To be cringing at all the look how in love we are valintines posts on social media

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Maybe I'm just old and cold hearted but it honestly makes me cringe seeing my social media flooded with posts about how much they love their other half and pics of their cards and gifts for valentines day. Surely no one actually cares or wants to see?! Am I alone in this?
Fwiw I am happily in love with my partner, but I manage to tell him to his face not plant it all over the Internet 🤦🏻‍♀️

@doctorhamster

It's very odd and probably not a healthy way to conduct a relationship. I think a lot of these couples are probably trying to convince themselves rather than anyone else!

I don't get why people think this.

Naturally, many relationships fail and the couple may or may not post on social media

I didn't post anything but how does posting once on valentines signify an unhappy relationship? It's a once a year thing and people just want to share a nice picture they took with their SO

I personally enjoy seeing couples post nice pics for valentines, might be different if I was single or recently broken up...

DH and I were just discussing this now. Boak invoke

@ItsJackieWeaverBitch

Was she asking on fb for the advice on how to get him out?! I actually cannot understand some people

Yes, she was although the post could only be seen by a select number of people who she wanted advice from, including me. Hopefully she builds on her self esteem and gets rid of him 🤷‍♀️

The ludicrousness of that is beyond me

It’s nice to celebrate love.

I don’t mind people posting about it on fb, either. I just ignore the ones i know are in shit relationships.

Why can't you celebrate without posting photos/updates of yourselves on FB?

If people want to post a picture on their own FB why not? Why should anyone really care about what others do. But a lot of MN doesn't like FB generally, not just Valentines pictures so whilst really judgey and nasty some of the comments here doesn't surprise me

gosh so many valentine's grinches here.
If you don't like seeing it, block the people you think will do it, or scroll on past.

They’ve been married for years. Valentine’s Day is for young lovers, not old fogeys like us.
also fuck that shit, it's for anyone who wants to. We've never really gone in for it, but if i was a fan of the day i wouldn't not do whatever the heck i wanted, on or off SM, just to appease a bunch of grumpy gits.

And will people just get over themselves trying to tell other people how to use their own social media?

I remember seeing a meme once that said “the best relationships are the ones you don’t know about” in other words they are kept private. They are the ones I believe are the happiest.

Anyone who plasters all over social media (regardless of age) definitely has some insecurities about themselves and/or their relationship. Either that or they are a ‘look at me’ type of person

@sammylady37

In my experience, the more gushing the social media post, the less secure/successful the relationship! It’s the modern day equivalent of the curse of Hello magazine.

This ^

Teens I get sharing valentines on SM, adults no.

But why do you think other people want to hear your gushing monologues? Cant you tell your partner seeing as it's a day for couples? Why must you publish every thought on FB? I'll tell you why, to show off, you're welcome

How did one publicly gush before social media? I don't remember the 80s equivalent.

But that was in the days you sent postcards and didn't know where your classmates had been on holiday until you got back to school in September. Ditto what they had for Christmas.

@MiaMarshmallows

We are one of those couples. You would probably hate us as posted 3 photos today. Nothing to do with not being happy, we couldn't be happier. We just like to celebrate the day and the love we have for each other.

But why do you need to be so public about it? Nobody else cares!

I opened up Instagram this morning forgetting it was Valentines (I'm married, we hate valentines) and it was full of cringy shit. One friend made a huge gushy post about her boyfriend who she literally does nothing but moan about and even told me a few weeks ago she was thinking of ending it
Oh and another put a gushy post then a post tagging someone who had made them this big chocolate heart filled with a few red and pink sweets and surrounded by more sweets. £30. Valentines is a mugs game!

I'm staying off it for the rest of the day!

@Sheleg speak for yourself, I like to see it! Probably because I care about my friends happiness, makes me smile to see them doing well in any area of life. Relationships included.

I'm not meaning this nastily but do you really think most of the people who see it give a damn?

