To be cringing at all the look how in love we are valintines posts on social media

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Maybe I'm just old and cold hearted but it honestly makes me cringe seeing my social media flooded with posts about how much they love their other half and pics of their cards and gifts for valentines day. Surely no one actually cares or wants to see?! Am I alone in this?
Fwiw I am happily in love with my partner, but I manage to tell him to his face not plant it all over the Internet 🤦🏻‍♀️

I sometimes wonder if there's anything we're actually ALLOWED to post on social media anymore? According to Mumsnet, posting about your partner in any shape or form is forbidden, shouldn't post about date nights, can't post engagement announcements, wedding photos, children's achievements or any form of good news? Should we all just post a roundup of the miserable news we've seen each day?

Valentine’s Day is for you and your partner. Why would you need to post on SM wishing your partner happy valentines (if you are going to see them in person) unless you are attention seeking and need validation.

I’m not against SM or sharing stuff in general but I think the Valentine’s Day stuff is sad and just indicates how over invested you are in other people’s perception of your life.

Oh gosh. I have a friend who posts this gushy crap to his wife on Valentine's Day. She does the same in return. Their marriage is in the crapper, most of the time they don't like each other, and they haven't slept together for years. Yet if you believed their respective Facebook pages, you'd think they were loved up and the most adorable couple ever. I cringe when I see it happen. It's so fake and icky.

If you're genuinely happy, I just don't see the need for the public gushing.

@tunnocksreturns2019

I’ve not been on FB today, and I won’t be. My late DH and I never gushed on Facebook, but I don’t like reading other people’s gushing now he’s died.

However: I just made pizza muffins with DD and am about to sit in a den she and her brother made in the living room, eating the muffins and watching Godzilla #truelove

A den and homemade muffins sounds like the perfect way to spend the day ❤️.

Not a single declaration of love on my fb yet. Twitter is full of brilliant GC roses are red poems and Larry the Cat's 10 year anniversary at 10 Downing St.

Keeping it real😬

The ones I find odd is where one half gushes about their amazing partner, pics, love you loads etc. And the other half replies with the same gushing - in the comments! Err, you're married - are you not at least in the same house, if not the same room? Why are you gushing to each other via FB instead of face to face.

I always picture them sitting next to each other on the settee, no physical contact, both totally absorbed in their mobile phones. Modern love?

Yep. Makes me puke but I’m a cynical old git.😂 It’s the performativity I hate And the fact it’s a made up consumer day so we all spend money on cards and over priced flowers.

It's totally cringe and I know for a fact one gushy swoony couple on my newsfeed absolutely loathe each other and have been trying not to kill each other in lockdown. I like it for amusement though.

I was genuinely surprised yesterday when my friend told me she and her husband were having a Valentine’s Day meal. On the 13th of February! They’ve been married for years. Valentine’s Day is for young lovers, not old fogeys like us.

bullshit
been together 28 years and we still celebrate valentine's day with cards , gifts and a lovely meal

and do you know what? we had a really big expensive wedding too and it was fucking brilliant and i still adore him.

so many sour grapes on here today-or at least that is how it comes across. if you don't like seeing it on facebook, then turn off facebook.
live and let live.

Agree op! It's like those people who say happy birthday to their 5 year old child on facebook. Like they can read it.

Lots of jealous people. How sad for them.

No not wrong. I used to look and think lucky you and how nice, I like all the bits and bobs you see on sale every year lol, that's just me sad lolll. I know many just think it is over commercialised, but we celebrate other things, why not your relationship etc.

I have a friend who is late 50's and is in a long term affair with her first boyfriend from their teens years ..she is also in a long marriage, two grown up children , and has not allowed her husband to have sex with her for at least ten years..but their mutual Valentines cards are mahoosive and on full display in their living room..

I've had to hide someone.

Valentine's 2019 he posted pictures of himself, very long term partner and a ring. Date set for her birthday, in December 2019.

Today? Pictures of his new lady love, 8 months pregnant, with a ring. Date to be confirmed (wedding, not baby, obviously 😊 )

@sammylady37

In my experience, the more gushing the social media post, the less secure/successful the relationship! It’s the modern day equivalent of the curse of Hello magazine.

🤣 I thought of that too! Social media has a lot to answer for. And okay it acts as another way to let people who you know, know what is happening, we didn't have it before so we obviously coped! I guess it wouldn't of been as easy to ring up 3000 'friends' 😉🙄 and tell them what you received, as it is to just post it eh 🤣

One of the many reasons I'm not on Facebook or Instagram! It's so cringey.

We have a yearly tradition of finding the most insulting memes and gifs to send each other on fb (usually we just do it in person )

Love should be celebrated

Yes. But privately.

Lots of people are having a shitty day today, and for a variety of reasons the hallmark-sentiment on social media can be needless salt in the wound.. and for what? If you love your partner, show them and tell them directly. You don't need to broadcast it everyone else.

FWIW I'm very happily married and having a lovely day. I love Valentine's day. But lots of people don't.

What's giving me the creeps is all the absolute spoiling of children from their parents today. Flowers and balloons and bags full of presents! It's ridiculous, over the top, and very showy.

I'm not seeing my DP today, still a relatively new relationship (less than a year) but we aren't marking the day at all. I picked him up some heart shaped chocolates a couple of weeks ago when he had a shitty week at work, and bought him some slippers to keep at mine last week because he lives in his slippers at home. He bought me a frame poster for my favourite film last month for no reason, and has in the last week arranged and paid for a private speech therapist for my son because I was upset about him still being stuck on a waiting list.

I prefer that we show each other love through these actions when they arise, naturally. However I'm also not the kind of arsehold to post anything like that on social media to make it seem as if I am 'above' valentines day.

Each to their own.

But I hate that a commercialised day has become even more commercialised by dragging kids into it.

My love token has just come out if the oven. Individual apple and dulce de lece pies 😁

In return DH is making a roast beef dinner. We may even have some yorkies left in the freezer!

I agree op! There's really no need! It's so showy off... But I guess that's just Facebook for you. Surely you celebrate together, why put it all over Facebook, just to scream look at me and how happy I am! It's the same people in my opinion too... They love a good Facebook post! I feel it's just competitive rubbish!

I don't mind the odd "happy Valentine's Day!" Post with a nice picture, it's the declaring undying love and photos of a mountain of presents that I cringe at. Maybe I'm just jealous 🤷🏼‍♀️😆

In my experience, the more gushing the social media post, the less secure/successful the relationship! It’s the modern day equivalent of the curse of Hello magazine.

This^^

I always think this of people who renew their marriage vows too (unless they’ve been married for eons).

Also lots of people saying lots of jealous people... I'm not jealous, I've had a lovely card off future DH and a little gift... Just not feeling the need to plaster all over Facebook!