Would it bother you how many people your partner has slept with?

[Bottomlesspit21]

Name changed for this!

Exactly as the title says really...

My boyfriend asked me how many people I’ve slept with and I answered honestly. I know my number is really high compared to most - 120/130 people and I’m 29. Not proud of it as a lot were whilst hammered but it is what it is!
Since he’s asked he’s struggled with the fact and says it’s dirty etc, makes him feel insecure and finds it off putting I guess. I can’t change the past though so not sure what I can do about it now but I don’t want to be made to feel like a terrible person or punished because of it either!

So, would it put you off? Or is it irrelevant? Would you judge if the number is too high/low?

Hats off to you, that must of took up a lot of time and effort!

It's sex not The Great British Bakeoff.

Op is obviously a journalist. What magazine or newspaper are you writing for?

(Incidentally I wouldn’t date someone who’d been with 100 people. It’s nasty to treat partners as disposable objects)

You see I can understand if your BF admitted he felt insecure as people do have different issues. But calling you dirty is just appalling

I dont know dhs number. Donr wamt to.know, dont need to know. None of my business as it was before me. Ive only been with dh. He knows this and does t care either way.

I’m most definitely not a journalist!

He told me he’s slept with about 15-20 and he’s struggling with it where our numbers are vastly different! He also wishes he never asked!
I do agree that I would also worry about the getting hammered part as I think most of my promiscuity was fuelled by alcohol and some I can’t even remember, but I don’t really regret it as I have a high sex drive and love sex and used to find ONS a thrill! I could’ve easily slept with a lot lot more if I wanted to!

(I also don’t drink now btw)

I’ve certainly missed something here! So not only should l have maintained a scoreboard, I also needed a bedroom guest book? 😂