To be too embarrassed and sick of asking DH for account access?

[Itchywitchy]

DH has lots of our finances in accounts in his name. Each month for admin purposes I like to go through everything and check everything's ticking along ok (it is important as I usually find something that DH has forgotten to cancel, etc). Every month I am filled with dread at having to ask for numerous passwords (yet again) because DH has changed them or even once I have the password, i then need to ask him again for a one time password that is sent to his phone He gets annoyed with me and I find it so embarrassing that I have to ask him for access all the time. AIBU?

I’d look after my own finances and leave him to ‘check’ his own bank accounts

@dementedpixie

It is a document that mortgage lenders ask for if the other party is not on the mortgage 'occupiers consent form' or similar. I remember signing one when dh and I bought our first house.

Yes, this is absolutely right. If there's an adult living in the house on a on commercial basis, they will need to sign a consent to the mortgage because the bank doesn't want to be in a position where the spouse claims a share of ownership when the bank tried to enter into possession.

They won't be giving up their martial rights, in that any equity is still a marital asset, but OP will have signed such a document.

OP as you can see you need individual legal advice asap.