To not want to take OH speed awareness course?

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Oh has been caught speeding, he's already done a speed awareness course 2 years ago.
he's complaining that the insurance is going to up now. I said I don't want to take the wrath for him it's not my problem!

AIBU?
Apparently I've got no loyalty to him and I'm not backing him up.

Not to mention it's illegal

He’ll get six points. Don’t do it. My ex kept getting speeding tickets. He has six points. He still speeds and parks illegally. I always send the police his details.

My XH wanted me to do this and it was one of the final nails in the coffin of our marriage. Don't put yourself at risk. Asking you to do this shows that he doesn't care at all that you could get into serious trouble.

No I meant he's already done a speed awareness course so it's either he takes the points or begs me to do a speed awareness course. But I've refused and he's saying I'm not loyal and I'm going to make our bills go up.

It's all my fault!

The photo of him going through the speed trap may well show who was driving.

Then he needs to take the points and not speed. He sounds like a cunt.

OP what he’s asking you to do is pervert the course of justice, this is a far more serious offence and can involve prison time.

He needs to suck it up, not too speed and Man Up,

I did the speed awareness course recently. We were told that it didn't need to be declared to insurance, only points must be declared.

He is a prick. If you were to do that for him you could both end up in prison: www.theguardian.com/uk/2013/mar/11/chris-huhne-vicky-pryce

He's a dick.

However...when I did my speed awareness course a little while back (oops!) I was told you can't take another one within 2 years but after that you can do another one (as long as the criteria are met)

The insurance increase won’t be that much. They will have a photo of the car which may have enough detail to identify if a male or female driver. They probably won’t look that closely, but I wouldn’t take the risk that they randomly check some.

3 points really doesn't increase your insurance much if at all. Tell him to do some online insurance quotes.

It's all my fault!

It's all his fault. It's a criminal offence if you do it.

It's a no brainer, he needs to own up to it himself. End of.

Stick to your guns OP. You lying for him wouldn’t be loyalty it’d be stupidity. If he really cared about you it wouldn’t even have crossed his mind to ask you to do it.

This doesn't sound right. You can only do the course once so if he's already been caught speeding once and done the speed awareness course, he won't be offered it on a second conviction.

Leaving that aside, taking points or responsibilty on behalf of a third party will result in a prison sentence if caught

Apparently I've got no loyalty to him

Well he's clearly got no loyalty to you either or he wouldn't be demanding you deliberately pervert the course of justice.

It'd be the end of the end of the relationship for me.

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Stick to your guns OP. You lying for him wouldn’t be loyalty it’d be stupidity. If he really cared about you it wouldn’t even have crossed his mind to ask you to do it.

This!

I'd be furious that he'd even asked me.

You will end up in prison OP. It is illegal to take his points or do his speed awareness course.

No I meant he's already done a speed awareness course so it's either he takes the points or begs me to do a speed awareness course. But I've refused and he's saying I'm not loyal and I'm going to make our bills go up.

It's all my fault!

He's grade 1 arsehole. HE broke the law and YOU are at fault for not taking the blame? Fuck that shit

Does he realise that you could potentially end up in prison for this? It's a real possibility. Please don't do it

Do you have children together? His attitude towards you now, blaming you, is not acceptable.

He’s a dick. Tell him this is on him and not to turn it into your issue. It’s entirely his problem

He wants you to go to prison for him?

As some PP have said, you can do the course twice but there has to be a gap between courses of a few years. Also, chances are there will be a photo of his car when he was caught and he will be clearly visible as the driver, so even if you were that way inclined you're unlikely to get away with it.

The other MP that was caught doing this was Fiona Onasanya. She was sentenced to three months in prison.

Not only is your DH criminal, he is also very stupid.

This doesn't sound right. You can only do the course once so if he's already been caught speeding once and done the speed awareness course, he won't be offered it on a second conviction

You can do the course more than once, but there is a minimum time lapse- if you haven’t done the course in the last 3 years you may be offered it again.

What the o/p means is her dh will get points/fine if her d/h admits the offence, but as the o/p hasn’t been caught speeding before she will likely be offered the course, so neither of them will end up with point.

Don’t do it o/p. They do ask a couple of questions at the beginning of the course which often catches people out if it wasn’t their offence.