Page 12 | Delivery driver tried to run into me

Kazkepper123 · 2021-03-11T21:21:25+00:00

Long and short is that I had a delivery today. Pallet was over 2 metre high and they wouldn’t deliver it to the back of the house. Every other delivery has been delivered this way. He wouldn’t tell me why he wouldn’t do it. It could have been there wasn’t enough space or whatever but he wouldn’t say. I asked him to take the delivery back as I didn’t want to be liable for a pallet on the main road that wasn’t secured properly (was no wrap at the bottom) and I hadn’t signed the tablet. He refused. As the driver was closing the back of the van etc I stood at the front of the van and tried to call the company. The driver than tried to drive into me. Had to call the police etc. AIBU for standing in front of the truck and him trying to run into me? I was on the phone to his company.

JustAnotherPoster00 · 12/03/2021 16:58

Her account read like someone who was in shock. And who wouldn’t be after such a power play by a violent man.

Sock puppets arent condoned here OP

AIMD · 12/03/2021 17:08

@littlejalapeno

Her account read like someone who was in shock. And who wouldn’t be after such a power play by a violent man.

Doesn’t read like that to me. To me it reads like she had a disagreement with the delivery driver and tried to prevent him leaving. She stood in the road to prevent him leaving and because she didn’t get her way she’s making a big deal out of him driving closely to her when he drove away.

Do you think it’s ok for people to detain others by blocking them leaving?

littlejalapeno · 12/03/2021 17:09

Wanting to hurt someone does automatically mean wanting to kill them, just a little scare to remind her who had the power in that situation.

And no I’m not the OP. It must be crazy that someone didn’t want to join your pile on, but here I am!

hannayeah · 12/03/2021 17:14

I can 100% guarantee you if someone tried to drop a delivery on our property and my husband refused it, the driver would take it and leave, not just dump it and drive off.

hannayeah · 12/03/2021 17:15

@littlejalapeno

I’m here too.

JustAnotherPoster00 · 12/03/2021 17:21

who had the power in that situation

In an insecure job market with very little recourse or use trying to fall back on an inadequate welfare system, having to no doubt juggle delivery times and if he complied to every 'could you drop it here instead' or 'could you just give me a little hand' I'm sure his wages would be whittled down £1 an our, so in my mind the OP had all the power there and she wanted to bully the driver into knowing this for his audacity to not acquiesce to her CF demands

JustAnotherPoster00 · 12/03/2021 17:23

@hannayeah

I can 100% guarantee you if someone tried to drop a delivery on our property and my husband refused it, the driver would take it and leave, not just dump it and drive off.

I doubt the driver would have dropped before getting a signature, so after signature he started to unload and im sure thats when OP probably piped up wanting her demand 'oh so reasonable request' taken care of

littlejalapeno · 12/03/2021 17:27

Detain him how? Was he unable to reverse? Did she lock him up? Sit on him? Stop him getting in his cab to drive away? All 153cm of her?

“She didn’t get her way” over refusing delivery? Which is her legal right to do, having checked it and decided she didn’t want it and couldn’t accept delivery?

It was his job to take it back and he didn’t want to so he physically intimidated her. Classy.

hannayeah · 12/03/2021 17:28

She wrote that he drove off without the signature.

HopingForOurRainbowBaby · 12/03/2021 17:28

@littlejalapeno

Her account read like someone who was in shock. And who wouldn’t be after such a power play by a violent man.

It reads like someone who's totally bullshitting!! Not someone who's in shock. If you're in shock your story doesn't change every time you post something

littlejalapeno · 12/03/2021 17:32

@JustAnotherPoster00 look at you twisting yourself in knots trying to make her the baddie who has done something wrong and his acts of violence and intimidation therefore justified. No wonder so many men think they can get away with abusing and killing women with people like you here making every excuse to question and deride the woman who was threatened. Shameful.

AIMD · 12/03/2021 17:37

@littlejalapeno

Wanting to hurt someone does automatically mean wanting to kill them, just a little scare to remind her who had the power in that situation.

And no I’m not the OP. It must be crazy that someone didn’t want to join your pile on, but here I am!

Detain him how? Op said “ Obviously he didn’t like me trying to stop him from driving away,”.

I’m guessing her standing in front of the van wouldn’t have been effective had he been able to simply reverse.

I don’t disagree that maybe the driver should have taken the load back.

Else where op described it as “moved his vehicle in front of me”. I find that to be the much more likely scenario.

As someone else said. I’m sure had he driven directly at her and tried to hurt her the police would have prioritised that.

JustAnotherPoster00 · 12/03/2021 17:38

Doesnt make any sense for the driver to drop without signature first, because if you dropped at the wrong address, or the customer wanted to return the goods youd then have to relift back onto the truck/van/car whatever vehicle OP wants to change it too, had he not got a signature theres no way hed have driven off without the load because hed be personally held accountable for the stock

AIMD · 12/03/2021 17:39

[quote littlejalapeno]@JustAnotherPoster00 look at you twisting yourself in knots trying to make her the baddie who has done something wrong and his acts of violence and intimidation therefore justified. No wonder so many men think they can get away with abusing and killing women with people like you here making every excuse to question and deride the woman who was threatened. Shameful.[/quote]
What acts of violence ? Trying to leave?

littlejalapeno · 12/03/2021 17:45

I can’t believe you’re trying to justify using a vehicle as a weapon to run someone over. I know I would perceive anyone trying to run me over as them acting violently. Are you a man? Are you arguing for the right to run women over when they disagree with you?

