To be cringing at all the look how in love we are valintines posts on social media

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Maybe I'm just old and cold hearted but it honestly makes me cringe seeing my social media flooded with posts about how much they love their other half and pics of their cards and gifts for valentines day. Surely no one actually cares or wants to see?! Am I alone in this?
Fwiw I am happily in love with my partner, but I manage to tell him to his face not plant it all over the Internet 🤦🏻‍♀️

I think you're being a but miserable! What's wrong with posting a bit of happiness on SM? If it bothers you, dont read it, snooze people. Do you moan about holiday pictures too?

I was genuinely surprised yesterday when my friend told me she and her husband were having a Valentine’s Day meal. On the 13th of February! They’ve been married for years. Valentine’s Day is for young lovers, not old fogeys like us.

We've been together over 30 years and still do a nice meal on valentines day. He gave me chocs and gin, I made him a cake, exchanged soppy cards. None of this has gone of FB or been discussed with anyone else. That is what I find surprising.

What’s the phrase? “A private life is a happy life”

I’m a bit 🤷‍♀️ meh about the whole social media Valentine's thing and I won’t be posting photos of my card/chocolates on FB. However I have been tagged in a Valentine's post by my best mate, to whom I sent a painted heart as a VDay gift 😄 and that’s fine by me!

As it’s social media, it’s exactly what I’d expect to see. I like people that post happy things that are happening in their lives. I want to see their holiday snaps, their children’s first day at school, their wedding photos from 20 years ago, their walk to feed the ducks. I think it’s lovely and the reason I’m on fb.

I can see the logic in posting about loving your partner on Facebook on V Day more than I can see the logic in nasty, mean-spirited, moralistic and superior posts on Mumsnet cackling about how miserable all these people must be.

To be honest I've always thought the only fun thing about Valentine's day is it being an opportunity to let someone you fancy know about it. That's the only way it seems romantic to me, I'm not in a relationship but if I was I wouldn't want to give or receive anything for the sake of this day, much prefer spontaneous things when already together.

Some people aren't half loud and public about how quiet and private their lives are....

An acquaintance of mine on Instagram posted a pic of her new very expensive designer watch that her husband has got her then proceeded to say how guilty she feels for receiving such an extravagant gift, don't brag about it on social media then !!

Agreed, it's a bit cringe. Also, it seems to be getting bigger each year - I know a few people who've posted bunches of balloons, piles of presents, flowers, breakfast, like you'd do for an 18th or a 30th this morning. One had matching pyjamas and gifts for her and all her children... Seems excessive (and weird, in the case of the kids) to me.

We've had a roast and now he's asleep with his adorable warm head on my lap while we watch a documentary... I'll take quiet domestic joy over a display of heart shaped food to post on Facebook any day!

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The ones I find odd is where one half gushes about their amazing partner, pics, love you loads etc. And the other half replies with the same gushing - in the comments! Err, you're married - are you not at least in the same house, if not the same room? Why are you gushing to each other via FB instead of face to face.

I always picture them sitting next to each other on the settee, no physical contact, both totally absorbed in their mobile phones. Modern love?

I know a couple who post gushing birthday/anniversary/Christmas/valentines posts to each other, tag and reply all on Facebook. They’ve woken up in the same bed, presumably spoken to each other already, very possibly shagged...why the need to post “happy Valentine’s day Dave, my wonderful hubby” for all to see. Could she not say that to him in person?

Totally agree OP. It's bad enough seeing all the posts on MN today with ladies complaining about their cards/presents. Why do you need a set date to buy your OH a little gift expressing your love?

YANBU.

However, today IS my dogs' birthday so he got his own gushy post

Funnily enough I feel the most secure I ever have in my relationship and I feel no need whatsoever to post about it on social media. We didn't even do cards. I've realised that Valentine's means nothing if you're only doing it 'for the 'gram' as it were.

I literally just had this conversation with my husband 😂

We've had a roast and now he's asleep with his adorable warm head on my lap

Are you talking about your husband or your dog?!

We do cards, flowers etc on VD but I don't feel the need to post about it.

I actually don't mind if someone posts a pic of flowers or chocs or a photo it's the weird gushing posts like I don't understand. As others have said say it in person.

I’ve not got a single gushy post on my feed ... wonder if it’s an age thing

I can see the logic in nasty, mean-spirited, moralistic and superior posts on Mumsnet cackling about how miserable all these people must be.

Obviously a fan of this behaviour then.
As others say you don't have to read the thread if you don't like it.
Live & let live!

For those saying nobody cares, I care.
I like to share in my friends happiness,

So do I but because they are my friends I wouldn't just be finding out about their relationships on VD.

Soon we will have people dry humping or posting post coital snaps because nothing is private 🤣

I'm one of those people who post and I also enjoy seeing posts from others.

I wouldn't say my post was particularly gushing but I did say I loved my DH and post an old picture of us together.

To the poster who said those that post like this tend to not have the strongest relationships could've be more wrong. This is our 20th valentines day together and we couldn't be stronger.

I'm not sure why is bothers people so much. Just scroll on if you don't like it.

The very gushy/soppy ones do make me roll my eyes a bit in amusement but they don't necessarily bother me. It wouldn't be my style or my husband's but everyone is different.

I don't agree with the view that these people are always doing it because they have shit relationships, although that may well be true for a lot of them I think it's more about attention seeking and getting likes...which is what social media is in its essence I suppose!

FWIW I'm happily married, we do mark the day with a card and a token present like wine/chocs and maybe a nice meal in, but I don't really feel it has much significance overall. Each to their own though and I don't blame people wanting to have something to celebrate at the moment when we're all locked in.

Someone on my Facebook page was wishing a Happy Valentines Day to their dead relatives along with hearts and flowers.
It seems there is no escape from.Facebook even in Heaven.

I have noticed this today. Also, for the first time, I've noticed how grabby people are being this year. I;ve seen more than one facebook status of "What did you get for valentines day? I got X" (this was the actual wording of one). It just comes across so crass and grabby.

I have also noticed a huge increase in parents buying or decorating for their children though and do love to see this. Maybe because its not £££ handbags or jewellery and instead is cute chocolate lollies and small treats.

We've had a roast and now he's asleep with his adorable warm head on my lap
Beautiful strong relationship with your Labrador