a speed awareness course because I've never done one, I didn't word it very well[/quote]
You didn't word it well and it seems to be because he (and you) are focusing on the idea of you taking the course instead of the idea of you perverting the course of justice - which is the crime you are talking about committing when you plan on pretending it was you that broke the law not him in order to keep your insurance premiums down.

Tell him to stop asking you to break the law and put yourself at risk of jail just because he's a bad driver.

@freeus

No I meant he's already done a speed awareness course so it's either he takes the points or begs me to do a speed awareness course. But I've refused and he's saying I'm not loyal and I'm going to make our bills go up.

It's all my fault!

Leave/divorce him. A decent man owns his mistakes. Yours clearly isn't decent.

STUPID
Don't do this
What if you get caught? You'll be a criminal then?
Disloyal my fucking arse. Tell him he is disloyal for trying to criminalise you.

Psychopathy, sometimes considered synonymous with sociopathy, is traditionally a personality disorder characterized by persistent antisocial behavior, impaired empathy and remorse, and bold, disinhibited, and egotistical traits.
O my-he's an actual psychopath!

@freeus

Yes 2 dc's i'm not doing it I've already said, he's been saying your the type of woman to go to the police if you see someone committing a crime and I've said yeah what's wrong with that?

Ask yourself: * what kind of person thinks criminals should be allowed to do what they like? * what kind of person wants to put their family at risk (you both in jail, kids in care whilst you are inside, criminal records for both afterwards) instead of owning up to a wrongdoing?

Then contact a solicitor to start divorce proceedings.

Two words. Vicky pryce.

@Mintjulia

Or you could just report him to the police for trying to pressurise you. Attempting to pervert the course of justice is also a crime.

I'm pretty sure it's also a form of domestic abuse, to try to coerce a partner into criminal behaviour.

Yes 2 dc's i'm not doing it I've already said, he's been saying your the type of woman to go to the police if you see someone committing a crime and I've said yeah what's wrong with that?

...............

Youve got two children and you have this kind of relationship.... How weird!!

There will likely be a picture of him, it will be clear that you were not driving.

His actions, his consequences.

Explain to him that you will be caught and you will receive a criminal record

He needs to learn from this, not pass the buck to you

These speed tickets are often very spuriously given out.
There are no words. The whole post reads like a Country and Western song.

Wtf. Parker! He should not be putting the woman he loves in this position by driving dangerously and putting her at risk of a criminal conviction.

However your post reads as purposefully goady?

@Parkerwhereareyou - I seriously hope you're taking the wee wee.

@Theunamedcat

My mom has taken it twice it was a few years apart and yes she is old enough to know better she has been caught a few times just over the speed limit "just" (not doing a hundred in a thirty zone)

You mean she was speeding? There is no "just" in the sentence.

@Parkerwhereareyou
He's your husband. Your man, your son, your father, your whole male family. And you're his woman. So just do it for him and be nice.

@Parkerwhereareyou

well I would do it for him like a shot because I'm a team player.

I'd judge that in the scheme of things, it doesn't hurt anyone. I'd obviously make him sweat a bit and say this is only once you idiot.

But I'd do it for him. He's your husband. Your man, your son, your father, your whole male family. And you're his woman. So just do it for him and be nice.

These speed tickets are often very spuriously given out. The speed awareness course almost acknowledges this. Help him. He's your husband ffs.

I'm assuming two things here. You are a man. And you are an idiot. Who gives a fuck about him or anyone else being "your whole male family". He's someone who can't read the speed limit signs, and frankly, shouldn't be driving if he's blind.

no point, he will only do it again. He needs to take the hit if he didnt learn his lesson the first time.

parker surely as ‘her man’ he should be protecting and loving her? Not pushing her to take an unwarranted sanction.