To think DH is being a dick with the pram?

[Sheeeeeep]

Ffs.

Dd 4 months. Sod all to do at weekends other than go for walks.

We have a baby carrier but DH is obsessed with the pram and insists on putting the poor child in it trudging through thick mud, clambering up mountains and hills and clattering over bumpy gravelly roads.

My nice pram is covered in mud and people look at us like we are batshit.

AIBU?

@Sheeeeeep

BTW not ignoring on purpose! Just trying to defend myself against dicks who are into extreme pramming.

So people are dicks because they don’t agree with you? Charming

No, they are dicks because they think it’s acceptable to wreck an expensive pram, trash my car and put my daughter in danger. HTH.

@Sheeeeeep

No, they are dicks because they think it’s acceptable to wreck an expensive pram, trash my car and put my daughter in danger. HTH.

Aye, because there’s so many people who e said that

Perhaps the issue is that people don’t buy practical prams instead spending £800 on what that doesn’t actually do what is needed!

It does do what is needed. No one needs to walk through a bog, or clamber up a mountain. In any event he bought it.

Tell him to stop being a Dick and he needs to clean it afterwards.

If he's not careful he's going to damage the chassis!

If you think your DH is so incompetent or uncaring that he repeatedly deliberately endangers your DC then there are bigger issues than a pram.

I think I must be going slowly insane - perhaps the isolation of lockdown.
I could swear when I first looked at this thread, a PP said that they had a “three wheeled jobbie”.
I was in hysterics, as here in Scotland a “jobbie” is a turd. And I had a mental picture of her, proudly pushing the wheeled jobbie round her local park.
But when I went back through the early pages I couldn’t find it again. Did anyone else notice it, or should I consider medication?!

But it obviously doesn’t do what is needed at the moment.

Personally I would sell the expensive pram and buy a cheaper one for day to day use and then a second hand one for using for walking and things.

@Sheeeeeep

Believe me we get ‘what the fuck are you people actually doing to that child’ looks!

DH does not use the pram in the week, that is me. Therefore it is either down to me to clean it or my car that gets covered in half the contents of every bog from mountain and moorland.

maybe he wants a turn pushing his baby

He could do that in a park or similar, couldn’t he?

Not rtwt but there's the issue. If he wants to push the park through mud etc then he has to clean the car and the pram, and not you. Does he think you might fall over if you are carrying your baby in a sling?

Just over ride him if you hate it so much? After the first time it happened you should have just done it your way? Problem solved.

I don't mind mud on a pram as to my mind that's to be expected and I lived in the countryside when mine were babies so it was inevitable. I also LOATHE carriers and think they're shite for babies to be in for extended periods so if your baby was actually happy in the pram (I don't think you've said how the DC reacts in these off road adventures?!) then I'd be more than happy for my DH to push a pram while I walked unencumbered. I would insist on him washing it if it was REALLY mucky though.

If he wants to use it for "off roading" then afterwards he needs to clean it & check for/fix any damage.

And be prepared to buy a new one if/when necessary.

My nice pram is covered in mud and people look at us like we are batshit.

They really don't. It's just a bit of mud. It'll wash off.

Climb every mountain
Search high and low
Follow every byway
Pushing your Ocarro

Climb every mountain
Ford every stream
Follow every rainbow
Till you find your dream

A dream that will need
All the mud your husband can give
Clean the pram every day of your life
For as long as you live

@DavidsSchitt

Nobody is staring at you, nobody gives a shit. You're exaggerating.

Baby carriers through bogs and over muddy tree stumps and up mountains are just as impractical and yes, not as safe as her being in the pushchair.

However, if he's insisting on the pushchair then more fool you for not telling him to clean it.

Wrong on all counts

@Babdoc you are hallucinating 😳

A pram like that is not designed for the constant bumping over rough ground or mud and the joints will wear far quicker. All terrain prams are more durable and a better ride for baby but still have their limits.

I don't know why people are so funny about baby carrying. It's still the dominant method in many parts of the world and was used long before the pram was invented.

If it's terrain with steep slopes or risk of overturning when the wheels get stuck, there is less risk to baby in a well secured carrier.

DH and I preferred different carriers. A second carrier is far cheaper and more space efficient than a second pram.

I've nothing against prams, I loved mine, I was just realistic about what it was suitable and unsuitable for. Even on rough ground in a park, it was wise to lock the wheels to stop them spinning and jamming on rougher, stony paths.

He’s not being a dick, no one is Looking at you like you’re mad- people don’t care that much about strangers. You’re being a bit PFB.

Not sure why you're getting a hard time OP. You're absolutely right and a carrier would be far more practical in the situation you describe. I use ours on Wandsworth Common which is so far from off roaring 😂 but still a pain with a pram.

People absolutely do look at and judge strangers. I do it daily while out with the baby - breaks up the long walks.

sirzy even if I wanted to do that the value has been impacted through it being wrecked.

And I’m sorry but I’m not actually comfortable with hauling any type of pram over stiles and through bogs and peat and up mountainsides.

Wow ThatsNotTheTea, you are there too are you? Incredible.

And he isn’t comfy with using a carrier. So you need to sit and discuss it and come up with a compromise.

He isn’t wrong by not feeling comfy with a carrier being used. It’s just a different view to yours. Part of the issue here seems to be you have an “I am right and anyone who doesn’t agree is wrong” attitude

And I’m sorry but I’m not actually comfortable with hauling any type of pram over stiles and through bogs and peat and up mountainsides.

But he is, and prefers it to a carrier.

So, you need to come to a compromise where sometimes you do things his way (and he needs to clean the pram)?and sometimes yours

Blimey OP you're getting a hard time for no reason. Slings and prams are parenting tools and useful in different situations. Hiking up hills and down dales is clearly easier with a sling!

Would it be easier for him to take advice/recommendations from someone in a "professional" capacity? I only ask as my DH hated taking advice from me and would actively argue against even when he knew I made sense, but would do whatever every HV or GP recommended. If so, maybe a 15 min chat with a sling consultant might be useful to discuss safety, comfort, maybe even find him a sling? Feel free to pm me and I can find someone local to you or can help online by video call.

You obviously feel quite strongly about this, just tell him no this weekend