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AIBU?

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To find it odd that she felt the need to correct me

278 replies

Holidaypending · 18/02/2021 13:20

I was asked how old I was at work so I said 25 as I’m 25 in. July. Work fired then say oh you actually 24 not 25. I don’t see what difference it makes as I’m very nearly 25 so simple rounded up.

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GabsAlot · 18/02/2021 17:14

my dad does that as soon as i turn one age he will add on a year-why i dont know

im 46 till the day i turn 47

MadeOfStarStuff · 18/02/2021 17:18

YABU, you’re not nearly 25, you’re 24! It’s just a bizarre thing to lie about. It’s like a child who’s desperate to be older.

My mother rounds my age up and it annoys me that she ages me six months early

WildWaterSwimmer · 18/02/2021 17:31

You answered in the continental manner. In the UK we'd say '24 years old' but in many languages they'd say 'in my 25th year'. My European friends phrase it that way.

Weird of your friend to correct you!

LemonMeringueThreePointOneFour · 18/02/2021 17:38

@BrumBoo

My birthday is sooner than yours, I say I'm the age I am, not my next birthday Confused. It's on part with children saying 'I'm 7 and three quarters'.

You're 24. When asked, you say 'I'm 24', because that's you're age. Until you're 25, in July.

On part with? Confused

Do you mean "on a par with"?

cheeseybean · 18/02/2021 17:39

@WildWaterSwimmer

You answered in the continental manner. In the UK we'd say '24 years old' but in many languages they'd say 'in my 25th year'. My European friends phrase it that way.

Weird of your friend to correct you!

That's really interesting, what part of Europe are your friends from?
Meowchickameowmeow · 18/02/2021 17:42

Dear god, hang on to being 24 as long as you can. It's weird to round up your age.

BlueTimes · 18/02/2021 17:43

@WildWaterSwimmer

You answered in the continental manner. In the UK we'd say '24 years old' but in many languages they'd say 'in my 25th year'. My European friends phrase it that way.

Weird of your friend to correct you!

Although I can’t imagine your European friends have official ID that states they are a year older than they actually are, regardless of whether they talk about being in the year above or not.

The OP said she was 25 which in your European terminology would be in her 26th year.

nancywhitehead · 18/02/2021 17:47

My mum does this and I find it infuriating. Every year of my and my siblings' lives... if we were 17 it would be "oh, s/he's 18!" even if we'd just turned 17.

Drove me mad! Why wouldn't you just say the age you actually are?

thinkingaboutLangCleg · 18/02/2021 17:57

I knew someone who said she'd add on a few years when anyone asked her age, so they would think she was really in good shape for her age. But she was about 38, pretending to be 45. That's so weird that i wondered if she was just saying that to see if I'd believe it.

Sapho47 · 18/02/2021 17:59

@Holidaypending

I was asked how old I was at work so I said 25 as I’m 25 in. July. Work fired then say oh you actually 24 not 25. I don’t see what difference it makes as I’m very nearly 25 so simple rounded up.
Was it for something official as 24 to 25 is significant for things like insurnace
Sapho47 · 18/02/2021 18:00

@thinkingaboutLangCleg

I knew someone who said she'd add on a few years when anyone asked her age, so they would think she was really in good shape for her age. But she was about 38, pretending to be 45. That's so weird that i wondered if she was just saying that to see if I'd believe it.
Double bluff she's 45 pretending to be 38 pretending to be 45
Cocomarine · 18/02/2021 18:03

How odd to lie about your age 🤷🏻‍♀️

Not coming back though 🤣

Hotzenplotz · 18/02/2021 18:06

I used to do this when I was about 14. Confused

I don't anymore, oddly enough.

waitingpatientlyforspring · 18/02/2021 18:07

😂 july is ages away. If you were turning 25 before the end of march then you can say I'm 25 this month or 25 next month. Anything else is 24.

PhillipPhillop · 18/02/2021 19:06

If you wanted to appear older you should have said 'I'll be 26 next year' which is correct. 😀

kittycorner · 18/02/2021 19:45

Personally I'm of an age where I round down! ha!

Yes, I remember the odd post about sibling ages changing how old a poster said her dc ages were. Never understood it.

I don't think what you did is terrible @Holidaypending. Maybe everyone is older and you were trying to fit in. Next time you could say 25 this summer if you feel a bit out of place about your age etc. I wouldn't have corrected you personally.

kittycorner · 18/02/2021 19:47

Thanks to whoever posted the twitter argument about age. Priceless!

littlepattilou · 18/02/2021 19:50

@Holidaypending Agree it's odd to say 25 when you are 24, and not 25 til JULY.

