To not want to take OH speed awareness course?

[freeus]

Oh has been caught speeding, he's already done a speed awareness course 2 years ago.
he's complaining that the insurance is going to up now. I said I don't want to take the wrath for him it's not my problem!

AIBU?
Apparently I've got no loyalty to him and I'm not backing him up.

Not to mention it's illegal

Driving too fast endangers the lives of others. I’d be really upset if my partner was caught speeding twice because it’s such a selfish thing to do. If he then tried to bully me into taking his punishment for speeding I’d leave him!

Don’t do it you can be charged with preventing the course of justice and very likely to get prison time.

Wow that’s a great update OP. Definitely supporting the right team team Op and dc. Good luck

Well, that was quick... 🧐

Oh, cross post, sorry.

Well done 👍

Well done

Wow that was fast. When does the tenancy start?

I don't understand the logic of 'he can't take the course, he's already done it'. You can't nominate someone else to do the course if you've done it, you get the penalty points instead.

I'd have hoped the Chris Huhne/Vicky Pryce case would warn off anyone from saying they were driving when their partner was caught speeding. It's not only illegal, but taken very seriously by the courts.

@GreyhoundG1rl

Well, that was quick... 🧐

I got caught speeding a few years ago and the photo they had was undeniably me - there was no way someone could have done the course for me. I wouldn't take the risk if I was you!

He should take the points. Do the crime, take the fine.

The reality is that points for standard speeding fines (not the ones for really huge speeding) don’t even add much to insurance unless you already have several points and unless they are for doing speeds like 100mph or related to dangerous driving etc.

Much better to be honest and put your hands up to the crime and take the pretty small fine and points than to commit fraud with a much heavier penalty.

If he’s that worried about insurance, do some fictional searches on comparison sites and add in some points. You’ll see it doesn’t add vastly to insurance price, unless he’s perhaps under 20. But this isn’t the key point although might help him to do the right thing. The right thing is simply the right thing.

Don’t feel pressured into doing the wrong thing here.

sounds like not the first time op probably the straw that broke etc

good luck in yur new home

@freeus

I'm still reading just been on the phone to my mum telling her everything. I've just rented a new house all in my name. Soon as I've sorted out childcare ect I'm done with him for good. I can't keep living my life like this we're never going to work.

Good on you, you sound far too good for the useless twat.

This is why speed awareness courses do not work

He won't get offered one, not with just a two year gap.

He'll have to take the points. Don't take them for him.

@freeus

Well he's going round to his mums now to drop her some shopping so let's see if his brother agrees to it. I doubt it!

What?

You actually suggested this to him?

Hell's bells, wumman! [shock

Sorry - fail

Well done, OP!
Stay strong and show him that you don't have to put up with such crap in your life.
Let his devoted brother "take one for the team" and then get away from all of them ASAP!

Good luck!

It's less than 3 years since he did last course so he won't be given the option of a course

You've sorted out new accommodation? That was fast.

Isn't it, Moon?

We was all supposed to be moving together I said I wanted the house in my name so I can have a bit more control our relationship isn't steady enough for us both to be on it. But now I think it's best to just call it a day.
Their is so much more that has been going on not just this I posted on here the other day but NC.

This is the perfect time now for me to get rid of him!

No I haven't just sorted it now we planned to move into this house together but all under my name.

Well done

Well, it was very convenient, that's for sure...

@MoChridhe

I did the speed awareness course recently. We were told that it didn't need to be declared to insurance, only points must be declared.

This is different for different insurers. Some expect you to disclose it. Others don't.