Was she born with a penis? If not, she counts for nothing and never will. Them's the rules. Read the standing orders if you can't understand that.
By the way, the double transverse move in Mornington Crescent is now declared doubly transphobic. That, and drinking gin while accompanied by a cat, are both banned. (Stonewall remains curiously silent about vodka, but you proceed at your own risk)
Greg was a swine and you are better without him.
Like you, I find this is the only thread I can understand.