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Delivery driver tried to run into me

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Kazkepper123 · 11/03/2021 21:21

Long and short is that I had a delivery today. Pallet was over 2 metre high and they wouldn’t deliver it to the back of the house. Every other delivery has been delivered this way. He wouldn’t tell me why he wouldn’t do it. It could have been there wasn’t enough space or whatever but he wouldn’t say.

I asked him to take the delivery back as I didn’t want to be liable for a pallet on the main road that wasn’t secured properly (was no wrap at the bottom) and I hadn’t signed the tablet. He refused.

As the driver was closing the back of the van etc I stood at the front of the van and tried to call the company. The driver than tried to drive into me. Had to call the police etc.

AIBU for standing in front of the truck and him trying to run into me? I was on the phone to his company.

OP posts:

dontdisturbmenow · 12/03/2021 09:52

This thread saddens me. It does get much come across that OP acted in a complete obnoxious and rude way to a guy who was just doing his job.

He was probably left stressed and anxious. This is exactly the type of scenarios that make customer focussed people become uncaring, rude and unpleasant themselves to customers totally reasonable.

Such a shameful attitude ruining experiences for everyone else.

emilyfrost · 12/03/2021 09:52

But there was a road at the side of the property? What makes one bit of roadside the correct one, and another bit a few yards away incorrect?

Nith Because the road at the back of the property is a private road.

earthyfire · 12/03/2021 10:03

You sound like a difficult customer and you have probably got away with being a dick for a long time. Today you met someone who stood up to you and you didn't like it.

Soontobe60 · 12/03/2021 10:08

@Dishwashersaurous

Really intrigued about what can be bought from etsy which is pallet size

I ordered some wool off Etsy. It didn’t come on a pallet!!!

BuggeringBugger · 12/03/2021 10:08

I'm bloody shocked at the responses. So basically even if she did have an arsey attitude she was trying to stop it causing an accident in the middle of a road. Doesn't really give anyone the right to run anyone over does it?

Blueappletree · 12/03/2021 10:08

So you knew the van was starting, and you stood in front of the van on the road, knowing the van will be moving. Wonder what the police would say.

YetAnotherSpartacus · 12/03/2021 10:10

Of course, you are YANBU .

BillMasen · 12/03/2021 10:13

@BuggeringBugger

No one believes she was “run over”

YetAnotherSpartacus · 12/03/2021 10:14

Doesn't really give anyone the right to run anyone over does it?

Or to hit anyone with their vehicle.

Lotsa victim-blaming on this thread.

BoredatHome321 · 12/03/2021 10:15

@BuggeringBugger

I mean, just because the delivery guy hasn't done what she wanted it doesn't give her the right to stand in front of his van while he's about to leave does it?

Sirzy · 12/03/2021 10:16

The victim was the driver who was trying to do his job and had to put up with idiot customers throwing themselves in front of his lorry!

SerendipityJane · 12/03/2021 10:16

What a curious thread.

Blueappletree · 12/03/2021 10:21

YetAnotherSpartacus, if OP was actually run over or hit by the van, she wouldn't be starting a thread, she would be in hospital.

Ohnomoreno · 12/03/2021 10:26

Why do people go on this site seeking validation for some weird situation we only have their word for. Weirdo magnet??

luxxlisbon · 12/03/2021 10:36

@BuggeringBugger

Nobody was run over. The truck came near her as he was trying to leave because the OP chose to stand in front of it.

hannayeah · 12/03/2021 10:49

Lots of wrong people here. Whoever shipped it was wrong. Whoever loaded his van with an unsafe load was wrong. He should have either taken it around back or not offloaded at all.

You were not wrong. But don’t stand in front of vehicles in an effort to stop people from being wrong.

What did his company say?

hannayeah · 12/03/2021 10:52

@Sirzy

The victim was the driver who was trying to do his job and had to put up with idiot customers throwing themselves in front of his lorry!

