Who does this gift belong to?

[BabyofMine]

A group of work friends buy a gift for another work friend.

One work friend (not me so as not to drip feed!) organises it, collects the money, orders the item and is going to deliver it to the work friend.

Because of some mess up with the company, the company send the organiser a nearly duplicate item worth basically the same, as an apology for messing them around so much etc.

Whose is second duplicate gift from the company?

YABU= belongs to the organiser
YANBU= belongs to the person the original gift was meant for

(The YABU/NBU choices were random btw - I genuinely don’t have an opinion either way, I am one of the “contributors”)

"alot more hassle" "having to chase things up" "loads of emails" "had to stay in" DOES NOT equate to "writing a few emails". If you can't see that, I give up!

Had to stay in twice for delivery ... but was in anyway coz of lockdown ... yep definitely a hassle 🙄

@Whattodo1610

It's not up to you to decide what compensation is acceptable. The company decided that. They obviously felt that their screw up with the order caused the organiser to email/call enough times that they wanted to apologise for wasting her time. It was a gift from them to her, to say sorry.
It doesnt involve anyone else. It doesnt belong to anyone else. No one else in the group has a right to it. If they think they do, then they are showing themselves up as very selfish people. If you think they somehow deserve part of someone else's apology gift, then you are showing yourself up as selfish and yes, ridiculous.

@Whattodo1610

And your example about the refund is entirely different.
If the company failed to delivery the product and issued a refund then of course that money goes back to the people who gave it, or could be used to buy another agreed upon gift. Because that money was group money.

The apology from the company was no a refund. The item was delivered; the member of staff got their present, everyone got their monies worth.

The compensation was purely for the hassle the organiser went through. It isnt a refund. It has nothing to do with anyone else. They all go what they paid for, without having to do any running around to sort it. The company have made a separate transaction with the organiser to apologise to her, personally.

No refunds were issued, both refunds were needed. No one else needs their money back or any type of compensation because they have not lost any of their personal time to be compensated for.

• no not both

weno ... please read my posts - at no point have I expressed what compensation is acceptable or otherwise 😂😂

You’ve also misread/misunderstood my post of an example scenario.

I can't believe this thread is still going. I can't believe it was a question in the first place. And I seriously can't believe people are still saying anything other than its the organisers!

Bonkers.

Organiser

@SurvivalIsInsufficient

I can't believe this thread is still going. I can't believe it was a question in the first place. And I seriously can't believe people are still saying anything other than its the organisers!

Bonkers.

I really wish there was a like button here.

Whenever I come back to the thread I’m reminded of this quote by Dawkins. “...when two opposite points of view are expressed with equal intensity, the truth does not necessarily lie exactly halfway between them. It is possible for one side to be simply wrong.”

Sometimes opinion is irrelevant there is simply a wrong and a right answer. No matter how much someone really thinks it it’s not an equally valid opinion that should be given the same credibility.

@Whattodo1610

I’m genuinely shocked at the amount saying the organiser. Depends what the gift was - we need to know OP 😉 I’d say it belongs to the group - everyone put money in, present that was messed up affected everyone who gave money. Personally, I’d stick it up for sale on FB and either buy cakes for everyone or split money.

So the organiser now has the additional hassle of trying to sell it on Facebook and probably deal with a load of time wasters and people haggling over the price. Assuming they sell it, they then have to spend £100 on cakes, taking into account everyone’s special diets, or the fact people will still be moaning because they don’t want cakes. When the easiest and most gracious thing for the team to do, would be to acknowledge the organiser was inconvenienced and it’s compensation for her trouble. Anyone that suggests anything else should have the bother of selling it and splitting proceeds to everyone’s satisfaction , you’ll quickly find they’re happy for the organiser to receive.

Yeh ok koala ... coz life is all black and white after all ...

nocar .. the organiser doesn’t have to be the one who sells and deals with it.

I suspect no one will want the bother of selling something on Facebook in exchange for a nice cake, or a tenner. So perhaps best to just let the organiser keep it.

I’m guessing hotel chocolat velvetiser

If it's like, a posh coffee maker or something, can it go into the office and be shared? When you are back in the office obviously? I agree that it belongs to the organiser but for the sake of not falling out, just an alternative. Otherwise names in a hat or donate to charity x

Organiser should get the gift.
It's the worst job sorting stuff like this, collect money, chase for outstanding money, order gift wait in for guft, wrap gift, get card chase around for signatures on card . Organiser always tends to be the same person & they normally end up paying for cards & gift wrap out of own pocket.

Sounds like it will be a good intervention by you OP. I agree with the majority, the organiser should get it....the exception being if I was the organiser in which case I would feel super guilty especially if other people were making me feel guilty. A good friend like you being sensible on my behalf would help!

The company chose to send the gift to the organiser for the hassle they had put them through. The recipient is very clear.