To feel weird about how my exes partner is referring to our daughter

[meetmeinarizona]

My daughters dad has been with his partner for 3 years, they don't live together and my daughter maybe sees her at a max 4 times a month.

The partner is nice enough and is nice to my daughter and my daughter likes her so that's the main thing.

My best friend used to work with her and so has her on Facebook, she sent me a screenshot earlier and it was a picture of her and my daughter and the caption 'my girl, my everything' and then a few comments on the pic one being 'she's gorgeous Sarah' (fake name) and she responded 'thank you, so proud'.

I just think that's very strange, 1. What is she proud of? 2. You see my daughter once a week, how can she be your 'everything'?

Welcome to be told I'm over sensitive but I'm very close to saying something so need perspective first.

[MrsTerryPratchett]

@MsVestibule

Weird. It's probably just for the FB likes, but still strange, attention seeking behaviour.

Children and animals get the most likes.

And insecure people gotta have the likes.

Ignore.

[MistressoftheDarkSide]

Yeah a bit OTT and insensitive, but if she has no children of her own, maybe the pride bit is because she feels lucky to have the privilege of your DD in her life?

[JustAnotherPoster00]

Makes me wonder why your friend is shit stirring between you and your ex/ex new partner

[RaininSummer]

Incredibly weird. Could you ask your friend to post something like, "how lovely that you think so much of your step daughter. You must live for the weekends".

[meetmeinarizona]

@RaininSummer love that!!

[Standrewsschool]

Had the ex’s gf said she was proud after watching your dd win a swimming race, or take part in a show, then that’s fair enough.

However, to say shes ‘my girl’ and proud because she is gorgeous, is a bit weird. Maybe not so bad if she said she was spending time with ‘my gorgeous step-daughter’ ( although not technically step, but long term relationship with parent) that wouldn’t be so bad.

I think it’s the ‘ownership’ that’s out of order. She’s sort-of claiming to be the parent in those facebook OST’s, when she’s not

[Rina1989]

I think it is a little too much. I agree with the comments here I think it is for the Facebook likes and attention! Even if she thinks the world of your daughter I find the wording a little strange. Perhaps a quiet word with your ex to say you are glad she thinks so much of her but the post makes you feel a bit uncomfortable (something along those lines). It doesn't seem appropriate. Does your ex use FB, would he have seen the post?

[Standrewsschool]

Posts, not osts

[meetmeinarizona]

@JustAnotherPoster00 she's my best friend, we share everything so it would be weird if she didn't flag this up to me as she thought it was really weird.

[Member869894]

Let it go, listen to Sparrowtree's advice and choose your friends more carefully

[fairynick]

I think you’re being over sensitive. She probably just adores your little girl and enjoys seeing her of a weekend. It’s nice.

[AnneLovesGilbert]

Sounds like your friend didn't need to show you and could be stirring.

I’m a SM and wouldn’t ever do that but maybe this woman is prone to hyperbolic expression and things will become less amicable if you ask your ex to tell his partner off.

Do you and her dad put up pictures of your DD?

[HeddaGarbled]

Honestly, just ignore it. Someone I know is forever posting pictures of their partner with ‘My world’ crap, when I know for a fact their relationship is not in a good place. It’s annoying, and it alerts you to the fact that she’s a Fakebooker, but saying anything to either her or your ex is just going to cause unnecessary trouble.

[TheYearOfSmallThings]

She is probably just using your DF as a prop to gain likes. My main concern would be that she may be feeding similar nonsense to your daughter, and then drop her like a hot brick as soon as she is expecting her own child.

Also...what an idiot.

[gingganggooleywotsit]

It’s weird and over dramatic, but..in her interactions with your daughter she hasn’t really put a foot wrong and has always been nice to her. I’d laugh about it and ignore for now.

[TheCanyon]

Do you think that's how she thinks she should behave? Or is she just a bit of a glory hunting twat?

I've never been friends with any of my ex's girlfriends and we live fairly far apart so feck knows what they may have posted, but if the latest gf posted she was so proud of her girl then dd 12 hormonal grumpy shit could easy move in in 5 seconds flat

Fuck it, I'd add her and reply on every post of my child

Actually the gf came down with ex last weekend to go on a walk with dd, they haven't seen each other since last Jan and it was quite nice to watch her interact with dd while we chatted.

[MRex]

It's OTT, but some people talk like that. A family member talks like that about DS, but means no harm and genuinely loves him so meh. I completely understand you being irritated, and I'm sure I'd find it hard, but you want your DD to feel loved by as many as possible so I'd be inclined to avoid drama. My first thought was that she and your ex are getting married, or she wants to get married and they're talking about it. If that's right and the OTT love is actually there for your ex's benefit, then telling him could cause issues between you and your ex.

I'm suggesting it's OTT, but I am also reminded that my friend and her brothers had parents separate when they were a bit older, she was 8 and the boys a bit older. They love their step-mother very dearly and she loves them, despite having two children of her own too. It's rare perhaps to have deep love with step-by-step family, but sometimes it's real. Their father died 10 years ago now and they are still a close family with her and her daughters. It doesn't have to be a bad thing, having someone else firmly in your daughter's corner.

[Tal45]

I wonder if she's just a bit clueless because she hasn't got children of her own? If she's nice to your dd though that's the main thing x

[ShaneTheThird]

I mean... She could be horrible and abusive to your daughter. Yes its a bit OTT but its hardly a hanging crime. Think about it rationally. You are upset that someone else has said they are proud of your daughter. Surely her family and friends on Facebook know shes not her biological daughter so its no big deal.

[Joinedjustforthispost]

Im a bitch I’d be tempted to get your freind to comment on the picture saying oh that’s meets dd or I’d comment on it saying why have you got my child’s picture on Facebook?

[LadyOfLittleLeisure]

@onlyk

I think it’s weird.

When looking after my niece and nephew or friends children for the day I may take pictures and send them to their parents (ie proof of life) but I have never posted them on social media. Mum and dad can post them if they want to.

Frankly “my girl, my everything” has hand that rocks the cradle vibe to it.....

Was just thinking this!!

[Joinedjustforthispost]

@RaininSummer

Incredibly weird. Could you ask your friend to post something like, "how lovely that you think so much of your step daughter. You must live for the weekends".

This ! What a brilliant response

[GladysTheGroovyMule]

Like you say, it’s great that your daughter and her clearly get along well which is so important, and I truly believe that the more people to love and care about a child better. But that’s weird and very intense really.

[MysweetAudrina]

If it was a grandparent that posted it, would it bother you as much, or is it because you feel she is looking to take what you consider to be your role?

It would probably annoy me a bit but if your ex is ok about it then not really sure how it affects you. She has a relationship with your dd and at least she seems to like her and enjoy spending time with her and looks forward to seeing her. Surely that is what is important not some stupid fb post looking for likes.

[DuckbilledSplatterPuff]

@Sparrowtree

She likes your daughter. She cares for her. Your daughter likes her. I'd do nothing to jeopardise this by getting territorial over a Facebook post that she didn't mean for you to see. It would make me feel uncomfortable too but I'd leave it.

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Its a bit weird to shout out on social media, but perhaps she's just trying to show that she likes your DD and that's better than the opposite. A lot of people on social media feel obliged to shout out about day to day things because they haven't got much else to talk about. The main thing is that they all get on.. I'd probably ignore it, irritating tho it must be.