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Delivery driver tried to run into me

315 replies

Kazkepper123 · 11/03/2021 21:21

Long and short is that I had a delivery today. Pallet was over 2 metre high and they wouldn’t deliver it to the back of the house. Every other delivery has been delivered this way. He wouldn’t tell me why he wouldn’t do it. It could have been there wasn’t enough space or whatever but he wouldn’t say.

I asked him to take the delivery back as I didn’t want to be liable for a pallet on the main road that wasn’t secured properly (was no wrap at the bottom) and I hadn’t signed the tablet. He refused.

As the driver was closing the back of the van etc I stood at the front of the van and tried to call the company. The driver than tried to drive into me. Had to call the police etc.

AIBU for standing in front of the truck and him trying to run into me? I was on the phone to his company.

OP posts:
MyGhastIsFlabbered · 12/03/2021 12:36

Anyone dying to know what OP ordered? But I don't think they're coming back

MintyMabel · 12/03/2021 12:41

This driver deserves a pay rise for being able to unload such a dangerously overloaded pallet without it all falling off given the OP suggests it could randomly collapse when stationary.

TenaciousOnePointOne · 12/03/2021 13:18

@AlrightTreacle

Kerbside doesn't literally have to mean on a kerb. An unmade road behind a property instead of in front is no different

He would have already made the delivery at this point though? If OP wanted somewhere specific then she should have arranged this prior to delivery, in my experience kerbside is literally dropped at the nearest kerbside to your address.

Also, unadopted roads are often full of potholes, and maybe be didn't fancy bouncing down it with his van full of other deliveries?

I live on an estate of unadopted roads, no pot holes until you get on the council roads. They've been gritted far more than the council roads, and they even gritted the pavements. I have been on unadopted roads that were crappy but that's not to say that's the norm.
TenaciousOnePointOne · 12/03/2021 13:18

@MyGhastIsFlabbered

Anyone dying to know what OP ordered? But I don't think they're coming back
Cement, sand or gravel I reckon.
majesticallyawkward · 12/03/2021 13:35

@MyGhastIsFlabbered

Anyone dying to know what OP ordered? But I don't think they're coming back
OP said it was from Etsy, not sure what would be so large and in bulk from there?
HopingForOurRainbowBaby · 12/03/2021 13:35

[quote Kazkepper123]@SionnachGlic he saw me in the front of his vehicle.
Got in his car.
Started his engine.
Moved us vehicle in front of me.
All with CCTV.[/quote]
Must be big fucking car to get a huge pallet inside it with stuff that's over 2 metres high!!

majesticallyawkward · 12/03/2021 13:43

@YetAnotherSpartacus

Doesn't really give anyone the right to run anyone over does it?

Or to hit anyone with their vehicle.

Lotsa victim-blaming on this thread.

And no one involved acted particularly well either, I'm sure the drivers version of events is vastly different from OPs and it's likely neither are 100% accurate.

Imagine the driver posting in AIBU 'I tried to deliver a package and the recipient demanded I do extra work, I'm under a lot of pressure on my schedule and can't be late so had to say no because it would have delayed me and it's not my job. They then got aggressive and tried to physically stop me leaving, I was concerned for my safety and tried to leave but they claimed I'd hit them with my truck and called the police.'

I'm not saying I side with anyone on this btw, the situation escalated to an unacceptable level all round.

Nollopian · 12/03/2021 13:45

@luxxlisbon

So suddenly you had no idea it was kerbside even though your first 10+posts all mention you were well aware and so were your deliveries from other companies. And he didn’t actually hit you with his truck be “came within inches” which is probably a stretch again. All he did was drive towards you as he left because you were standing in front of the truck.
The load was also well over 2 meters high in one but probably about 180cm in another. Op comes across as just one of those woman who strops around and demands everything as she is a woman and everyone should bend to her will. Giving all us reasonable woman a bad name
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sweeneytoddsrazor · 12/03/2021 14:27

@majesticallyawkward

I did wonder what would come from Etsy in that sort of amount. I had visions of box upon box of crochet projects or a bulk buy of the dolls that go over toilet rolls. Maybe the toilet rolls were the last bulk buy that got delivered to the garden?

HopingForOurRainbowBaby · 12/03/2021 14:37

@SerendipityJane

Anyone starting to smell BS on this post?

