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To take a platonic cuddle friend

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HelenaWise · 27/02/2021 01:48

My DH is a lovely man and we have a great relationship, he's great with the kids, etc. etc. The only issue is his lack of physical affection. He's always complimenting me and saying he loves me and that I look wonderful, but he just won't touch me. He's always been like this - it's just who he is. This was fine for the first few years but now I'm really starting to crave some human contact Sad We discussed this a number of times, and he says he'll do more but never does for more than a day or two. It just doesn't seem to be possible.

It's gotten so bad that I've started to think about asking my NDN for a cuddle. We're on good terms and I'm not attracted to him AT ALL but he just looks like he'd give really good cuddles. DH is fine with this in principle (we're not in UK so no covid concern), but he's worried that NDN's wife will flip if I bring this up and ruin our friendship. I didn't think this would be a big deal since we get along so well, but DH is making me think I'm a bit of a freak.

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SleepingStandingUp · 03/03/2021 10:59

So your DH shows you no physical affection but is always hugging the neighbour? Perhaps that's where you ought to put your focus? Or the next time he's sat cuddling the NDN state her husband in the eyes and ask where yours is

angieloumc · 03/03/2021 11:33

I can understand you feel like you need physical affection but you really are looking in the wrong place. I find it odd you say your DC and husband will hug your female neighbour but not you. It appears you may not actually be very tactile but have feelings for your neighbour hence the wanting 'snuggles'.

littlepattilou · 03/03/2021 11:34

Thanks for the laugh @HelenaWise Grin

DedlyMedally · 03/03/2021 11:40

Get yourself one of these and if all goes well, you can consider marrying it.

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Faffandahalf · 03/03/2021 13:31

The fact that @HelenaWise refuses to respond to the hundreds of comments on how bizarre and inappropriate her behaviour is and just throws in random off topic snippets every so often is classic trolling.
Great effort @HelenaWise for a joke thread. You kept it serious but nobody normal in reality would behave like you so this is clearly made up

BMW6 · 03/03/2021 13:46

but I'm not sure I can boil this frog and just slightly extended out our hugs over a period of months until they become lengthy snuggles without him even realising it

That's really really weird and creepy OP.

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