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Delivery driver tried to run into me

315 replies

Kazkepper123 · 11/03/2021 21:21

Long and short is that I had a delivery today. Pallet was over 2 metre high and they wouldn’t deliver it to the back of the house. Every other delivery has been delivered this way. He wouldn’t tell me why he wouldn’t do it. It could have been there wasn’t enough space or whatever but he wouldn’t say.

I asked him to take the delivery back as I didn’t want to be liable for a pallet on the main road that wasn’t secured properly (was no wrap at the bottom) and I hadn’t signed the tablet. He refused.

As the driver was closing the back of the van etc I stood at the front of the van and tried to call the company. The driver than tried to drive into me. Had to call the police etc.

AIBU for standing in front of the truck and him trying to run into me? I was on the phone to his company.

OP posts:
JustAnotherPoster00 · 12/03/2021 06:15

All the driver had to do was bring the pallet around the back of the house like every other delivery I’ve had. He said he didn’t have time. It would have taken a few minutes.

Ah yes the infamous ^few minutes^ probably 15 minutes at least

Slurtdragon · 12/03/2021 06:16

I don’t know, delivery drivers can be awkward buggers, their job is quite demanding.

There was no reason for you to stand in front of his van. Equally, he should have had the sense to have not driven away.

You sound like you may have been very very difficult, and may have handled it in a ‘Karen’ (sorry to all those wonderful people called Karen, but it’s the best description I can come up with) manner.

This guy may lose his job, and I only hope it was that he actually deserves to, rather than being pushed to tipping point. He did not hit you, nor does it sound like he had any intentions to do so, he was moving his van, and it sounds like you stood in his way, intentionally putting yourself in danger, just to stop him.

Gobbycop · 12/03/2021 06:27

Surely a pallet delivery gets broken down and handballed to where it needs to end up?

You've not been prepared or had maybe a more accommodating driver before, so you've come up with a hypothetical health and safety issue and refused delivery.

Sounds like you were being awkward and bluffing standing in front of his truck (mental by the way) and he's called it by driving away.

You both sound ridiculous, you more so.

Outbutnotoutout · 12/03/2021 06:28

Was it logs

We had logs delivered on a double pallet, one on top the other, which was dumped in the middle of the lane. I had to move them all one by one in the rain to my shed 🙄

speakout · 12/03/2021 06:34

Sounds like you were both in a heated temper.
Were there angry exchanges? Shouting? Swearing?

speakout · 12/03/2021 06:35

OP did you deliberately stand in the road front of the van as he was attempting to leave?

toocold54 · 12/03/2021 06:36

Purposely standing in front of a vehicle and then claiming they tried to run you over what a ridiculous thing to say!
Would you go and stand in the middle of the motorway?
YABU you could have refused delivery and then went inside to phone the company. I don’t know many delivery drivers that would take items around the back they are on a schedule and especially with covid have to take extra precautions.

Womencanlift · 12/03/2021 06:50

I smell BS

In her earlier posts she says it was described as kerbside and that’s what she paid for. Later posts say there was no mention of kerbside.

Wonder which it is?

JustAnotherPoster00 · 12/03/2021 06:55

Wonder which it is?

Whichever one that casts the driver as BU i should imagine

Sirzy · 12/03/2021 06:58

I’m still intrigued how this 6ft high unstable load was taken off the back of a lorry in the first place!

LoudestCat14 · 12/03/2021 06:59

Standing in front of the van was reckless in an already escalating situation. It sounds like he was trying to pull away from a standing start and you stood in the road, which puts you at fault not him.

luxxlisbon · 12/03/2021 07:02

So suddenly you had no idea it was kerbside even though your first 10+posts all mention you were well aware and so were your deliveries from other companies. And he didn’t actually hit you with his truck be “came within inches” which is probably a stretch again. All he did was drive towards you as he left because you were standing in front of the truck.

NuclearDH · 12/03/2021 07:04

So he didn’t try to run into you and certainly didn’t run into you. Sounds like you stupidly tried to play a game of chicken and lost.

Jumpers268 · 12/03/2021 07:15

I have so many questions haha. So the pallet had 10 items weighing at least 25kg each, but the total weight of the pallet was 220kg. How? He drove towards you, then drove into you, then got within inches of you. Which is it? Or did he just try and get you to move out of the way as I would do if someone was not letting me leave? You requested kerbside delivery but then say you didn't request kerbside delivery? Where is the pallet now? Outside the front still?

