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Original poster

To make him walk when he thinks he's getting a lift.

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1099 · 19/03/2021 09:04

DS has a detention after school today, (Not his fault obviously he just happened to carry on talking after he'd been warned to be quiet during the lesson!) Anyway that's not the point, I've said I'll meet him after because there are no buses to here from there, only the school bus which he'll have missed obviously.
The school is about 2.5 maybe 3 miles away, I'm thinking of walking up with the dog and then walking home with him (and the dog). The plus side is a nice walk for me and the dog and DS (although he won't appreciate it) the downside is he'll probably moan most of the way home because he's expecting me to be in the car.

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ImInStealthMode · 19/03/2021 09:05

Excellent plan! Go for it.

KingstonTownThePlaceILongToBe · 19/03/2021 09:06

If you want to walk then walk.
His behaviour has made him miss his bus so hopefully it will be a lesson well learnt.

HollowTalk · 19/03/2021 09:06

Why would you put yourself through a three mile moaning session?

ZackaryQuack · 19/03/2021 09:08

I think it's a great plan, and if he moans just tell him, dog needed walking, you fancied a walk and if he doesn't want to walk, he stops talking when the teacher tells him to not when he wants to, so he doesn't get detention for it.

My dad did this to me, it was actually really nice to walk and we had a really good catch up just one to one.

IFoundMyselfInThisBar · 19/03/2021 09:09

But why? As extra punishment? He’ll have done the detention so if it’s to double punish him then it’s not something I’d do to my children.

Maybe I’m not understanding your reason though.

Beseigedbykillersquirrels · 19/03/2021 09:09

Detentions are supposed to be inconvenient and a punishment. If he really hates walking then maybe he'll think twice about getting a detention next time. I think it's a great idea!

BerniesMittens · 19/03/2021 09:11

Excellent plan. Your dog needs a walk, you get time to chat and he doesn't get to ride home after his detention. He's got to walk because of his own actions.

DancesWithDaffodils · 19/03/2021 09:17

From the title I was all set to be horrified. But actually, I think it's a great idea. Go for it.

HollowTalk · 19/03/2021 09:19

Won't he have a heavy bag?

bloodywhitecat · 19/03/2021 09:20

My two always knew that detention = the long walk home because they would miss the school bus, go for it.

Mrgrinch · 19/03/2021 09:21

To be honest it's a but petty, the detention is his punishment. I'd possibly understand if he had done something terrible, but it was only too much talking.

CRbear · 19/03/2021 09:23

He’s got to learn! I think it’s a great idea. All this double punishment bollocks- walking is not a punishment, it’s good for health!

IWentAwayIStayedAway · 19/03/2021 09:24

Walk. Do not make his life simpler. His actions have consequences! Dog will love it. Bring your earphones for walk home Grin

merryhouse · 19/03/2021 09:25

It's hardly a long walk. Not enough to even squeeze you onto a free bus: loads of my secondary-school peers were doing that both ways every day.

It would probably have been better to mention it at the time, though Grin

Shinesun14 · 19/03/2021 09:25

We also live about 2.5/3 miles away from school and I made my ds walk home after his one and only detention he got. He hasn't had a detention since.

On the plus side he now saves his bus money and walks home everyday unless its raining which I think is far better for him as he's got a bit chubby over lockdown.

DenisetheMenace · 19/03/2021 09:27

HollowTalk

Won't he have a heavy bag?“

Fair question. Ours’ school bags were like carting an extra small person around on their backs all day.

canigooutyet · 19/03/2021 09:29

I would.
I’d also ignore the moaning by having my headphones in. After being told had he listened in the first place he would have been able to take his usual journey. However, this is my time so my choice how we travel.

Laila747 · 19/03/2021 09:29

Take your earphones and enjoy the walk! Perhaps he’ll think twice about excessive chatting next time!

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1099 · 19/03/2021 09:29

Yes a part of me was thinking if it happened again he'd know the way home so I could just tell him to walk.
To those who asked; I wasn't really thinking of it as a second punishment more of making the point that it's a pain for everyone not just him.

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HoldontoOneMoreDay · 19/03/2021 09:30

If he will have an enormously heavy bag (which is fair, ours don't have lockers so there's a lot of stuff to cart) then OP could be very kind and take an empty rucksack with her. Or not.

AlecTrevelyan006 · 19/03/2021 09:30

I don’t really see the point. What are you trying to prove?

Original poster
1099 · 19/03/2021 09:30

No his bags not heavy.

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IWantMyHoney · 19/03/2021 09:37

Ds has had to do this several times (not doing homework).
We live 3 miles from school. I didn't have the luxury of a car then so he had to walk home, no choice.

Sunbird24 · 19/03/2021 09:42

Detention doesn’t really inconvenience him all that much does it, more the OP who has to go and get him. A walk of that length isn’t a punishment for a fit & healthy child, but he’ll hopefully remember it next time!

2late2fixate · 19/03/2021 09:45

@HollowTalk

Won't he have a heavy bag?

Oh no the poor wee lamb ! Hmm

3 miles is nothing. Jesus no wonder some kids are so spoilt today.

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