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Made to feel guilty as I’ve had the Covid vaccination!

299 replies

DottyDonut · 04/02/2021 18:22

So I have a teen DC (CEV) who was vaccinated against Covid yesterday, I was with him and was offered one too as the clinic had quite a few cancellations apparently. I certainly wasn’t expecting it so was caught on the spot but thought I’d be pretty stupid to turn it down so had it.

I mentioned it to my sister who was quite pissed off saying it wasn’t fair! She has since told her husband and I got a sarcastic message from her SIL this morning asking me if I was proud of myself ‘jumping the queue’ and how did I deserve to be so lucky. No, I’m not lucky to have a DS who’ll never live independently Angry. She not very nice anyway and I know she has been really scared of getting Covid as she’s very overweight but this is really nasty isn’t it?

I didn’t do anything wrong. Would anyone have turned it down in my shoes?

OP posts:
SerenadeOfTheSchoolRun · 04/02/2021 21:38

@JengaJanga

All top 4 groups can book now, regardless if they have the letter or not

Go onto the link and book.

You may need to keep checking back to get an appointment closer to home

@Dogonahottinroof

Wow! thank you. Why is this not more common knowledge? I have sent the link to my Dad.
Colorindex · 04/02/2021 21:38

Seems a shame that something that has been overwhelmingly positive - the atmosphere in the vaccine hubs is absolutely lovely, a mix of relief, efficiency, pride, freedom on the horizon for our older and most vulnerable people- has been made into something negative. Be thankful, be relieved and be proud of your NHS and the people in it who are rolling out such a brilliant programme. And point out to your relatives that they’ll be receiving their vaccine soon, and that the more people we have vaccinated now - regardless of who they are- the safer we all are.

Bellaphant · 04/02/2021 21:38

My mum is cev, got hers this week (thanks to someone on Mumsnet posting the link!) And they said to her that If my dad had been with her they would've just done him anyway: the same happened to one of mum's friends. It seems normal and sensible, sorry op!

paulhollywoodshairgel · 04/02/2021 21:40

Do not feel guilty. There are plenty out there who would have snapped their hands off! I've had mine and as I'm 'only admin' staff for the NHS a friend of mine said I should be ashamed of myself for getting it before others.

mygenericusername · 04/02/2021 21:44

I would have replied with:

Yes, super lucky me.

I took one for the team, in the hope I grow a second head to donate to you as you have clearly got your original one stuck up your arse.

Have a lovely day Biscuit

GeordieGreigsButtButtZoom · 04/02/2021 21:44

@Stovetopespresso

of course you did the right thing op!! I admit i had a 'moment' when someone on a WhatsApp got it due to being a foster carer and put pics up of her certificate and asking the teachers on the group magnanimousy how their tests are going etc, and a family member put hers all over Facebook ... but I admit it...I was just jealous! Envy
Well yeah, so would I be, but to be fair, THAT was an extremely tone deaf thing to do.

Nothing like what happened with OP, though I know you're not making a comparison.

RootyT00t · 04/02/2021 21:45

What an absolute dickhead,
DOn't even think about feeling guilty.

tinkerbellla · 04/02/2021 21:47

@buckeejit

I'd reply saying 'are you proud of being such a spiteful bitch?'

Ignore her & great that you got the jab. The more the merrier & im delighted to hear of anyone getting it.

This sums it up nicely! Honestly, wtf is wrong with some people?! They should be pleased for you ffs.
IdblowJonSnow · 04/02/2021 21:48

People are nobs aren't they.

Yummymummy2020 · 04/02/2021 21:51

Sure it would be way worse if it went in the bin! Jealously at its finest if you ask me. It’s great you got it, bit less worry for you. Don’t mind them.

pinkprosseco · 04/02/2021 21:58

Good for you. It makes perfect sense. Stay safe

CantSayJack · 04/02/2021 22:02

The only mistake you made is telling them.
Tell the SIL to get lost, really none of their business.
What is wrong with ppl?