JustAnotherPoster00 · 12/03/2021 17:50

@littlejalapeno

I can’t believe you’re trying to justify using a vehicle as a weapon to run someone over. I know I would perceive anyone trying to run me over as them acting violently. Are you a man? Are you arguing for the right to run women over when they disagree with you?

Lets all jump on the hyperbole train

So are you suggesting that women should be able to hold men hostage for some arbitrary reason?

littlejalapeno · 12/03/2021 17:54

Yes the kind of men who think it’s acceptable to behave this way should be detained at her majesty’s leisure. What’s your point? I think we both know the kind of man you are and not one I want to talk to tbh

AIMD · 12/03/2021 18:02

@littlejalapeno

Yes the kind of men who think it’s acceptable to behave this way should be detained at her majesty’s leisure. What’s your point? I think we both know the kind of man you are and not one I want to talk to tbh

Do you think a delivery driver trying to leave after a disagreement with a customer should be prevented from leaving?

Did the op mention he was shouting or rude anywhere? I just read that they disagreed on the where the package was left.

Do you think it would have been that hard for him to actually hit her if he really did try to ‘run her over’. Why do you think to he op described the event as “moved the vehicle in front of me” instead of drove at me?

Why do you think the police didn’t urgent come out if someone reported somewhere else trying to run them over with a large van.

BTW I’m a woman

hannayeah · 12/03/2021 18:12

Some of the phrases above are bizarre. She’s an unreliable witness? This isn’t a court of law. The OP doesn’t get anything out of posting here besides possibly some support.

imalmostthere · 12/03/2021 18:19

You paid for kerb side delivery, got kerb side delivery, and then refused it, because he wouldn't take it into your garden? And then stood in front of his van to stop him leaving? Have I got this right??

Lovelydiscusfish · 12/03/2021 18:22

@hannayeah

I can 100% guarantee you if someone tried to drop a delivery on our property and my husband refused it, the driver would take it and leave, not just dump it and drive off.

How can you 100% guarantee this? What means does your husband have at his disposal to ensure delivery people comply with his wishes? Genuinely curious.

SchrodingersImmigrant · 12/03/2021 18:25

@hannayeah

Some of the phrases above are bizarre. She’s an unreliable witness? This isn’t a court of law. The OP doesn’t get anything out of posting here besides possibly some support.

More like giggles...

Lovelydiscusfish · 12/03/2021 18:38

@JustAnotherPoster00

who had the power in that situation

In an insecure job market with very little recourse or use trying to fall back on an inadequate welfare system, having to no doubt juggle delivery times and if he complied to every 'could you drop it here instead' or 'could you just give me a little hand' I'm sure his wages would be whittled down £1 an our, so in my mind the OP had all the power there and she wanted to bully the driver into knowing this for his audacity to not acquiesce to her CF demands

This. A) maybe he isn’t even allowed into her back garden (different companies have different rules for drivers), B) maybe it’s not in his contract and he had loads more drops ahead of him and doing this might have made a difference between being able to get back to depot before his driving time runs out, or having to do an over-nighter, and he is not compelled to do as she asks and he wants to get home tonight to see his partner and kids? Or his dog? Or a match on TV? . I mean, none of us know, do we?

The information from the OP is sketchy and we are all just making our own readings of it. Mine is more of a Marxist reading - that middle class OP (buying tonnes of statuary or summat from Etsy, it would appear - what else would be liable to topple and fatally fall upon one?) wants minimum wage (they generally are) delivery fella to shift statues into her back yard, and he either isn’t allowed to, or isn’t contractually obliged to and for his own reasons doesn’t fancy it. She tries to prevent him leaving, he drives near her in his attempts to leave, she phones the cops on him..... (who don’t appear interested. Interesting.....)

I’m also staggered that he managed to shift these lethally heavy items off the truck on his own! There is no mention of a driver’s mate. Tho I fucking hope there was one, and he/she turns out to be a mumsnetter, and they rock along here and tell us the truth, the whole truth, and nothing but the truth. (Whatsoever it should turn out to be).

UserTwice · 12/03/2021 18:46

@JustAnotherPoster00

Doesnt make any sense for the driver to drop without signature first, because if you dropped at the wrong address, or the customer wanted to return the goods youd then have to relift back onto the truck/van/car whatever vehicle OP wants to change it too, had he not got a signature theres no way hed have driven off without the load because hed be personally held accountable for the stock

And here was I thinking that signatures were basically a thing of the past since Covid. I haven't signed for anything in about a year.

KrisAkabusi · 12/03/2021 18:52

I can’t believe you’re trying to justify using a vehicle as a weapon to run someone over

Nobody is trying to justify anybody getting run over. It's just that most people don't believe that's what happened! The OPs story changed many times, she avoided answering questions, and the police don't seem to be treating this as an attempted-murder case.