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To find it odd that she felt the need to correct me

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Holidaypending · 18/02/2021 13:20

I was asked how old I was at work so I said 25 as I’m 25 in. July. Work fired then say oh you actually 24 not 25. I don’t see what difference it makes as I’m very nearly 25 so simple rounded up.

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Viviennemary · 19/02/2021 14:08

Id find that really annoying too. You are your age till your birthday IMHO.

WeBuiltThisBuffetOnSausageRoll · 19/02/2021 14:19

Please tell me you don't work in finance, or anywhere where data accuracy is important 🤣.
I'm 41 years old and weigh 9st. I'm not, and I don't, but hey, it's nearly correct! What's a decade or 2 stone...

This is it. Even if you can be sure that no intention was there to deceive, it can make you wonder if the person might struggle with numbers or memory and whether you can rely on them to report back times, dates and amounts accurately.

Fair enough if you say "I did it the other day" or "It was around £20K, I think" - as these are clearly rough and invite you to verify the exact information if you need it; but when somebody says what sounds like an accurate, informed statement, that later turns out to be wrong, you just don't know where you are.

RootyT00t · 21/02/2021 22:30

@WeBuiltThisBuffetOnSausageRoll

Nobody would pay anyone based on the words 'im 25'. This is utterly ridiculous.

Which is why I said they might put plans in place, based on the info they've been given, and then officially verify it just before putting it into effect. That said, plenty of small employers with one or two staff members (little cafes, newsagents etc) wouldn't necessarily go down the full audit route and would take it on trust, having built up a good working relationship with you.

Back to the driving thing, I'm obviously far older than 25, but I work for a small charity and I've been asked on occasion to do a few errands using the van owned by one of the leaders. Nobody has ever asked to see my driving licence or a certificate of insurance with entitlement to drive borrowed vehicles - we have a great relationship and they just trust me to tell the truth or to raise any issues that there may be.

No what is patronising is to pretend that OP is a liar and that she's deliberately being fraudulent when it is obvious that isn't the case. It doesn't look like OP is trying it on in the slightest.

It depends on how you classify the word 'liar' - whether you mean a perpetual teller of untruths or somebody who lies just once. Like people who happily admit to getting very drunk every weekend but would take offence at being called a drunkard.

Assuming OP knows when her birthday is and can understand both the basics of a calendar and the standard way of calculating and stating your age across most of the western world, she did deliberately tell a lie. Not a groundbreaking nasty one, but as PPs have said, once you're found out to be so free and easy with the truth in one situation, people wonder if you're a habitual liar and wonder if they should trust anything you say. They don't know your motives or intentions: they just know that they asked you a very simple, basic question and you replied by giving false information.

your friend shouldn't have pulled you up on it in front of others and made you look silly.

Do we know the friend was intending to actually 'pull her up' about it? Don't other people innocently query information when it sounds like somebody might have been mistaken - if for nothing else, to assuage their own confusion rather than as a gotcha?

I can quite honestly say I wouldn't start doubting this person's every move based on them giving false information.

Total non event.

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