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Who does this gift belong to?

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BabyofMine · 02/02/2021 12:10

A group of work friends buy a gift for another work friend.

One work friend (not me so as not to drip feed!) organises it, collects the money, orders the item and is going to deliver it to the work friend.

Because of some mess up with the company, the company send the organiser a nearly duplicate item worth basically the same, as an apology for messing them around so much etc.

Whose is second duplicate gift from the company?

YABU= belongs to the organiser
YANBU= belongs to the person the original gift was meant for

(The YABU/NBU choices were random btw - I genuinely don’t have an opinion either way, I am one of the “contributors”)

OP posts:
AliceinBunniland · 03/02/2021 17:39

How is it fair to put names in a hat when only one person was messed around in organising the gift

KatharinaRosalie · 03/02/2021 17:42

It was compensation. Specifically for the person who was messed around. It's not a group gift or promotional material for the entire company.

girlofnow · 03/02/2021 17:43

If it's an apology for the hassle the person who experienced the hassle should have it - so the organiser.

shyposter · 03/02/2021 17:44

To be honest the organiser didn’t even need to tell anybody about the freebie and it was clearly intended to offset the hassle she’s had so I don’t think there should be any quibbling about whose it it. It’s hers.

csigeek · 03/02/2021 17:47

If the organiser had to do lots of chasing/ringing etc to sort the original gift out then because they bore the burden of that I’d say they get the duplicate.
If not then the group who paid for the gift as they all contributed

caringcarer · 03/02/2021 17:49

Keep gift until someone else has a birthday.

WeeDangerousSpike · 03/02/2021 17:51

I don't understand why anyone would think it should go to anyone but the organiser?! It was specifically for the organiser from the company, so it's theirs. If it was a bunch of flowers or a bottle of wine instead of whatever it is then no one would be expecting them to give it away, surely? It's theirs, and if they don't want it they can sell it or give it to their great aunt mabel. Because it's theirs. Confused

Sarahrellyboo1987 · 03/02/2021 17:55

Can’t imagine being petty enough to care TBH

Although, I’d say the organiser can keep it.

Plunger · 03/02/2021 18:24

Have a raffle at Easter. Maybe £1 a ticket and donate any money collected to a local charity. Doesn't belong to one individual.

cakewench · 03/02/2021 18:29

I'm glad to hear the update. I wouldn't begrudge the organiser keeping it at all. It's always a faff being the organiser (hence why everyone is always pleased that someone else is doing it!) and if the company is offering compensation, it's because they've messed up delivery etc and that person has had to chase it down.

godmum56 · 03/02/2021 19:14

if a group paid for it and its not going to the person it was bought for then it belongs to the group.

Wenolikeexplodeythings · 03/02/2021 19:18

@godmum56

The group didnt pay for it. It was a gift from the company to the woman who did the organising because they messed it up and caused her to spend her time sorting it out. They apologised to her with a gift.

Did the group get messed around? No.
Did the group need to spend any of their time emailing or calling the company to sort it out? No.

It belongs to the organiser because it was a gift from the company to her, to apologise for messing her around.

Ddot · 03/02/2021 19:18

Raffle it off and buy the organizer some flowers with the cash 🥳everyone happy

thebestnamehere · 03/02/2021 19:21

Honestly, why did she even say anything?

Why can't the next birthday girl have it???

MissMarpleDarling · 03/02/2021 19:24

Belongs to the organiser

Cheator · 03/02/2021 19:42

I agree it clearly belongs to the organiser.

Passenger42 · 03/02/2021 21:14

If it’s an issue then sell item on Facebook marketplace and spilt the profits. Then everyone benefits from a discount.

ElleMac44 · 03/02/2021 21:14

Sell it and buy some cakes or something to share out^

Ddot · 04/02/2021 05:58

Oh ok to save arguments I'll have it 🤣

gracelessladyhottramp · 04/02/2021 06:14

@BabyofMine

To answer: worth about £100, organiser would like it, I’m not personally bothered as not something I’d like, and yes it was a lot more hassle for the organiser, having to chase things up, write loads of emails, normally I’d say they had to stay in twice when it was supposed to be delivered and wasn’t but I guess they would have been in at the moment anyway - still an annoyance/stress for them though.
Absolutely the organiser!!!
Porridgeoat · 04/02/2021 06:17

If it can be split then it should be. If it couldn’t be split then the organiser should have it.

Porridgeoat · 04/02/2021 06:20

The nice thing would be for the group to be asked who would like part of the item? The organiser will most likely find that some will and some won’t part of the item and can share equally between less people rather then more.

lionpaws · 04/02/2021 06:22

I think the organiser should get it. What is the gift?!

Porridgeoat · 04/02/2021 06:22

However if the organising took a lot of effort I would have no hard feelings about the organiser keeping the item

KatharinaRosalie · 04/02/2021 06:23

It was a compensation for the hassle the organiser had. It was not a discount or buy one get one free. Do you regularly raffle and share your personal gifts and bonuses?