Scoobydoobywho · 04/02/2021 22:03

Can she honestly say hand on heart that she would have turned it down given the opportunity. I very much doubt it.

itsgoodtobehome · 04/02/2021 22:09

I have a sister a bit the same. Both DH and I have had the vaccine as we both volunteered at a vaccine hub, and were offered the 'leftovers' from no shows. My sister is green with envy, as for once in her life, she can't pay to jump the queue (which is what she usually does!!)

MrsR87 · 04/02/2021 22:14

Far better for it to go to ANYONE than for it to go to waste! You did absolutely nothing wrong! Any sensible person would have done the same thing if they were in the same position. If this was anyone in my family or a friend I’d be really happy for them, one less person I care about who is at a big lager risk!

ChasingRainbows19 · 04/02/2021 22:23

You were there, they had vaccines. You care for a vulnerable person. The more vaccinated the better in my eyes. Ignore.

PenfoldPenny · 04/02/2021 22:52

You are a vital carer for a young person who badly needs you. No need to feel guilty at all. x

screamingchild · 04/02/2021 22:57

You absolutely did the right thing!!! The vaccination would have been wasted otherwise.

Jux · 04/02/2021 23:08

[quote DenisetheMenace]@Jux

"I have heard (can't prove it) that in one of the clinics near us, the volunteers are given the spare doses at the end of the day. I'm not sure whether that's because the vaccine they have won't 'keep' overnight, or what. If it's that they don't keep then it's fair enough."

And the problem is?

I’m surprised all those working day in day out to vaccinate others aren’t being vaccinated as policy anyway.[/quote]
No, I meant that the volunteers could take the spare doses home and vaccinate their friends. Allegedly.

TBH, I don't begrudge it. They're volunteers and, frankly, I think they deserve whatever perks they get.

I posted about it so the OP might feel a bit less rubbish or unsure about getting vaccinated early. There are others with less need than her who would be getting vaccinated early if what I've heard is true.

ozymandiusking · 04/02/2021 23:55

Every person who is vaccinated is one less towards being ill from Covid or dying. The more people who are vaccinated the better,
I think anyone who is a carer or an escort of a person going to be vaccinated, is offered the vaccine. They are not going to miss a chance
of vaccinating anyone, especially the carer of a vulnerable child.

Colorindex · 05/02/2021 00:29

‘No, I meant that the volunteers could take the spare doses home and vaccinate their friends. Allegedly.’

No. Just no! The ‘spare’ vaccines are doses already drawn up in syringes by clinical
Staff ready to be administered. Those vaccines do not leave the building.
By the end of the clinic - ie the very end of when recipients are booked in - the doctor in charge of the vaccine centre/hub has checked and double and triple checked who is expected to come in during that last hour or so versus the vac available and prepared.
Anything left over is either offered to people who have come In or to unvaccinated staff or volunteers in the centre/ hub. So far in our hubs there are less unallocated vaccinations than staff/ volunteers/ other people. So most of the non-clinical staff and almost all of the volunteers are unvaccinated.
No-one is taking these preschools doses home. We are vaccinating on priority of age, and then clinical need.

MixedUpFiles · 05/02/2021 00:34

Not a single vial should be wasted. I don’t care if they start running down the street and offering it to people. If there are leftover vials, they need to find recipients.

lioncitygirl · 05/02/2021 00:43

Absolutely not. I know friends who have got theirs wary by virtue of taking their parents/vulnerable children to her jabs etc. But only spare ones.

Colorindex · 05/02/2021 00:44

@MixedUpFiles nothing is wasted, don’t worry, not one dose

Lovely1a2b3c · 05/02/2021 00:50

So they are straightforwardly jealous of you and haven't learnt how to contain feelings like that now that they're all grown up? Just don't spend a second thinking about it- it sounds like you have plenty of real things to cope with.

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