Friend offended I returned her gift?

[Laura187]

Friend sent me a bits from next for DD. I am not into colours and everything she purchased was quite colourful, pink and frilly. She also sent me the gift receipt.

I went and changed most of the bits into baby clothes that are more to my taste and what I needed.

Today I sent her a pic of DD in the clothes I changed and thanked her for the gifts.

'This isnt what I brought' was her reply, I told her I changed a few bits and thought I'd send it to her.

She replied 'You changed what I got!' with a covering face emoji.

I said yes I thought I'd get things I needed and could use and she replied with 'ok'

I am quite shocked by this! Opinions please - AIBU in changing the items?

It’s fine to change them, you just didn’t need to send the pic to rub her nose in her crappy taste. There’s not a lot she can say other than OK, don’t worry about it.

*so you should

What I did was take a photo with itme sent and then return the item.

With clothes, I often said I changed it for a different size, as I had so many 3-6 months etc.

I dont really understand why your taste comes into it when its a baby, you're going to have to get used to them wearing things that you don't like. Might as well start to get used to it when they're a baby! Does it matter if you personally don't like the clothes that your baby is wearing? It's not you wearing them. I find it odd. My dd got given loads of things that I wouldn't have picked, but it never crossed my mind to swap it unless it was too small.

I agree with this. A baby isn’t an accessory, why should they reflect your own taste in clothes?

I dont really understand why your taste comes into it when its a baby, you're going to have to get used to them wearing things that you don't like. Might as well start to get used to it when they're a baby! Does it matter if you personally don't like the clothes that your baby is wearing? It's not you wearing them. I find it odd. My dd got given loads of things that I wouldn't have picked, but it never crossed my mind to swap it unless it was too small.

I agree with this. A baby isn’t an accessory, why should they reflect your own taste in clothes?

Completely agree with all of this. I find it so strange when people are so strict about what newborns are wearing and reject gifts because they hate blue or pink or whatever. It’s really controlling and disrespectful of the fact that in a short time the child will form their own tastes and have their own minds, they aren’t dolls to play dress up with or extensions of oneself that they can force their ideologies upon. And if the girl also grows up hates anything related to femininity and wants to be gender neutral as the mother seems to want her to be then wearing a pink baby gro that was a gift at 2 weeks old is hardly going to scar her for life and lead her to need therapy.

Im not surprised she's offended.