I have had friends commit suicide/attempt to. There have been two patterns I have seen a lot of, the person who asks for help and everyone is there for, but over time you can't be on that constant state of high Alert all the time, so even though you are scared they might harm themselves, you have to go to work, you have to get some sleep, you have to leave them alone for some time for whatever reason. I really recognised when her mum said the worst thing CF did was not text her mum back. Because every time she didn't her mum would believe she had killed herself. But her mum, her sister, her friends, had no choice but to live their lives too. They could not watch CF all the time. She was always vulnerable to Suicide, and they could not have done more even if they had been with her 24/7. Because if they had, then she still would have found a way. In fact she would have probably got there sooner.
Then there are the people who pretend they are fine, when you can see they aren't really. You try to convince yourself to believe their lies. You try to tell yourself that they really are as fine as they say they are. And after they commit suicide you know that you should have trusted your instincts, and you hate yourself for it. You hate that their is no time to rectify it. That is the story her family and friends told too.
There are so many people like CF. They have EUPD/BPD, depression, anxiety, PTSD, addiction/alcoholism, eating disorders, bipolar, etc. But they are so much more than that. They try their best to hide their darkness, because people do not understand that you can be both a Ray of light and vulnerable to so much darkness. But they are not at odds. Sometimes these brave, intelligent, talented, fantastic individuals are also the most flawed and damaged. They have the worst battles in private. In a way this story reminds me of Amy Winehouse, another woman who had her demons and the press vilified. I sometimes think that a life without fame, a little less talent and more mediocrity would have saved these women.
But it should not be so! People who are vulnerable should not be restricted because of a bullying press, they should be able to reach the top of their game and be treated as human beings still. And if they are struggling they should feel able to ask for help without being vilified or weakened by that. Amy should have gone to rehab, and CF should have gone to a psychiatrist, and the world would be a better place for it.
Instead we have mental health stigma, layered with misogyny and bullying, and you end up with dead young women.