To ask, would it bother you if your husband told your friend that they looked stunning at your wedding?

[Peeeeeta]

This happened pre covid, and I'm obviously never going to mention it to the bride, but I'm bored and curious for other peoples opinions.

I went to my friends wedding, and towards the end of the evening, the groom hugged me and said "thanks for coming, you look great, honestly you look really stunning in that dress".

Would this bother you if you were the bride?

...drip feed that me and the groom used to date years ago.

Once in the receiving line at a wedding, the bride told me I looked stunning. I scrub up ok but I'd still say I'm average looking so I think she was just being nice.
It's just one of those platitudes people use and I wouldn't read anything in to it.

My ex-husband's best friend said almost that exact thing to me at his own wedding. Not for a second would I think he meant anything by it other than paying me a nice compliment (and actually I was the heaviest I'd ever been at that wedding so it was nice of him to say). I think you're reading into it way too much and trying to find an intent that you don't have any real reason to believe is there.

you look stunning” is fine as it’s more of a generic compliment but to say “you look stunning in that dress” is more personal
Yes well it may have being the former while OP heard the latter.
Did you wear a specifically stunning dress? Had you a few drinks too?
Did part of you wonder if he still has a crush while he said his vows.
If yes then you may have heard the latter.

My cousin said very similar to me on his wedding day :-/

@ButtonMoonPie

Once in the receiving line at a wedding, the bride told me I looked stunning. I scrub up ok but I'd still say I'm average looking so I think she was just being nice. It's just one of those platitudes people use and I wouldn't read anything in to it.

Maybe she fancies you....

Lol. When was the wedding Op?

Loved up pissed bloke gives compliment to woman he used to care about at his wedding.

Non story OP. Your ego needs to let this one go.

People go to an effort for weddings it's standard to pay compliments. Especially women are expected to. Often as much to recognise the effort as much as the result!

Hadn't realised this was a year ago!

OP you're being silly.

A year ago!

Why would it matter if infact he was being sleazy? If you’re over him surely you would have just thought yuk and thanked God it wasn’t you as the bride.........yet here you are still thinking about a comment he made to you al this time later .....let it go

That would piss me off because on my wedding day the only person my husband should consider stunning is me. Would not have been impressed at all if my husband said it to someone else.
Don't know why people keep saying don't tell the bride etc. It says in the opening post she isn't going to.

I wouldn't read too much into a comment like that at all, and if I did it would probably be the reverse and think he's just trying to make me feel good because I look shite

You've been thinking about this way too much and far too long - it comes across as though you're extremely happy he said it, and want validation he still fancies you.
The way you worded your post - the ending, "oh we used to date". Sorry op it's so, so smug.
Let it go.

And you've been mulling this over for a year or more?

A generic, "you look lovely" type compliment would be fine.

His compliment was a little bit too...specific, personal. I can see why you find it sleazy.

I can see what you mean OP. Groom tells his ex she looks stunning in that dress on his own wedding day-- a day when he should only have eyes for his bride.

People say all sorts of things when they’re drunk and happy
Take it as a compliment but nothing more

I’d bet he doesn’t remember it now

I've told friends they look stunning/gorgeous/incredible etc. in an outfit. I've also told guys that they look very handsome in their kilt/suit.

It's what you say.

@Peeeeeta I agree with you. It does sound a bit ick. Maybe I never look stunning in my dress, but I don't think it sounds everyday, or really appropriate.

I also wouldn't be thrilled if I thought my husband went around complimenting people like that at our wedding.

Unless he’s been chasing you in lockdown, I very much doubt he would remember making that comment. He is either sleazy or a nice enough bloke, possibly somewhere in between but if that’s the last very mildly flirtatious thing he said, your friend is safe.
It is odd to be considering it a year on unless there are other reasons. Alone it was a pretty standard wedding compliment from a slightly pissed groom who has shagged more than the bride in his time.

Sorry but I’m another one who can’t believe you’re still dwelling on this a year (or more) later.

He was on an emotional high, prob said it to at least half the female guests. You still carry a "what if" torch I think.

Also, I don't think having it occur to you means your obsessing over it or dwelling on it. My childhood pet fish was called Sally. Doesn't mean I'm hung up on it.

Would you rather he told you that you looked like a turnip and it wasn't nice to see you at the wedding? Give the guy a break, he gave you a compliment.

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