To think DH is being a dick with the pram?

[Sheeeeeep]

Ffs.

Dd 4 months. Sod all to do at weekends other than go for walks.

We have a baby carrier but DH is obsessed with the pram and insists on putting the poor child in it trudging through thick mud, clambering up mountains and hills and clattering over bumpy gravelly roads.

My nice pram is covered in mud and people look at us like we are batshit.

AIBU?

I do think he should clean it (or, erm, not go for walks in really muddy places? It's not like it's forever).

But, my DP wasn't comfortable with the idea of me using a sling so I didn't use one.

My mum fell when she was carrying my brother in a sling and she damaged her knee very badly, because she instinctively twisted so she wouldn't fall on him.

It didn't worry me, personally, but it did worry DP and I don't think it's very fair for one parent to insist on doing something the other parent finds really frightening.

I'd judge you @Sheeeeeep don't worry 🤣🤣

I bought slings and backpacks to take our dc in.
Then I discovered that I couldn't carry a dc without pain and we had two of them.

So we bought an all terrain double buggy and dragged it everywhere.
We got dab hands at lifting it over stiles. We took through knee high heather and up mountains.
It was absolutely fine, dc were fine.

Occasionally people were surprised to see us pop up but I didn't care. We all got out in the fresh air and open spaces.

Thanks sleeping 😂

The other answer is, don't go if it's causing that much misery!

@Sheeeeeep

Thanks sleeping 😂

Actually I'd judge him. I'd see the contemptuous look on your face and know it wasn't your doing.

But seriously, why can you just put baby into a carrier and tell him no. Altho I wouldn't have wanted to hoik 8kg extra up a mountain so I'd just take her to the coffee shop 🤣🤣

I think you're being a bit precious, sorry. Maybe get an all-terrain pram for the mountain treks and save the current one for more sedate trips?

If I ever have unlimited space and unlimited cash maybe.

Refuse to take the buggy in your car. Your car, your rules.

I thought you were going to say he always tries to push it along with one hand ...

(men look such dicks doing this. Trying to look carefree/casual?

Thank goodness, I thought it was only my husband who does it and only me who finds it incredibly irritating.

We live on a steep hill and my DH tried to push the buggy down it the other day with only one hand while also wearing a backpack on only one shoulder (you know, like it was 1999 and he was 14). He obviously thought he looked so cool but he looked absolutely ridiculous. Not to mention the fact that it was bloody dangerous.

I think YABU OP, I can’t imagine taking a normal buggy on the terrain you’ve described - it must be really tricky and must be destroying the buggy.

I thought it was going to be this too. The look like complete knobheads pushing the pram with one hand.

One-hand-wankers 🤣

Stealing this phrase immediately

I'm not sure why you are getting a hard time OP. Where I live you probably would get some funny looks if you tried taking an expensive buggy out on some of the local walks. I would be grabbing the sling and going out on my own with baby tbh.

this so not the cheapest. And dangerous.

The basket must be trashed. I was at least expecting something with a higher chassis

@JamesMiddletonsMarshmallows

Soooo much internalised misogyny on this thread!

Praising a man for accompanying his wife on a walk with the baby?

Commenting that "if he's good now he will be better down the line". Why do have and accept such SHIT standards from men. Ooh he's not abandoned his child, he's not doing a crap job, round of applause

😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂

We bought a secondhand all-terrain for this purpose. My baby hates being in a baby carrier,

Just a troll. DH annoys me but he wouldn’t troll MN.

Mine loves it. And I can’t afford another buggy (for the fourth time.)

I never clean mud off my pram. I wait for it to dry and it falls off.

I don’t use a sling because I’m basically clumsy.

🐑 you keep ignoring the qn but why can't you just refuse to pack the pram or take her out and put her in the carrier?

A lot of the time we don’t know where we’re going sleeping ( we are that organised) so we get to some godforsaken moor and I’ll say I think we need the carrier but DH is all ‘nah we can take the pram! Off roading!’

I probably should tell him to stop being a dickhead and it’s dangerous and is wrecking the pram. Problem is he bought it!

BTW not ignoring on purpose! Just trying to defend myself against dicks who are into extreme pramming.

I would take it in turns then.