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To be cringing at all the look how in love we are valintines posts on social media

545 replies

Hahaha88 · 14/02/2021 12:53

Maybe I'm just old and cold hearted but it honestly makes me cringe seeing my social media flooded with posts about how much they love their other half and pics of their cards and gifts for valentines day. Surely no one actually cares or wants to see?! Am I alone in this?
Fwiw I am happily in love with my partner, but I manage to tell him to his face not plant it all over the Internet 🤦🏻‍♀️

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EmergencyHydrangea · 14/02/2021 13:48

@Trinacham

Yep. It is really cringey. Every year it is the same ones. I just think, it's all for us. It's not for them. I tell my DH to his face that I love him. I'm guessing the ones who voted YABU are the ones who've done it!
Nope, we don't celebrate valentines day at all. I just feel like its totally unreasonable to have a bug up your nose about people who share about it on FB
roastpotatoesss · 14/02/2021 13:49

YABU, and quite grouchy.

What is social media if not for posing and sharing your life? What do you post on yours that’s so thrilling?

It’s been a miserable year, it’s nice to see some happiness for a change.

roastpotatoesss · 14/02/2021 13:49

I don’t do it myself btw but couldn’t imagine caring if anyone else does.

avocadospringseternal · 14/02/2021 13:49

Emperor Claudius II had banned marriage because he thought married men were bad soldiers. Valentine felt this was unfair, so he broke the rules and arranged marriages in secret.

When Claudius found out, Valentine was thrown in jail and sentenced to death.

There, he fell in love with the jailer's daughter and when he was taken to be killed on 14 February he sent her a love letter signed "from your Valentine".

It's not the most cheerful story. The anniversary of a day someone was killed seems an odd choice to decide it's very important to you to publicly celebrate your love on this specific day. One would think there might be less macabre dates available.

www.bbc.co.uk/newsround/16945378

MiaMarshmallows · 14/02/2021 13:50

Some very nasty people on this thread. Its sad when people can't be happy for others and that they take it personally when others are in lovely relationships.

JackieWeaverIsTheAuthority · 14/02/2021 13:51

I’m cringing at all the ones from kids to their parents and grandparents.

Sparklingbrook · 14/02/2021 13:52

Georgia Tennant's Instagram is more like it. She's bought David boxer shorts with her face all over them. Grin

Nnameechanged · 14/02/2021 13:53

I don't post on social media much at all, never have and won't be sharing a gushing valentine's day post either. But now I'm wondering if people will feel like they're missing out by not seeing my card and our fancy supermarket meal deal (won't lie, quite looking forward to that!). 😂
I know one couple (very close family members) who post about how they never argue, how lucky they are to have one another, etc. and will no doubt (as usual) be sharing posts about how amazing their day was. Yet they are constantly bickering, one is very controlling, and the expensive presents are because they never have any physical contact apart from the odd, extremely awkward PDA for appearance's sake.
So I don't take any of it at face value.

ParkheadParadise · 14/02/2021 13:53

My niece is a perfect example of this.
Her partner is an arsehole she has 2 children with him.
Sometimes she will agree that he is an arsehole will leave and go and stay with my sister( she has plenty of posts on FB explained in pm'd u hun )
Today he is not an arsehole because she is on FB with her balloons, Jo Malone candle and a promise of a weekend away.
Her kids are also in the pictures with their Valentines gifts, personalized balloons and chocolates. She wasn't happy last night when she asked if I wanted balloons and chocs for dd. Dd is 5 wtf!!!
She also owns me £50 she probably spent that on the fucking balloons and chocs for her weans.

NeedCoffeeToSurvive · 14/02/2021 13:54

One of my sisters Facebook page is full of it today Hmm I'm pretty sure her husband doesn't actually post things himself and it's just her using his phone to write things like "I love my sexy wife so much, she's beautiful" followed by a ridiculous amount of X's. Although to me any amount of X's is ridiculous, either that or she probably asks him to post something.

Ironically my other sister also posted valentines day crap on her page saying how much she loves her boyfriend and what a perfect man he is when everyone knows full well that their relationship is a load of crap, he's a terrible father and boyfriend and they have monthly episodes of if to break up or not.

HeckyPeck · 14/02/2021 13:54

I only have people I actually like on Facebook and it makes me happy to see them happy. Especially at the moment when I can't see them in person.

