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To be cringing at all the look how in love we are valintines posts on social media

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Hahaha88 · 14/02/2021 12:53

Maybe I'm just old and cold hearted but it honestly makes me cringe seeing my social media flooded with posts about how much they love their other half and pics of their cards and gifts for valentines day. Surely no one actually cares or wants to see?! Am I alone in this?
Fwiw I am happily in love with my partner, but I manage to tell him to his face not plant it all over the Internet 🤦🏻‍♀️

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sammylady37 · 14/02/2021 12:58

In my experience, the more gushing the social media post, the less secure/successful the relationship! It’s the modern day equivalent of the curse of Hello magazine.

Butchyrestingface · 14/02/2021 12:59

Oh, thanks for the reminder, OP. I need to log on and check whatever boasty crap my relative has posted about her husband today. Grin

peak2021 · 14/02/2021 13:02

@ sammylady37 you beat me to it!! Same as low key weddings seeming more likely to be 'til death us do part'.

Lightningcrops · 14/02/2021 13:03

I always like to see happy posts, but it seems, as usual, the ones who have posted soppy posts are also the ones who have been talking about being unhappy in their relationships throughout the year- go figure!

MiaMarshmallows · 14/02/2021 13:04

We are one of those couples. You would probably hate us as posted 3 photos today.
Nothing to do with not being happy, we couldn't be happier. We just like to celebrate the day and the love we have for each other.

Scarlettpixie · 14/02/2021 13:10

I am deliberately staying away from Facebook today for this reason,

Butchyrestingface · 14/02/2021 13:10

@MiaMarshmallows

We are one of those couples. You would probably hate us as posted 3 photos today. Nothing to do with not being happy, we couldn't be happier. We just like to celebrate the day and the love we have for each other.
Why can't you celebrate without posting photos/updates of yourselves on FB?
doctorhamster · 14/02/2021 13:13

It's very odd and probably not a healthy way to conduct a relationship. I think a lot of these couples are probably trying to convince themselves rather than anyone else!

Devlesko · 14/02/2021 13:13

I'm lucky and only add people I can stand, that way nobody winds me up.
You don't look as popular with your fewer friends but you don't look shallow neither.
Remove those gushing or those you don't have stuff in common with, and free yourself Grin

LuaDipa · 14/02/2021 13:14

I think it’s lovely tbh. I don’t post on FB at all but I quite like seeing all the sweet sentiment. It’s a nice reminder to be grateful for our loved ones.

chickadeeeeeeeee · 14/02/2021 13:14

Anyone in a happy and healthy relationship does not need to seek the approval of or boast to others Grin

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Hahaha88 · 14/02/2021 13:15

@MiaMarshmallows

We are one of those couples. You would probably hate us as posted 3 photos today. Nothing to do with not being happy, we couldn't be happier. We just like to celebrate the day and the love we have for each other.
But why do you need to post on social media to celebrate the day and love you have for each other? I'm not meaning this nastily but do you really think most of the people who see it give a damn?
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Hahaha88 · 14/02/2021 13:16

@Devlesko

I'm lucky and only add people I can stand, that way nobody winds me up. You don't look as popular with your fewer friends but you don't look shallow neither. Remove those gushing or those you don't have stuff in common with, and free yourself Grin
If I only I could, but some of those doing the gushing are close friends!
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MiaMarshmallows · 14/02/2021 13:16

Of course we can celebrate without posting photos but it's nice. I like seeing other people in love and I know our friends feel the same.
Does annoy me when people on Mumsnet say "They hate each other really." or "There must be problems if they post."
Sorry to disappoint but we are genuinely very happy. Love should be celebrated.

HaveeeeYouMetTed · 14/02/2021 13:16

It's nice to see happy posts rather than the usual doom & gloom.
It's the 14th of Feb. You know what day it is. Just avoid SM for the day if it bothers you so much.
Your point about nobody caring or wanting to see could stand for 90% of social media posts.

ConeHat · 14/02/2021 13:17

I dont think most people want to see most things on FB which is why I try to avoid it.

Maybe covid is getting to me but my FB is mostly full of dhs family i never see in RL.

tunnocksreturns2019 · 14/02/2021 13:17
Grin

I’ve not been on FB today, and I won’t be. My late DH and I never gushed on Facebook, but I don’t like reading other people’s gushing now he’s died.

However: I just made pizza muffins with DD and am about to sit in a den she and her brother made in the living room, eating the muffins and watching Godzilla #truelove

DinoHat · 14/02/2021 13:18

@sammylady37

In my experience, the more gushing the social media post, the less secure/successful the relationship! It’s the modern day equivalent of the curse of Hello magazine.
This.
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Hahaha88 · 14/02/2021 13:18

@chickadeeeeeeeee

Anyone in a happy and healthy relationship does not need to seek the approval of or boast to others Grin
Thinking further on it, years and years ago I would have posted sickeningly loving posts about my then partner. Now partly that may have been because I was young and stupid, but also deep down I was not happy in the relationship at all. I remember when I ended things people saying to me but you guys were so happy and in love, erm we weren't, but I wanted it to be that we were so I presented it as if we were.
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namechangefail2020 · 14/02/2021 13:19

Yeah I always find it weird. I do always mark Valentine's, but privately. Same people who do a gushing birthday post even tho they're sat right next to them so could just turn and say it to them. Attention seeking but I don't get annoyed, just a bit Hmm

KatherineOfGaunt · 14/02/2021 13:19

My DH has given me no card or present today. But yesterday he got up with our son in the morning because I was so tired and brought me a coffee in bed.

Love can be celebrated any day, not just some date and name that's a mixture of a Roman festival and a church martyr!

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Hahaha88 · 14/02/2021 13:20

@tunnocksreturns2019

Grin

I’ve not been on FB today, and I won’t be. My late DH and I never gushed on Facebook, but I don’t like reading other people’s gushing now he’s died.

However: I just made pizza muffins with DD and am about to sit in a den she and her brother made in the living room, eating the muffins and watching Godzilla #truelove

I'm sorry for your loss. The pizza muffins and den sound perfect. Enjoy x
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Whitecup4 · 14/02/2021 13:21

Ahhh I love seeing it- although I don’t actually do that myself- I’m a very private person when it comes to social media and I’m not on fb.

When I see them it reminds me of when I was young, I was in love and commented to my uncle that it was my “15 month anniversary today” he laughed so hard- in fits of laughter- he wasn’t being mean but just got taken by surprise and commented back with “young love”

That’s what those posts remind me off, young or immature love- it’s sweet really.

Daisysflowers · 14/02/2021 13:23

The ones who make me laugh are the ones who do a big post all lovey and soppy with pictures etc etc to their loved one...and their over half isn’t even on Facebook Grin

I honestly wonder if they go ‘here babe look at what I did For you on my Facebook page’🤣

Dahlietta · 14/02/2021 13:26

I was genuinely surprised yesterday when my friend told me she and her husband were having a Valentine’s Day meal. On the 13th of February! They’ve been married for years. Valentine’s Day is for young lovers, not old fogeys like us. She hasn’t posted it on social media though, so I will let her off Grin