To expect my 10 year old to make his own breakfast??

[Blueuggboots]

My 10 year old tells me what he wants for breakfast every morning and then expects it to magically appear in front of him.
He is capable of making toast, beans on toast, scrambled egg, cereal including porridge in the microwave but does require support with the grill which I am happy to provide.
When I tell him to make it himself (which I've been doing for well over a year!!) he gets really shirty.
Would you expect your 10 year old to do this for themselves?

Honestly is it that big a deal to argue over it for a year?? Back off from it for a bit and wait till he starts high school.

@midnightstar66

My DH leaves for work at 5.30am so I don't get up and have breakfast with him now, but even when I was coming home at 9pm we would eat dinner together.

Does this mean then that you aren't eating with your dc? Or are you keeping them up til 10pm so they can eat with you at 9? Personally I prioritise us all getting enough sleep over being up at an ungodly time to be able to eat breakfast together at the table.

We don't have DC yet. Obviously when we do they will be fed at an appropriate time with a parent who is at home.

Hmmm reading this thread makes me realise how much I am doing for my DD's age 8 and 6 and how little they do for themselves

Does this mean then that you aren't eating with your dc? Or are you keeping them up til 10pm so they can eat with you at 9?

Fondly remembers the days my children went to bed before me...

Fondly remembers the days my children went to bed before me...

Yes mine are pretty much at this stage too. It's very telling though that the poster so shocked about families not always eating all 3 meals at the table together doesn't actually have DC.

@MissyB1 - we don't argue as such....he asks, I say no, he moans, I say no again.

I usually make ds’s breakfasts. He likes a bacon sandwich and although we have taught him how to make them and he will do with supervision at the weekends, I do it during the week for speed. I still do it when it’s crumpets or egg and soldiers. Our cupboards are high up and he can’t reach the bread/eggs/butter etc! We don’t have a toaster, only a grill. None of my dc have ever liked cereal.
However, I don’t mind, it’s a nice way to spend some time with him before school, he will make his packed lunch alongside me doing his breakfast, then when he eats I unload the dishwasher and we can chat.
I’m all for independence and at weekends when we have more time he helps to do boiled eggs or pancakes.
The dds are older teens now and make full meals (dd made croissants starting from Friday, patting out butter and laminating dough, finally finished this morning), I always did the same with them so it’s worked well for us.

Should have said, ds has recently turned 9...

@Blueuggboots but why is it so important to you that he must make his own breakfast? Why has it turned into such a big deal? Please don’t believe that he will leave home completely incompetent and unable to cope just because he didn’t make his breakfast when he was 10! There are lots of ways to promote independence, and to encourage him to enjoy making food.

This thread has made some great Sunday reading. Op yanbu he should be making his own breakfast at this age.

@MissyB1 - I don't have time to make his breakfast. I work full time and am often trying to do stuff to keep the house running and he's perfectly capable of making it himself! It's the principle - he wants to sit on his butt watching tv while I wait on him. It's not happening!!! I may be his mum, but I am not, nor will I be his slave.