TheOnlyLivingBoyInNewCross · 12/03/2021 07:16

him trying to run into me

he drove into me

Do you know what, I reckon I'd be able to tell which one of these had happened after I'd stood in front of a truck 🤔

Or perhaps the incident as described in your OP wasn't garnering the sympathy you expected so you decided to amp up the peril?

HoppingPavlova · 12/03/2021 07:16

You can’t deliberately stand in front of a vehicle and then claim they tried to run you over. That’s absurd. He was moving forward to try and get around you I’d assume, you needed to move.

ClearMountain · 12/03/2021 07:17

If you refused delivery then the driver had no right to just dump the stuff on the public highway.

Doingitaloneandproud · 12/03/2021 07:21

Hope you've learnt not to stand in front of a van again. It's not a car, if you stand too close before they can't see you there. I wouldn't stand in front of any vehicle, even if they were threatening to leave. It's just idiotic.

GladysTheGroovyMule · 12/03/2021 07:27

I’ve read the OP’s posts and the first page and I fail to see how the OP was unreasonable?! The driver decided to be a bully and threaten to/try to run her over. How is it ever ok to do that even if “he was pushed to his limit”. He shouldn’t be in that job and shouldn’t even be driving in fact if he can be “pushed to his limit” so easily. It’s frightening that only men like this exist but there’s apparently an awful lot of people lining up to excuse that behaviour.

AnnaBegins · 12/03/2021 07:31

It wasn't wickes was it?!

I completely get you OP, you refused delivery and he refused to let you refuse delivery by trying to drive off and leave you with the unsafe pallet.

I would also have tried to stop him given that you were on the phone to his company.

We had similar happen, we live down a private road off a main road and have a (swollen shut) door onto the main road too. Driver insisted it was kerbside delivery only which is fine but there is no kerb at the main road, just 10cm of grass, so he was trying to leave a stack of tiles in the narrow road. Our private road is wider! I also refused delivery and rang the company (wickes) who confirmed he could deliver round the back (and the lady on the phone commented on the mouthful of abuse he was giving me that she could hear!) So the driver offloaded the tiles in 3 precarious piles deftly blocking in my car. I begged him not to as 1) I needed to pick up my son in under an hour and 2) I was 39 weeks pregnant! I would have blocked the van too if I could have waddled that far!

Jessbow · 12/03/2021 07:31

I have yet to see a van that can take a 2 meter high Pallet AND unload it, somehow.

My OH is a delivery driver. You do realise if the guy was subcontracted, and you refuse delivery, he doesnt get paid?

And No, it isnt his job to wrap it/secure it to the pallet- its the suppliers job. So you probably cost the guy money- thanks for that, much appreciated

LoudestCat14 · 12/03/2021 07:31

@GladysTheGroovyMule

I’ve read the OP’s posts and the first page and I fail to see how the OP was unreasonable?! The driver decided to be a bully and threaten to/try to run her over. How is it ever ok to do that even if “he was pushed to his limit”. He shouldn’t be in that job and shouldn’t even be driving in fact if he can be “pushed to his limit” so easily. It’s frightening that only men like this exist but there’s apparently an awful lot of people lining up to excuse that behaviour.
I'm the first to call out shitty male behaviour but OP stood in front of a vehicle that was about to pull away! How is that his fault? She's lucky he reacted quickly enough not to hit her.
Soontobe60 · 12/03/2021 07:35

[quote Kazkepper123]@Soontobe60 ok ?[/quote]
My point is that when I have a delivery, I organise everything in advance so that its moved immediately. I dont hope the driver will do something different that what’s on their schedule.

makingmammaries · 12/03/2021 07:36

Honestly, not rocket science to take the ten items one by one to your boundary. If you agreed to kerbside delivery then you need to be ready for it, with cones if necessary. I expect the driver is on a horrible contract and just trying to get his job done. You sound a bit entitled to me.

Grinch48 · 12/03/2021 07:46

If the order says kerbside then that’s what you get
Just because other companies will deliver it somewhere else doesn’t mean they all will
You sound like one of those awkward drama ( (pain in the ass) customers