Does height matter to you? Short love interest

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So I'm seeing this guy who says he is 5ft8 and I'm 5ft 7. He's not, he's like a few inches shorter than me. Aibu for letting this out me off a bit/alot? I feel like a giant when we cuddle and like over powering idk. I only ever where healed shoes boots etc and love a nice pair of strappy heels I literally do not own one pair of flat shoes. The guy is really nice but my head can't seem to get over that I feel a bit uncomfortable that he's shorter than me. Help?

I was expecting you to be short

@Chanjer

I was expecting you to be short

Well I’m no giant, and I would appear to be short enough to generally be considered “on the short side” by men and women. Perhaps because I’m slim built too I look “smaller” next to bigger blokes.

I’m definitely below the dating cut off (not done online dating for years though)

@JackieweaverhasALLtheauthority
it would be really interesting to post a thread like this on a male based forum asking men if they would go out with women taller than them.

my experience is no they won't

Yes i would love to

Maybe it does bother me more than I thought

@JackieweaverhasALLtheauthority can my badge have an angry face on the little stick man please?

do you have a partner Bill? I know you said you had a son?

DH is only 1 inch taller than me, only an issue when I where heels then I try not to stand next to him. I don’t wear heels much though.

@JustAnotherOldMan how tall are you?

@JackieweaverhasALLtheauthority

do you have a partner Bill? I know you said you had a son?

Divorced from my kids mum, (5’4”) and yes have a gf (5’6”). Same size feet too which is handy (I mean, I borrow converse not heels)

i bet you do borrow heels

@BillMasen Are you my husband?? People comment to me that he looks young (because he’s slim and 5ft7), workmen ask for the man of the house. He’s 40 with grey hair and a stubble beard!

Why do people think it’s ok to say then, I have friends whose husbands look old and are overweight, imagine if I commented yet it’s ok for them 🤔

@JackieweaverhasALLtheauthority

it would be really interesting to post a thread like this on a male based forum asking men if they would go out with women taller than them.

my experience is no they won't

Unless it's Lady Dimitrescu from what I understand from various articles😂

[quote Aiaiaicorona]@BillMasen Are you my husband?? People comment to me that he looks young (because he’s slim and 5ft7), workmen ask for the man of the house. He’s 40 with grey hair and a stubble beard!

Why do people think it’s ok to say then, I have friends whose husbands look old and are overweight, imagine if I commented yet it’s ok for them 🤔[/quote]
Well you would be famous and have a thread about yourself on MN!
Obviously that comment was because:
-you are jealous of her having prince perfect
-you are jealous of her and want to take her down a notch
-you are jealous of their great relationship
-you secretly fancy him
-you are shagging him and trying to hide it with comments like this

[quote Aiaiaicorona]@BillMasen Are you my husband?? People comment to me that he looks young (because he’s slim and 5ft7), workmen ask for the man of the house. He’s 40 with grey hair and a stubble beard!

Why do people think it’s ok to say then, I have friends whose husbands look old and are overweight, imagine if I commented yet it’s ok for them 🤔[/quote]
40 was a distant memory and 5’7” is but a dream.

I mean, I’m broadly ok with it all and yeah whilst it’s a bit rubbish I’m robust so make height jokes at my own expense sometimes.

I do know others really feel hurt sometimes, so feel for them and worry for my son (maybe outing but he has cf so struggles with weight/growth anyway)

Unless it's Lady Dimitrescu from what I understand from various articles😂

just had to google this.
Maybe this my future-i could become a lookelikey

@JackieweaverhasALLtheauthority

Unless it's Lady Dimitrescu from what I understand from various articles😂

just had to google this.
Maybe this my future-i could become a lookelikey

😂 You got some growing to do then

shove on my heels and a big hat....

[quote BillMasen]@TheViewFromDownHere hi mate. I can sympathise with the jokes and responses, and understand the temptation to lie at first. I never did (but I do appreciate I’m not as short) and I feel honesty up front was vital. Not condemning you though.

Your stick man/woman badge is in the post 😀[/quote]
Oh 100%. I always started out with my real height on my profile.

But after sending out hundreds of messages over several years and getting absolutely 0 replies other than "too short" - That's when I started fabricating my height.

I'd always divulge my true height after 3 or 4 messages back and forth - it was just to see if there was any sort of connection without my height being a factor.

Realistically, by that point it was more of a passing time / proving my point exercise.

@JackieweaverhasALLtheauthority

I’m 6ft, and take size 9 if helps.

Dating someone as tall or taller would be awesome, I wouldn’t have to stoop so much, could walk at my normal speed, and even better she could reach the stuff on top shelf in the garage, even that’s a stretch for me, result !

@TheViewFromDownHere

I hope you don't mind me doing this but have you seen this website?
www.shortersingles.co.uk/?gclid=EAIaIQobChMIr8vM1rvT7gIVG-vtCh0sUQWFEAAYASAAEgKC6PD_BwE

maybe worth a look?

I'm 5'8" and I wouldn't like it but I like to wear heels on a night out

[quote JackieweaverhasALLtheauthority]@TheViewFromDownHere

I hope you don't mind me doing this but have you seen this website?
www.shortersingles.co.uk/?gclid=EAIaIQobChMIr8vM1rvT7gIVG-vtCh0sUQWFEAAYASAAEgKC6PD_BwE

maybe worth a look?[/quote]
Thanks, don't mind at all.

Admittedly the more "niche" dating sites like this are more recent than my previous forays into that world.

I'd just given up and figured it's obviously not for me - The old saying of "Keep doing the same thing and expecting different a different result!"

Maybe it's time to dust off the horse again...

5'6 isn't terribly short (it's my height too).

But I wonder if actually it's smallness generally that is more important.

I do get a lot of remarks (for example, a female work colleague greets me reach morning with "hello my little friend". Tbh, very few of them have ever been hostile. Men generally don't comment. Women make jokes.

Actually I have the body of a Greek athlete. Just a rather small one.

Tbh, there are some advantages. I'm good at dealing with confrontational situations for example, because I'm physically so unimposing.

I’m around 5’10’’ & my partner is slightly shorter than me. It doesn’t bother me now even though I thought it would. What did annoy me when dating was when friends of mine who were significantly shorter than me said they would only date men that were 6 feet tall!

@Bluekangaroo123

I’m around 5’10’’ & my partner is slightly shorter than me. It doesn’t bother me now even though I thought it would. What did annoy me when dating was when friends of mine who were significantly shorter than me said they would only date men that were 6 feet tall!

That's what I often think with the earlier the debate, about people not dating certain races being the same problem.

In my opinion, I don't think it is as there will still be lots of other people who will date other races AND there will be other people of that same race who will date within their race. So plenty of chances remain on the table for that person.

But in the case of us shorties - even the short ladies still go after the taller guys - So we don't even get a look in there!

@TheViewFromDownHere, yes exactly! That’s why it rankled. And I was happy to compromise, partly because I’m on the tall side (& it’s not a major biggie) whereas one of my really petite friends was really rigid that any future boyfriend should be 6 foot! Saying that we were both dating at the same time, she was 25 & I was 35 & she had a lot more options!