To be fair this could be to literally any post on FB which then begs the question...why be on FB? (Asking myself not you )

DH and I have no plans so won't be posting any cutsie selfies. But what does annoy me today (and post miscarriage me may be overly invested and hormonal) is all of the 'Happy Valentines day to the best mummy to our baby!' Or 'Happy Valentines to this Heartbreaker' as they post a photo of their 2 year old - not envy. Actually maybe a little envy.

I’ve just had a look at my FB feed - scrolling down it is either jokes about Valentines Day, or single friends making wry comments. I only seem to have one “this is my Valentine” post, and they have only been married a year, and also are American, so I will cut them some slack. Mostly it seems to be business as usual - pets, kids, food, reposting news and jokes.

@Sparklingbrook

How did one publicly gush before social media? I don't remember the 80s equivalent.

But that was in the days you sent postcards and didn't know where your classmates had been on holiday until you got back to school in September. Ditto what they had for Christmas.

You had your Valentine flowers delivered to your office - I remember a lot of that! Or if you were at school you wandered around clutching your huge plush card with a teddy bear on it all day.

I don't mind seeing nice posts from happy couples.

On my Facebook today though there was someone I know whe barely speaks to their partner most of the time and is always moaning about him and putting attention seeking memes on Facebook about heartbreak and not being appreciated.

Another one is a mum from school who's husband is a total nob who treats her like shit and traumatises the kids by packing bags and leaving making the kids distraught and then turning back up a week later and it's all lovey dovey again.
That lady has gone all out posting their day with hearts and presents and gushy words. Even the kids got gifts.

They made me feel quite depressed. It's so sad.

I don't begrudge people celebrating Valentine's and making it a special day for them though. The sneering and superior attitude of some posters on Mumsnet is horrid. I also don't get all the "it's just for kids" comments either
Who made up that rule?

@sammylady37

In my experience, the more gushing the social media post, the less secure/successful the relationship! It’s the modern day equivalent of the curse of Hello magazine.

Oh a 100%

My friend who I love deeply is always treated rubbish my her cheating * husband. She posted baloons, jewellery, cards and cake all over social media (whatsapp stories, twitter, facebook and instagram)

I don't mind the loving messages, although I do laugh a bit at the fact that they're both sat next to each other on their phones telling each other how happy they are via sm.

But I cringe at the photos of gifts - they're usually shit.

Haha. I love facebook but it hasn't even crossed my mind to post something. I did consider sending my brother a picture of the chocolates dh bought me as they are his favourite ans cant be bought in his country!!!

Wasn’t sure if I should share the fact that DH cleaned the dog’s stitches this morning while I dealt with DS’s absolutely stinking poonami of a nappy on social media. Acts of true love IMO, you can keep yer red roses and chocolates.

@rawlikesushi

I don't mind the loving messages, although I do laugh a bit at the fact that they're both sat next to each other on their phones telling each other how happy they are via sm.

But I cringe at the photos of gifts - they're usually shit.

I didn't even think about the fact they are sitting next to each other anyway, so true! Makes it even worse somehow.

The level of judgemental replies here are astounding- yes, it can be cringey, but complaining on it makes you seem bitter. The people who do it are normally unhappily single or wish their DP’s would do something romantic.
Having a caring partner who also does sweet things on special days in a year because they know it makes you happy are not mutually exclusive!
It’s people social media and they can post what they like!

Also - people like me have friends/family scattered all over the world. It’s nice to log on and see what they’re up to. I unfollow people with ‘cringey’ posts. If it bothers you that much stop being so sneery and use your privacy settings

@tunnocksreturns2019

I’ve not been on FB today, and I won’t be. My late DH and I never gushed on Facebook, but I don’t like reading other people’s gushing now he’s died.

However: I just made pizza muffins with DD and am about to sit in a den she and her brother made in the living room, eating the muffins and watching Godzilla #truelove

I'm so sorry for your loss. We aren't fb gushers, but reading this made me wonder if One day I could look back and wish I'd documented this stupid stuff. Or would it be more painful?

For those saying nobody cares, I care.
I like to share in my friends happiness, I'm odd and insecure like that
I think it says more about you if you can't be happy to share others happiness.