Husband's affair partner

[jusstme]

Husband ended affair with AP over the phone, I listened afterwards on call record, call only lasted about 3 minutes, couldn't believe what I heard, three times he said he was sorry, he told her he would miss her and he also told her he didn't want to hurt her, he also told her he wanted to make his marriage work, I sat there flabbergasted. It wasn't what we agreed to tell her, I wanted him to be direct and straight to the point, it's over and there will be no more contact. After listening to it, I just thought WTF! He certainly didn't sound like someone who wanted to save his marriage. Am I right to be upset( that's putting it mildly) about this

Would you want him to tell you if you reversed this OP? or would you be okay with other people knowing your partner has cheated for a decade (!!!) not once thought of ending it.

If it were me, I'd tell him purely out of decency.

Hope you find some therapy OP, sorry to hear about your loss.

I'm sorry you're going through this OP but I think you really need to think about why you're staying with him. Ten years is a long, long time to be having an affair.

Just want to say I am so very sorry to hear about your son. Sending lots of love.

Sorry for what your husband as put you through also.

Hope you have enough support to grieve your beloved boy xxx

Jusstme....I am so sorry, I didn't see all the posts and now realise you've lost your son, just 8 months before you discovered the affair. How devastating for you. Both of you. I can imagine such a huge loss will have put everything and everyone into perspective for your husband. Perhaps your grief is bonding for you and I really hope you find peace and love together. I am so sorry. You really do deserve the very best life can give you now.

Sorry OP, sounds like a horrendous situation to be in.

I personally can't trust someone who has been caught having an affair - it can never be the same as before.

Maybe he was trying to soften the blow to her, but why would he bother if she's had plenty of affairs previously and it was just an 'arrangement' so to speak - why would he have to bother telling her he's sorry etc? Sounds like they are quite 'invested' if he's being soft to her on the phone?

Are you sure there's not even more to this than you already know?

I'm so sorry about your son OP

I saw all their emails they sent each other, and in one of them she told him she liked going with married men and had been doing it for years.

2 years on, how are things? X