To think DH is being a dick with the pram?

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Ffs.

Dd 4 months. Sod all to do at weekends other than go for walks.

We have a baby carrier but DH is obsessed with the pram and insists on putting the poor child in it trudging through thick mud, clambering up mountains and hills and clattering over bumpy gravelly roads.

My nice pram is covered in mud and people look at us like we are batshit.

AIBU?

I’ve heard the opposite tbh, that it’s better for them to not be on their backs all the time due to flat head syndrome. He won’t have read any baby books (tbf I doubt he’s picked a book up since gcse English and Of Mice and Men!) It’ll just be a ‘babies go in prams, babies go in cote, babies have milk from bottles’ sort of thinking.

Lyra yeah the mud is extremely annoying. I am not disputing that. I’m not talking a tiny bit of mud. I’m talking about full scale bogs!

Carry on bert, it’s reminding me of my own school days now where someone who thinks they are one of the cool girls tried her hand at cutting insults. It didn’t bother me then and it doesn’t bother me now. It’s a pandemic so if it’s bringing you happiness and amusing you don’t let me stop you.

I’d be worried about a 4month old being shaken around in that pram, up and down hills etc.
And yes, I would stare at you. I’d assume you were one of those couples who refuse to concede that they may need to adjust their lives at all once they have a baby.
Or maybe you were lost.

We did get lost on Sunday - had to feed dd sitting on a fallen tree!

If you want to carry the baby in the sling why don't you?

Coz DH gets the pram out with cries of how it’ll all be fine. And yes I am putting a stop to this. I still think he’s a dick to take a pram up a mountain.

Jesus Op you sound super angry about this - people are just helping and giving opinions.... I don’t know why he’s using a pram, did you ask him? My husband once dropped my daughter while he was trying to unstrap her and he never touched a sling ever again - point is, has he got a reason? Is he doing it to piss you off so you have extra work to do (wash wheels etc?)

Carry on bert, it’s reminding me of my own school days now where someone who thinks they are one of the cool girls tried her hand at cutting insults. It didn’t bother me then and it doesn’t bother me now

Are you drunk?

He won’t have read any baby books (tbf I doubt he’s picked a book up since gcse English and Of Mice and Men!) It’ll just be a ‘babies go in prams, babies go in cote, babies have milk from bottles’ sort of thinking

You really don't like him much, do you?

If you prefer a sling why do you have a pram? Why not swap it for an all terrain buggy for weekends?

I used a sling but would have felt like your husband about that kind of terrain and slings.

Have you answered this yet?

You seem fairly passionate about slings, so why have a pram? Especially one that isn't allowed to get dirty? . If your dh can't see the kid much in the week and he wants to push his child in the weekend it would seem the obvious thing to do. Or do you only use the pram when he isn't about?

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Coz DH gets the pram out with cries of how it’ll all be fine. And yes I am putting a stop to this. I still think he’s a dick to take a pram up a mountain.

And if he thinks you’re a dick for taking a baby up a mountain in a sling then is that ok?

Can’t you just accept that you have different opinions and you should try and find a compromise rather than simply over-ruling?

If he’s already pretty hands off as a father than creating a precedent when your word is gospel and his opinion means fuck all is setting yourself up for even more work.

It’s simple to compromise. DH and I hike. When the kids were little the one who preferred the pram cleaned the pram. The one who preferred the frame carrier cleaned that. Decide before you go whose turn it is and make sure you both get a turn of doing things your way.

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Coz DH gets the pram out with cries of how it’ll all be fine. And yes I am putting a stop to this. I still think he’s a dick to take a pram up a mountain.

My take on pram gate is that it’s not safe to be taking the baby in the pram over the type of terrain you are talking about. I do agree with you OP that it is batshit behaviour.

The mud situation would drive me up the wall, over the stile and around the bend and would have happened no more than once. What a CF DH is insisting on doing this then wrecking the pram and the car with the torrent of mud and not even cleaning it up afterwards.

Stand firm, stay on safer ground, use the sling and don’t even put the pram in the car.

I’m not angry at all! I’m exasperated with DH sure. And I think he’s being a dick. That’s it. No steam coming from my ears or red faces or protruding veins. Promise.

No bert

That seems quite logical justlyra, I suspect it will be ignored.

Well like I’ve already said to sirzy the sling isn’t comparable.

It creates no work for DH if I take her in a sling and it doesn’t ruin anything he regularly uses. That’s the difference.

bump you and I would get on I feel.

My take on pram gate is that it’s not safe to be taking the baby in the pram over the type of terrain you are talking about. I do agree with you OP that it is batshit behaviour.

As a seasoned sling owner I would equally point out that kind of terrain is not great for a sling either. You are likely to slip. An all terrain buggy is needed.

It will be ignored because I’m not posting asking for advice. It’s hardly a desperate complex problem. I’m posting because it was annoying me!

Then if DH is worried about me slipping then avoiding mountains might be sensible! It’s just as easy to sip with a pram!

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That seems quite logical justlyra, I suspect it will be ignored.

Quite probably. The OP is clearly only interested in slating her husband.

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Then if DH is worried about me slipping then avoiding mountains might be sensible! It’s just as easy to sip with a pram!

But a proper all terrain pram will have a safety strap so the child is much less likely to be hurt if the adult falls

There are pros and cons to both but unfortunately you seem completely unable to accept any view but your own.

It doesn’t have wings to get over stiles though sirzy

And we really can’t afford to splash out on prams. I know there’s a pushchair section to MN - I’ll post there if I decide to get another. For now we can’t afford it.

bump you and I would get on I feel
I think so too OP. The price of prams is no joke and trying to clean a bog load of mud off one each week would send me over the edge. Let alone the worry the baby is being dragged over such bumpy terrain. I really can’t see that being a good idea.
If your DH wants to use the pram it needs to be on sensible ground IMO. Otherwise use the sling for more adventurous walks.

Well - yeah. I think I’m right. That tends to be the way or the world doesn’t it?

I think a lot or you are taking the thread more seriously than it warrants, tbh. It was a bit of a whinge/rant. That’s all.

Rant away OP, you will never please some people especially on AIBU.

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Then if DH is worried about me slipping then avoiding mountains might be sensible! It’s just as easy to sip with a pram!

You're far more likely to slip than a baby is to fall out of a buggy. And yes, that's what a wrist strap is for too.