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To report her Covid breach?

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ArabellaRockerfella · 15/02/2021 00:19

I admit I'm a bit bitter and prone to thoughts of revenge so I could do with some rational thoughts here.
My recently ex husband has a new girlfriend. She records her and her child's life on Facebook. It's all on public, no filters!
In January her parents drove 300miles to visit her for 'much needed cuddles'
She has just driven 300 miles with her child to visit them for a half term break. It's all mud masks and lovely walks and mummy time!
It's really grinding my gears! When some of us are playing by the rules and not driving 10 miles to see our loved ones.
I really want to report her as I know her address, car reg etc.
All public on Facebook!
To report a Covid breach though you have to give your own details and my ex has a temper! I don't want my name to be implicated.
Should I just leave it alone and get a life?
What would you do?

OP posts:
TinyCake · 15/02/2021 09:27

Stop looking at her Facebook

NerrSnerr · 15/02/2021 09:28

@goodwinter she can't have two support bubbles. It can't be a childcare bubble as she's socialising with her mum (face masks etc) and that's not allowed for a childcare bubble.

WhatWouldPhyllisCraneDo · 15/02/2021 09:28

@Blindstupid

whatwould ... no you can’t travel 300 miles!
Yes you can! "It is best" is not the same as "it must be by law". Screenshot from gov.uk
To report her Covid breach?
brownet · 15/02/2021 09:28

No she cannot travel 300 miles even to 'build a bubble'

technically she can but would a huge waste of time for a childcare bubble since you are not allowed to stay there.

NerrSnerr · 15/02/2021 09:29

Whether she can have a support bubble 300 miles away is irrelevant. She already has a support bubble.

lazyarse123 · 15/02/2021 09:29

@SquirtleSquad

She can have a support bubble and a childcare bubble. The two don't have to be the same bubble household.
So which imaginary bubble are the people living 300 miles away? So sick of all the excuses for people carrying on as normal. Op I get where you're coming from but don't bother because nothing will change.
HexWitch · 15/02/2021 09:29

Stay off her Facebook and out of her business. It's none of your concern. You do sound a bit bitter/jealous. Guidelines say we are allowed to travel to our support bubble. Whilst it suggests you should keep the travel to a minimum nowhere does it state that it can't be further.

brownet · 15/02/2021 09:30

@WhatWouldPhyllisCraneDo you can't have 2 support bubbles though. You can have a childcare & support one but a massive journey for the childcare one would make it pretty impossible.

brownet · 15/02/2021 09:31

She can have a support bubble and a childcare bubble. The two don't have to be the same bubble household.

Yep but that's not what's happening here is it?

MustBeTheWine · 15/02/2021 09:32

Do yourself a favour OP and block her. You're not friends so her posts don't appear on your feed, you're going out of your way to search for her page and obviously keeping tabs on whats she's doing. Its not doing you any good and you need to move on.

brownet · 15/02/2021 09:33

Guidelines say we are allowed to travel to our support bubble.

🤦🏻‍♀️
Fuck no wonder this is dragging on.

WhatWouldPhyllisCraneDo · 15/02/2021 09:33

[quote brownet]@WhatWouldPhyllisCraneDo you can't have 2 support bubbles though. You can have a childcare & support one but a massive journey for the childcare one would make it pretty impossible. [/quote]
I know. And I said in my first post that she shouldn't be seeing both sets of people.
Doesn't change the fact that everyone shouting about bubbles having to be local are wrong!

EllasAuntie · 15/02/2021 09:35

@jeaux90

It's a single adult household. She is allowed.

Also, get a life.

Probably too late for this one but if she's a single adult, she can bubble with one person/family.

So that's either her boyfriend (the OP's ex) or her parents.

Not both.

brownet · 15/02/2021 09:36

Doesn't change the fact that everyone shouting about bubbles having to be local are wrong!

I said the same thing upthread but it's irrelevant because that's not what's happening.

Tiktokersmiracle · 15/02/2021 09:36

Jesus

What is wrong with people?

It's got nothing to do with you what she does.
Or anyone else.
It doesn't directly affect you.
If they catch covid that's on them

I really do wonder what all the self important curtain twitchers will do once we go back to normal.

goodwinter · 15/02/2021 09:36

[quote NerrSnerr]@goodwinter she can't have two support bubbles. It can't be a childcare bubble as she's socialising with her mum (face masks etc) and that's not allowed for a childcare bubble. [/quote]
I'm specifically talking about distance for a support bubble.

Mrsjayy · 15/02/2021 09:37

It isn't her fault your ex is an arsehole you are stalking somebody on Facebook that is weird stop it ,

WhatWouldPhyllisCraneDo · 15/02/2021 09:37

@brownet

Doesn't change the fact that everyone shouting about bubbles having to be local are wrong!

I said the same thing upthread but it's irrelevant because that's not what's happening.

Well that's true! Grin
Xenia · 15/02/2021 09:37

The guidelines allow it but also they are not the law. the law is even more generous - it has no limit on how far you can go even to go shopping by the way and the list of reasons to leave the house in the statuary instrument is a non exhaustive list i.e. 1000 other reasons might be lawful if reasonable.

Blindstupid · 15/02/2021 09:37

More bending of the rules then whatwould

I think common sense tells us 300 miles is not actually a support bubble - unless you stay there. Guidance is guidance, common sense must also play a part. Stay at home, stay local ... oh doesn’t matter my support bubble is 300 miles away, stay at home doesn’t apply to me Hmm

As pp have said, this lady doesn’t need or qualify for this support bubble - she sees others, and her partner - surely him at least is her support bubble?

Let’s all just flout the rules/misinterpret the guidance/throw our common sense out the window and just drive 300 miles to visit friends, oh sorry, I mean visit our support bubble 🙄

MsHedgehog · 15/02/2021 09:40

@Babyboomtastic

I don't think this was the OW...

The OP was part way through sorting the divorce at the tail end of 2019, so realistically they split at least 18m ago, probably more, and the gf is described as a new girlfriend. Add to that there OPs reluctance to clarify the matter, and I think people here are potentially vilifying a woman who hasn't done anything wrong.

Good spot.

OP this woman has done nothing to you. Not her fault your ex is a d*ck and hurt you. Leave her alone and stop obsessing about her, it isn’t healthy at all.

WhatWouldPhyllisCraneDo · 15/02/2021 09:40

Possibly bending of the rules yes. But you are allowed to stay with your support bubble, so you could feasibly visit for a few nights at a time.

I mean I wouldn't want my support bubble to be so far away, but my Mum is only 5 miles away so its easy to say that.

LolaSmiles · 15/02/2021 09:40

She can have a support bubble and a childcare bubble. The two don't have to be the same bubble household
True, but the childcare bubble is for childcare and you can't be socialising.

If she is mixing with a non-resident partner and then also mixing with her mum then she is breaking the law.

Xenia · 15/02/2021 09:40

It is very hard to get this right. The law is on one side and allows a lot of things and then there is a huge mushy discretionary bit with some people wanting people hardly to leave the house and others taking the view all the mandatory measures are a breach of our human rights. I respect both views.

Hopefully the vaccine will mean every single covid 19 lockdown law including the total wedding ban (it bans even just 2 people at a wedding unless they are dying) can be removed on 22 Feb.

brownet · 15/02/2021 09:42

I'm against reporting for a few reasons & find the idea uncomfortable in general however

It doesn't directly affect you.
If they catch covid that's on them
that doesn't make sense. People breaking rules don't only risk themselves do they?

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