AIBU to think that lesbians deserve a dating app that caters exclusively to lesbians?

[Glinner]

Recently I opened an account with the app Her to bring attention to the many straight men invading lesbian dating apps by claiming a 'lesbian', 'queer' or 'trans' identity.

Given that lesbians are adult human females exclusively attracted to other adult human females, am I being unreasonable to believe that lesbians deserve spaces of their own, both online and in the real world?

@Expectant88 “babe”, I don’t know the full ins and outs of this sub-debate but you’re not coming across as reasonable here. Just FYI.

I'm on Parler? News to me.

And I'm proud to be banned alongside women like Meghan Murphy and brave trans-identified men like Miranda Yardley.

Some trans women have joined a site that says that trans women are allowed to join.

Hmm. How un-unusual.

@Expectant88 there's only a couple of trolls or people arguing in bad faith here and that isn't glinner

The discussion has been great and the majority of people have discussed with respect. Personally insulting someone isn't really a thing on mumsnet, Maybe the kind of argument you are trying to draw is more suited to twitter.

Personally insulting someone isn't really a thing on mumsnet

Honestly, I’d argue that it’s Mumsnet’s main thing at this point.

not on this thread, people have feelings and opinions ether side and intelligent people have discussed with respect. The tone though for some reason has now deteriorated.

@justletmeadoreyou

Personally insulting someone isn't really a thing on mumsnet

Honestly, I’d argue that it’s Mumsnet’s main thing at this point.

Then you should maybe take that up with @MNHQ, as it's against its Talk Guidelines.

I feel a few posters on this thread are flouting Talk Guidelines tbh, with personal attacks and goady posts.

Most posters though are trying to have a conversation with the OP and each other, which is how it's supposed to work.

Well the worst posts have gone now so credit to MNHQ for speed.

The OP isn't "having a conversation" - they posted a question that would get lots of MNers on side without mentioning that they are doing the kind of weird creepy behaviour they think trans women are also doing,

That’s what I can’t take seriously. You sound so extravagantly disingenuous.

You’re not honestly suggesting that OP is attempting to meet and have sex with the lesbians on the site?

You are able to understand that his endeavour is journalistic or investigative in nature? Even if you don’t approve?

You can -surely- make that distinction?

@justletmeadoreyou

Personally insulting someone isn't really a thing on mumsnet

Honestly, I’d argue that it’s Mumsnet’s main thing at this point.

It's against talk guidelines and personal attacks will be deleted.

You can -surely- make that distinction

Oh they can. The mental gymnastics people do to prove their point gives me a headache.

Thank you Glinner for highlighting this. It prompted a very necessary conversation with my daughter to help her keep herself safe.

YANBU lesbian dating websites should be the those bore biological females only. No idea why anyone male would think they would qualify. Typical male privilege i guess butting in where not wanted yet again.

Campaigning doesn’t have to be a professional undertaking @fridgepants

I CBA to explain any other obvious fact.

Why is it called HER and not HIS or Folx

Quite. Pp have asked this and I haven't yet seen an answer.

@Hankunamatata

I agree but probably going to be shouted at for trans phobia

Only if the 'all transwomen are probably predators' line gets trotted out - because that IS transphobic. Online dating apps are always vulnerable to people not being who they claim to be. How on earth one could police this effectively beats me, although fwiw a lesbians only service makes sense, to make it easier to find each other.

all transwomen are probably predators

Never seen anyone say this on here.

Me neither. Straw man.