Not really. You don’t leave something massive on someone’s property if the recipient refuses delivery. No matter the reason for their refusal.

She shouldn’t have stood in his way, but that doesn’t make his behavior ok.

slashlover · 12/03/2021 11:01

he drove into me.

you realise he did actually get within inches of me?

All you had to do was unwrap it and move it. The wrapping would have been useless as soon as you did that so it being wrapped at the bottom would have made no difference.

TooYoungToNotice · 12/03/2021 11:10

You are right to refuse an unsafe load. I take deliveries at work and some of the packing is shocking, an accident waiting to happen.

Even if you were horrible to him he had no right whatsoever to engage in threatening behaviour. Having had a man drive his car at me mere months ago and having had to speak to the police about it, I have no problem believing it happened.

In my case it was the owner of a building company who had first tried to dump their detritus on our land and were requested very politely more than once to remove it. It took a threat of reporting them to the council for fly tipping before they removed it. They then blocked our entire works access with a vehicle a few days later and left it for over an hour. We had a rep stuck in the building with us and had to turn away other deliveries as our forklift could not reach them.

When the owner finally returned (only at that point did I find out it belonged to the owner of the building company - it was not sign written). I told the man in question, very politely but firmly that blocking a businesses access for that amount of time was unacceptable. His response was that I should have gone around all of the neighborhood until I found whose car it was. I told him that no, that wasn't an acceptable solution to his inconsiderate actions and not to repeat his actions. He then drove his car at me after verbally abusing me with the usual gendered slurs.

A lot of men simplly cannot accept being told by a woman what to do. No matter how polite, no matter how reasonable.

Amazing how many early posters jumped to the conclusion that you must have been rude or obnoxious and drove the poor little man to it. No wonder male violence on women continues to be such a prevalent issue when so many are so keen to excuse it at the drop of a hat.

SchrodingersImmigrant · 12/03/2021 11:10

@hannayeah

Lots of wrong people here. Whoever shipped it was wrong. Whoever loaded his van with an unsafe load was wrong. He should have either taken it around back or not offloaded at all.

You were not wrong. But don’t stand in front of vehicles in an effort to stop people from being wrong.

What did his company say?

Lol. Have you ever moved a pallet? Let alone from a van/truck? If it was TAHT unsecured, it would not be ok to move like that.

He shouldn't have taken it round back when only ketbside delivery was ordered.

People need to stop wanting wxtra services for nothing because "I am tiny and it's heaavvvvyyyy so he should have helped". People should use brains and organise themselves.

SchrodingersImmigrant · 12/03/2021 11:10

Tldr, don't order shit you can't then move

slashlover · 12/03/2021 11:15

OP, if the people who packaged it and sent it out (who I assume would be experts in this) thought it was safe then how do you know it was unsafe? ESPECIALLY as it was apparently loaded onto the truck, transported and then unloaded with no bother. If it was only unwrapped at the bottom then it would take a lot of pressure to topple over the entire thing.

Pallet was over 2 metre high

This pallet was taller than me, I’m guessing around 180cm tall.

Lairymary · 12/03/2021 11:54

As someone who recieves multiple pallet deliveries a day, some big, small, excellently wrapped and some very badly wrapped or all over the back of the lorry due to not being secure, I doubt very much that if it was that unsecure it would have arrived intact on the pallet, it would have fallen off in transit, if it didn't collapse in transit, it would have been perfectly fine stood still. IF the delivery would have fallen over injuring a small child (of course it's always a small child to pull on the heart strings) the fact that you refused to sign for it means the delivery company were liable, should that have actually happened. My guess is that you were pissy because he wouldn't go a step further than what he was required to do. You just didn't want to unload it further away from your property. This guy was trying to do his job, you were making it difficult.

BumBurnerBum · 12/03/2021 12:25

Did he actually drive into you or get within inches? You claim both but it actually makes a big difference as to what is the answer.

Rollmopsrule · 12/03/2021 12:32

So if the pallet was delivered to the back how were you going to move the stuff?

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