I guess if I had people I didn't like or knew one was cheating or something it might annoy me.

Littlefluffyclouds13 · 14/02/2021 13:56

I've been thoroughly spoilt but wouldn't dream of plastering it over social media, totally crass and bloody insensitive.

Dd & I are currently having fun trying to spot the most cringeworthy posts on her instagram - it's rich pickings out there! So competitive, it's making my eyes hurt!

Holothane · 14/02/2021 13:57

We’ve had xards small rug for me and a treasured me9dical history dvd I couldn’t be happier but it not on Facebook or that stuff, my dh wanted to do roses and stuff we’re having new floor on Friday so I said no, we’re very happy that’s our main present.

Trinacham · 14/02/2021 13:57

EmergencyHydrangea

The main person I'm thinking of is my cousin, who gushes like this with every occasion. Her mother doesn't have Facebook, yet she gushes happy birthday to her and posts loads of pictures. I just don't get that. The recipient won't even see it. That's why I just think, it's all just for us to see.

TrainingAim · 14/02/2021 13:58

The peole who do it once in a while for special occasions are fine althiguh why grown ups buy into Valentines is beyond me

It's the ones who do it all the time that make me wonder who they're trying to convince.

avocadospringseternal · 14/02/2021 13:58

I don't mind the gushing so much if that's how people want to use their SM, I just find it irritating when people defend mindless traditions they don't understand and claim it has meaning that it doesn't.

Especially when the value they are protesting that the traditions holds was created by marketers or the date was only selected by an institution trying to develop its power.

See also, diamonds and white wedding dresses.

Trinacham · 14/02/2021 13:59

@JackieWeaverIsTheAuthority

I’m cringing at all the ones from kids to their parents and grandparents.
Seriously? I think that's sweet. I've never done that. However, since my dad passed I do like to give my mum something.. but nothing on social media.
Icenii · 14/02/2021 14:01

We don't celebrate it. It's the cat's birthday so we celebrate that instead.

However, it gives people something to do. Pretty boring at the moment. It's just the done thing now isn't it. Posting on social media. Just normal part of life.

Sparklingbrook · 14/02/2021 14:01

I don't have FB, but I have got Instagram, and I am following some celebs because I find the stuff they post interesting.

Sometimes it's a bit OTT and cringey but that's presumably what's they want people to see. A lot of it is perfectly normal and quite funny.

I have a handful of friends on there too but they hardly post. same as me.

Calledyoulastnightfromglasgow · 14/02/2021 14:04

The folk I know that so this usually divorce a few years later

I can never understand telling someone in the same room as you how much you love them, publicly on social media. Just sounds crap and hollow

Chailatteplease · 14/02/2021 14:06

I haven’t posted today but I have posted gushing stuff in the past, I probably did it quite regularly.
My reason? I’ve never had a healthy relationship in my life, they’ve all been abusive. I finally got my shit together, had therapy and did a lot of work on myself to stop attracting the sort of person I had been used to. I’m happy now, I still feel surprised (almost 5 years on) about how easy relationships can be and how lovely it is to actually feel secure and safe and able to trust someone. It was a very big novelty for me and I wanted to get it off my chest a lot. People who know me were happy for me. If they weren’t then I don’t really care, they could use the un-friend button.

So, not always a case of “showing off” or “trying to hide the truth”.

JackieWeaverIsTheAuthority · 14/02/2021 14:06

Seriously? I think that's sweet. I've never done that. However, since my dad passed I do like to give my mum something.. but nothing on social media.

So you’re not the sort of person I’m talking about at all then Hmm

Angrymum22 · 14/02/2021 14:06

*Fab and Feb -FB

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Hahaha88 · 14/02/2021 14:07

@Chailatteplease

YABU. I like seeing happy posts on social media. I think you sound miserable (and every other poster who agrees with you) I also think those of this opinion have shitty relationships and are envious.

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I mean potentially I am miserable, me and the 80% of people who agree with me. But my relationship is great thanks. I just don't need to tell all my social media contacts that for it to be so.
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LadyTiredWinterBottom2 · 14/02/2021 14:07

I don't do it and l don't really care if other people do. It doesn't make me cringe. Couldn't care less really.

So that was a helpful contribution.