Yes. At 10:16:55 to be exact Grin

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majesticallyawkward · 12/03/2021 15:10

[quote sweeneytoddsrazor]@majesticallyawkward

I did wonder what would come from Etsy in that sort of amount. I had visions of box upon box of crochet projects or a bulk buy of the dolls that go over toilet rolls. Maybe the toilet rolls were the last bulk buy that got delivered to the garden?[/quote]
Ah yes, the deadly loo roll dolls. Teetering on an unsteady pallet just waiting for an unsuspecting baby to wander by.

Massive crystals maybe? Fair few of them floating about Etsy.

LucyAutumn · 12/03/2021 15:52

Have you heard back from the police or company OP?

SerendipityJane · 12/03/2021 15:56

@LucyAutumn

Have you heard back from the police or company OP?
By the pricking of my thumbs. We'll wait in vain for the OP to come.

Back.

Nith · 12/03/2021 16:03

@emilyfrost

But there was a road at the side of the property? What makes one bit of roadside the correct one, and another bit a few yards away incorrect?

Nith Because the road at the back of the property is a private road.

No, it's an unadopted road. There is absolutely nothing to stop people coming to the property from using it, just as you are free to have visitors workmen etc coming to the house if you live on an unadopted road.
Nith · 12/03/2021 16:04

@Blueappletree

So you knew the van was starting, and you stood in front of the van on the road, knowing the van will be moving. Wonder what the police would say.
Hardly. She was hoping that this would stop the van from moving till she had talked to the driver's employers..
AIMD · 12/03/2021 16:10

@nith wouldn’t that be false imprisonment?

Of coarse it’s not ok to run someone over or use a vehicle dangerously. However she doesn’t have the right to block the driver leaving either. Not like he committed a serious offence, he just left a delivery in a place she didn’t like.

Lovelydiscusfish · 12/03/2021 16:34

I have to say I am on the side of the driver here. I hate it when people are shitty to delivery drivers - they are key workers and their pay and conditions are absolutely appalling. Standing in front of his van to stop him leaving was a dickhead move. And I presume if he had actually wanted to run her over he would have been successful - it can’t be that hard for a trained driver to hit someone at point blank range in a massive fuck-off work van? What prevented him in his attempt at MURDER? Or could it possibly be he was just trying to pull off, and get on with his probably gruelling schedule?

I’m also interested to know why the dangerously unsecured item was liable to topple on babies/children in particular?

littlejalapeno · 12/03/2021 16:40

Dude tried to use his vehicle as a weapon because he was unhappy with the customer and thought he was justified in hurting her...

I don’t understand why everyone is taking his side.

BoredatHome321 · 12/03/2021 16:44

@littlejalapeno

Dude tried to use his vehicle as a weapon because he was unhappy with the customer and thought he was justified in hurting her...

I don’t understand why everyone is taking his side.

not excusing his actions at all, but why the hell would you step in front of his van to try and stop him leaving?
AIMD · 12/03/2021 16:47

@littlejalapeno

Dude tried to use his vehicle as a weapon because he was unhappy with the customer and thought he was justified in hurting her...

I don’t understand why everyone is taking his side.

Or did the driver just drive away and in doing so has no choice but to pull out closely to her because she was stood in the road. That’s slightly different to “trying to run into” someone. If he had actually been trying to run into her presumably he would have succeeded given she was stood in front of the van.
littlejalapeno · 12/03/2021 16:53

So she’s an unreliable witness because you don’t want to believe her. She said he saw her, got in the vehicle and then drove at her. Let’s start believing women when they relate male aggression instead of assuming the poor man who weaponised a vehicle to hurt the woman is the victim.

littlejalapeno · 12/03/2021 16:54

Her account read like someone who was in shock. And who wouldn’t be after such a power play by a violent man.

Lovelydiscusfish · 12/03/2021 16:57

@littlejalapeno

So she’s an unreliable witness because you don’t want to believe her. She said he saw her, got in the vehicle and then drove at her. Let’s start believing women when they relate male aggression instead of assuming the poor man who weaponised a vehicle to hurt the woman is the victim.
But if he wanted to kill her with his van, how did he fail, if she was stood in front of it?

It just doesn’t compute.