May as well say you're nearly 30 - when you actually get past 25, as you'll be closer than 30 than 20 by then!

littlepattilou · 18/02/2021 20:03

@DimOndCadwAnadlu

My husband is terrible for rounding up. His current "age" is nearly 50 when he speaks to people. He hasn't turned 46 yet!

Whereas I genuinely forget my age and have to think about it...I daren't ask my husband how old I am 😂

Sod that for a games of soldiers. Grin

I'm 53, and as far as I am concerned, I am just out of my forties. Grin

Jollygoodtime · 19/02/2021 03:50

Strange. Not like it’s easier. Same amount of syllables. It’s not like you don’t know the answer or it’s a question that’s a matter of opinion. There is a clear and easy answer. 24.

DramaAlpaca · 19/02/2021 03:58

I'm 25 too Smile

Well, in my head I am. I'm actually a few years more than double that.

But I'll always feel 25 inside even though two of my children are older than that

LankylegsFromOz · 19/02/2021 04:20

I have only read a few replies and WOW! I have always rounded up OP, even when I was your age (amd I'm double that now).

I always felt that saying my actual age felt abit untruthful. I dont know why, I've pondered it on and off, got bored and went on my merry way. That people think I have 'lied' about my age all this time (if they knew). Ha! Oh well Smile

Bluntness100 · 19/02/2021 05:28

@LankylegsFromOz

I have only read a few replies and WOW! I have always rounded up OP, even when I was your age (amd I'm double that now).

I always felt that saying my actual age felt abit untruthful. I dont know why, I've pondered it on and off, got bored and went on my merry way. That people think I have 'lied' about my age all this time (if they knew). Ha! Oh well Smile

Why would saying you’re actual age be untruthful? And saying the age you’re not, feel truthful? 😂
WeBuiltThisBuffetOnSausageRoll · 19/02/2021 05:33

How bizarre. As it happens, I have a birthday this year, so I’m something of an expert....

My Uncle has a favourite ‘joke’ that he tells every year, that never fails to greatly amuse just under two people. He will always say “I’ve just turned….!” And then swap the digits around e.g. ‘just turned 27’ when he’s now actually 72. Poor old chap will be 77 on his next birthday, so he won’t get his moment of ‘hilarity’ this year.

Please somebody find a link to that thread with the batty mum randomly adding years to her children’s ages! I agree that there’s a big difference between ‘just turned 2’ and ‘nearly 3’, but you don’t just round up without saying ‘and 8 months’ or ‘nearly’. It’s still very odd when adults do it, though. Dave Gorman mentioned it in one of his programmes, where people would describe themselves as ’27 and a half’ or whatever. I don’t know if they were trying to be wacky or if they genuinely thought people would expect different behaviour/knowledge/skills from a 27-and-a-half-yo than from a boring old 27yo.

Goodness! You feel you have a right to go around asking people their age or their children's but they don't have the right to say their age how they see fit. How entitled is that? Now, that's odd. Worse than OP.

In the right contexts, your age isn’t necessarily a deeply personal state secret that it’s offensive to ask others about in conversation. Nobody said that the other person reacted angrily or accusingly – most probably just perplexed at being told a pointless confusing lie. Regardless, you don’t have the common ‘right’ to make up your age ‘how you see fit’ – any more than you can just introduce yourself as Angela Hernandez tell people a random name that isn’t yours or one you’re known as, or claim to be a national of a country you have no connection with whatsoever.

Still a full on lie but adding-years-to-your-age lie, not shaving it off

To be fair, it’s not a ‘full on’ lie; not necessarily even a lie at all, depending on your perspective. The word nearly makes all the difference, as it makes it clear that you’re rounding your age (and under 10% isn’t always an outrageously large amount to round up or down) rather than stating an accurate fact.

As it happens, I needed to hire a van when I was 24 and about 8 or 9 months - many years ago - and I found quite a few companies that would gladly have let me hire any from a wide choice of lovely new-ish vehicles, had I been 25. Those few little months made all the difference, as I ended up with a thrashed, aged old heap that everybody stared at when you drove past (the engine sounded like you had it in 1st gear, even in top gear on the motorway) from the ropiest area of the city, where the van-hire place themselves warned me strictly not to park in the area outside of their compound). Not actually being 25, that was one of only two choices available to me – the other being to transport a Luton-load of bulky furniture on the bus or train.

Athrawes · 19/02/2021 05:40

24 vs 25 is quite important at work, for stuff like vehicle insurance