Gift disappointment

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AIBU to be annoyed by my Valentine's Day gift. For context I got him his favourite posh chocs and also a coat that he's always wanted but thought was too expensive to treat himself to. He was thrilled.

He got me... sexy underwear. I'd be underwhelmed at the best of times because I think that's a gift for the guy not the girl really. And I'm sure I've told him that I'm not keen on undies as a present before.

But also. We recently found out that I'm pregnant, and so tbh it's the last thing I want. I appreciate that he bought before we knew but couldn't he have returned it and got something else when we found out? Or maybe saved in for a later (disappointing) year.

He really built it up as well saying he'd put loads of thought in and I'd love it and he couldn't wait for me to open. Frankly it feels totally thoughtless and I'd rather have had nothing at all.

He keeps suggesting I try it on and it's just leaving me totally cold. AIBU?

If you’re so bothered about this, why are you having a baby with him? You’ll look back on this in 10 months time and be “why did that bother me?” It’s really not that important.

Years ago I sent DP a list of my sizes and preferred brands which are nice but not 'sexy sexy' (ie Freya, Curvy Kate etc). He will often buy me a nice set of underwear which is matching but comfortable and wearable. Maybe worth talking to him about what kind of pants you'd actually like.

I would say, Mumsnet is v quick to call your husband a sex pest, but men are marketed to buy underwear for v day. It's nice that he tried, and he's only a twat if he does it again having been given instruction not to.

If you had genuinely thought about something, really felt pleased that you'd got a great present, honestly thought the recipient would love it - how would it feel to discover your gift was not only a disappointment, but that it actually annoyed you....how would you feel? He sounds like a lovely bloke to me. He just got it wrong. I think he feels a little bit humiliated, a little bit silly and quite a lot flabbergasted that you've told him you didn't appreciate his expensive present. Of course he went all defensive. So many blokes would just hand over a box of Heroes and petrol station flowers without any thought at all. Poor bugger.